: TER General Board Discussion : Contradictory

captjsparrow 1897 reads

posted 13 years ago

1 / 27

My work took me to another city and turned out to be a regular commute (via air). I made contact through a TER search with a well reviewed, very attractive low volume provider ( who had a day job) and became a regular, seeing her at least once a week when in town over the course of several months, including several multi hour dinner dates and one overnighter, which included dinner and theater tickets. I enjoyed her company and she seemed to enjoy mine. The lovemaking was great! Except for the envelope left on the bathroom vanity, it felt more like a "friends with benefits" situation than a provider/client situation.

The last time I saw her, I booked a two hour date and she arrived at my hotel on time. We disrobed each other and got into bed. She looked unwell and when I asked if she was OK, she said she had recently eaten some scallops at a seafood chain restaurant and thought she had food poisoning. I got up to get her some ginger ale and ice, which she sipped and then announced she was going to throw up. I helped her into the bathroom and held her hair back while she threw up multiple times into the toilet over the course of an hour. When she was done and feeling a bit better, she took a shower and got dressed. Nothing remotely sexual took place between us whatsoever. Understandably, she said she would like to go home to rest and left.

I went into the bathroom to pee and noticed the envelope that had been on the vanity was gone!

The next day, I called her to see how she was feeling and to inquire about the envelope and all I got was her voicemail. I left a voice message, which was not returned. When I finally did reach her a week later and asked about the envelope, she apologized and said her car payment was overdue and she simply needed the money. She apologized again and said next time, there would be no charge for a multi hour date. However, my project in that city is completed and I don't expect to return any time soon.

I normally do not write reviews, but was thinking of writing this one up because quite frankly, she stole from me! Should I "chalk it up to experience" or write it up? Prior to this event, I had nothing but good experiences with her and genuinely enjoyed her company. Based on our relatively long association, if she had simply asked, I would have given her the car payment with no strings attached.

Besides not eating shellfish in chain restaurants, is there a moral to this story

keystonekid 114 Reviews 654 reads

posted 13 years ago

2 / 27

Wow, this one is not easy. On first reading, I'm thinking . . .

you got ripped off. However, the date began (disrobed each other and got into bed) and just because it didn't end the way you hoped due to her illness, a session did take place.

If I were you I would be disappointed as well. But, how many times did you enjoy her company with some bonus time thrown in here and there? Maybe you should just chalk it up to a not-so-fond farewell to her city.

Lastly, it might be worth a mention on the regional board for that area by giving a heads up and then the link to this thread.

Dr Who revived 515 reads

posted 13 years ago

3 / 27

Is she a pirate too? LOL

She should be.

Considering how often you saw her...and I'm guessing you paid for the privilege of watching her eat and sleep..why the hell would you leave an envelope out? Pay her when the session is over...and shit like this wouldn't be an issue.

Post this story on your regional board and let those interested in knowing who the thief is to PM you...or if you feel like being in a shit storm out her name there (or here if you'd like LOL).

Oh...and I suspect the hooker has a different story. Just like any good pirate would

Panthera12 480 reads

posted 13 years ago

4 / 27

Love making? You were making love to her

while all along she was making love to your envelope. Yes, you were ripped off, but I am sure a couple of idiots will come out and say you were paying for her time.

Why don't you just tell her to refund it?

I doubt that you will write the review even if several hobbyists suggest that you do so.

Back_In_Black 354 reads

posted 13 years ago

5 / 27

hooker school aint producing to many scholars these days !

Between her and bill gates step daughter below , this is getting interesting ! LOL .

Posted By: captjsparrow

My work took me to another city and turned out to be a regular commute (via air). I made contact through a TER search with a well reviewed, very attractive low volume provider ( who had a day job) and became a regular, seeing her at least once a week when in town over the course of several months, including several multi hour dinner dates and one overnighter, which included dinner and theater tickets. I enjoyed her company and she seemed to enjoy mine. The lovemaking was great! Except for the envelope left on the bathroom vanity, it felt more like a "friends with benefits" situation than a provider/client situation.

The last time I saw her, I booked a two hour date and she arrived at my hotel on time. We disrobed each other and got into bed. She looked unwell and when I asked if she was OK, she said she had recently eaten some scallops at a seafood chain restaurant and thought she had food poisoning. I got up to get her some ginger ale and ice, which she sipped and then announced she was going to throw up. I helped her into the bathroom and held her hair back while she threw up multiple times into the toilet over the course of an hour. When she was done and feeling a bit better, she took a shower and got dressed. Nothing remotely sexual took place between us whatsoever. Understandably, she said she would like to go home to rest and left.

I went into the bathroom to pee and noticed the envelope that had been on the vanity was gone!

The next day, I called her to see how she was feeling and to inquire about the envelope and all I got was her voicemail. I left a voice message, which was not returned. When I finally did reach her a week later and asked about the envelope, she apologized and said her car payment was overdue and she simply needed the money. She apologized again and said next time, there would be no charge for a multi hour date. However, my project in that city is completed and I don't expect to return any time soon.

I normally do not write reviews, but was thinking of writing this one up because quite frankly, she stole from me! Should I "chalk it up to experience" or write it up? Prior to this event, I had nothing but good experiences with her and genuinely enjoyed her company. Based on our relatively long association, if she had simply asked, I would have given her the car payment with no strings attached.

Besides not eating shellfish in chain restaurants, is there a moral to this story?

Panthera12 596 reads

posted 13 years ago

6 / 27

Your glass runneth over and spillith down your leg

He was ripped off. How was that not easy to figure out? So she should be paid because they had enjoyed company in the past? She should get paid because she stripped?

If she was a professional, she would not have run off with the envelope. She would have apologized and left it there.

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Thoracicsurgeon 462 reads

posted 13 years ago

7 / 27

That is a shame, and you should do whatever feels right. But don't do it when you are still angry

Sounds like you really enjoyed spending time with her. If you write a bad review or call her a rip off, then it will probably do her a lot of harm. If that is what you want, then write it. But you should give her a chance to make it right first. And you definitely shouldn't write when you are still feeling angry about it. Dude, you were going to spend that money that night anyway. She was really vomiting, so it isn't like she made up some Bs story to separate you from cash. Sure your right hand wasn't as much fun as she would be, but it's not like you have lost an investment.

ROGM 447 reads

posted 13 years ago

8 / 27

A Lesson Learned The Hard Way.

Sorry this happened to you. Even with a Trusted Long Time Provider, you always have to watch out. You'll just have to chalk this one as Experience. I Adore my current Provider. She's so Sweet and I enjoy our Sessions. I even take her to Dinner afterwards. Even with her, I always watch my Money. The Girls in this Business are in it for the Money. Any chance they get to get your Money, they will. Find yourself another Provider. Don't call this one ever again. Even if she calls you. This Incident has put a Riff between you and her.

PhilAnderz 22 Reviews 540 reads

posted 13 years ago

9 / 27

The Moral of the Story …

Yes, there is a moral here, requiring no understanding of brain surgery, rocket science, or —for all you young pirates out there— celestial navigation.

This was, simply said, a rip-off, somewhat theatrically done. Write it up. There is a "rip-off" category.

That said, and technically speaking, in view of the classic "donation is for my time only" disclaimer, your friend with benefits may simply have been applying the rule.

And that said, thanks for the cautionary tale, but write the d@mn review.

ATLDAWG 574 reads

posted 13 years ago

10 / 27

Re: The Moral of the Story …

Consider yourself fortunate-as I was reading this I thought: "Uh Oh--She's Pregnant and you are the prime suspect"! Be thankful you lost some money-you didn't get shot-you just got robbed-and you were not confirmed as the sperm donar of record !!!

inicky46 61 Reviews 465 reads

posted 13 years ago

11 / 27

The RCS (Random Capitalization Syndrome) Strikes Again!

Or did it??? OK, here are the words ROG capitalized in a seemingly random way in this post:
Trusted
Long
Time
Provider
Experience
Adore
Provider
Sweet
Sessions
Dinner
Money
Girls
Business
Money
Money
Find
Provider
Incident
Riff
OK, I am starting to think this is some kind of secret code. Can any of you cryptologists out there crack it? Rasha?? Anyone??? Beuhler???? Beuhler????

inicky46 61 Reviews 447 reads

posted 13 years ago

12 / 27

Phil, you little cynic!

Yes, he didn't get what he paid for. But "a rip-off, somewhat theatrically done?" Really?? You mean, rather than fuck for her money she puked for it? That only makes sense if you think she enjoys serially vomiting more than fucking this guy. I mean, let's stipulate he's not the World's Greatest Lover, but please. Unless she's got a vomit fetish your scenario is really, well, goofy. LOL!

GaGambler 434 reads

posted 13 years ago

13 / 27

Who are you and what did you do with your creepy twin?

This is undoubtably the sanest, least creepy post you have ever made here. Even though you still have "random capitalization" issues.

I do disagree about cutting off all contact with this lady, I wouldn't ever leave money lying around in her presence again, but I would give her a chance to make amends.

Cosette 471 reads

posted 13 years ago

14 / 27

Contradictory

"Based on our relatively long association, if she had simply asked, I would have given her the car payment with no strings attached."

It seems if this were the case, then you wouldn't be on this board, as she already told you that she did need it (albeit after the fact but she is telling you she needed it), and that next time would be free of charge, but you just happen to not be returning to that city.

If it bothers you that much, ask her for it, go to her and ask her for it before posting bad stuff about her. There is a clear difference in Rip-Offs and what happened to you, the former is outright deceiving you. Those stories involve girls who never had the intention of following through with giving you a good time

A_New_Invention 4 Reviews 412 reads

posted 13 years ago

15 / 27

Relax. No scam here.

1. She probably picked up the money when she first got there, before she felt sick. She probably fully intended to go through with the session when she picked that money up.

2. Maybe getting naked and into bed with you put her over the edge. If I had a rumbly tummy, then definitely sucking a dick would not help.

3. You got a REAL girlfriend experience!

4. You said yourself that you would have given her the money anyway.

5. Convince her to tour.

Posted By: captjsparrow

My work took me to another city and turned out to be a regular commute (via air). I made contact through a TER search with a well reviewed, very attractive low volume provider ( who had a day job) and became a regular, seeing her at least once a week when in town over the course of several months, including several multi hour dinner dates and one overnighter, which included dinner and theater tickets. I enjoyed her company and she seemed to enjoy mine. The lovemaking was great! Except for the envelope left on the bathroom vanity, it felt more like a "friends with benefits" situation than a provider/client situation.

The last time I saw her, I booked a two hour date and she arrived at my hotel on time. We disrobed each other and got into bed. She looked unwell and when I asked if she was OK, she said she had recently eaten some scallops at a seafood chain restaurant and thought she had food poisoning. I got up to get her some ginger ale and ice, which she sipped and then announced she was going to throw up. I helped her into the bathroom and held her hair back while she threw up multiple times into the toilet over the course of an hour. When she was done and feeling a bit better, she took a shower and got dressed. Nothing remotely sexual took place between us whatsoever. Understandably, she said she would like to go home to rest and left.

I went into the bathroom to pee and noticed the envelope that had been on the vanity was gone!

The next day, I called her to see how she was feeling and to inquire about the envelope and all I got was her voicemail. I left a voice message, which was not returned. When I finally did reach her a week later and asked about the envelope, she apologized and said her car payment was overdue and she simply needed the money. She apologized again and said next time, there would be no charge for a multi hour date. However, my project in that city is completed and I don't expect to return any time soon.

I normally do not write reviews, but was thinking of writing this one up because quite frankly, she stole from me! Should I "chalk it up to experience" or write it up? Prior to this event, I had nothing but good experiences with her and genuinely enjoyed her company. Based on our relatively long association, if she had simply asked, I would have given her the car payment with no strings attached.

Besides not eating shellfish in chain restaurants, is there a moral to this story?

windstorm0482 10 Reviews 440 reads

posted 13 years ago

16 / 27

Re: The RCS (Random Capitalization Syndrome) Strikes Again!

I found it funny too... Seems like he is capitalizing words that he wanted to stress in his post. Not sure though lol

Posted By: inicky46

Or did it??? OK, here are the words ROG capitalized in a seemingly random way in this post:
Trusted
Long
Time
Provider
Experience
Adore
Provider
Sweet
Sessions
Dinner
Money
Girls
Business
Money
Money
Find
Provider
Incident
Riff
OK, I am starting to think this is some kind of secret code. Can any of you cryptologists out there crack it? Rasha?? Anyone??? Beuhler???? Beuhler????

Panthera12 483 reads

posted 13 years ago

17 / 27

A "real" girlfriend experience

Definitely so or too much so.

londonheather 527 reads

posted 13 years ago

18 / 27

Confused

I'm confused I don't understand your post..................was it you saw a person great at her job and so you thought she loved you and shouldn't charge you is that the moral of this confusing tale....if so I think you need to rethink your life somehow, if not I apologise I got it wrong I just don't get your post.

captjsparrow 334 reads

posted 13 years ago

19 / 27

Re: Confused

Sorry, Londonheather, but youou missed the point. I had established an intimate business relationship with her that was quite straight forward and (at least for me), enjoyable. I always treated her with respect and consideration. She held a responsible, well paying job during her daytime hours. I paid her a nice chunk of change for a service that, due to circumstances that were obviously beyond her control, she couldn't deliver. Despite being unable to engage in the services she had contracted for, she surreptitiously took the money anyway and left.

Please do not confuse enjoying a working girl's company over a period of time with "love". If I feel the need to "fall in love", I won't be looking for a provider to fill that role. This was simply being out of town for extended periods and wanting an attractive woman to spend time with, take to dinner and have sex with. I paid for that service and on the final encounter, she took the money and ran without providing the service.

Could I have found a civvy to spend time with when in town? Probably. But I didn't want the entanglement, phone calls, texts and whatever that went with a civvy relationship. And for the most part, I wanted her to go home at the end of the evening so I could shower, get in bed and read my e-book in peace afterwards.

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skarphedin 380 reads

posted 13 years ago

20 / 27

I think the guy who lived in Val Kilmer's closet is working on this? -e-

END OF MESSAGE

harborview 10 Reviews 374 reads

posted 13 years ago

21 / 27

Have some class

OK, you had a lot of great times with her. She set aside time for you & unfortunately she got sick. She still needed the money. She probably picked the donation up when she arrived. (Just a note, after the first date, I leave the donation on her dresser when I redress AFTER. No one has ever questioned me on it.)
It's unfortunate that she got ill on your very last visit to town SO YOU CAN NOT COLLECT the appointment you are owed & she promised. You could go back to collect but you choose not to. While I'd be stung too... I'd not write a review based on this last meeting. She did not plan on being sick.

Have a little class & figure this evens out all the free time you got.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 415 reads

posted 13 years ago

22 / 27

She obviously didn't intend for it to go this way,

but for her to call herself a professional, she should send that money back to you.

If you were both in the same city, then the see me next time for free would make more sense.

I couldn't blame you for letting others know that she is not playing by the rules

I hope she sees this thread and reconsiders.

BrandyMichelle See my TER Reviews 380 reads

posted 13 years ago

23 / 27

She knew she was ill....

before she arrived and had to intentions on staying..The timing was just right for her behind car payment.

Are you going back to the City for a make up session?

captjsparrow 426 reads

posted 13 years ago

24 / 27

Re: She knew she was ill....

Nope. I'm done with her. I'm certainly not going to pay for an airline ticket to spend an evening with someone who proved they cannot be trusted.

And to make matters worse, the room smelled so badly of her barf after she left that when housekeeping came up to clean the toilet and the area around it, they simply moved me to a new room.

It was obvious that she took the envelope after her shower, as it was still on the vanity during her upchuck episode.

If she had simply said "I was counting on the money from this date to make my car payment" before she left, I simply would have given it to her. The surreptitious taking without asking is what made me angry. Believe me, it was no fun taking care of her and trying to comfort her when she was blowing chunks, but I was a gentleman and held her hair, rubbed her back and said comforting things when she was being sick. I have no doubt she truly had food poisoning.

Cosette 452 reads

posted 13 years ago

25 / 27

Oh god stop with the sob story

Email her or text her or call her and tell her you'll expose her if she doesn't return the money. Then see what she says. Stop being a child and be an adult. One sentence you want to sound nice and with the next you contradict yourself.

If you believe she stole then deal with it without trying to convince other people because you obviously see conflicting views.

This is actually similar to something that happened to me last Friday, and THAT guy was a true gentleman. I'm going to go write about that night now. Thanks for giving me the unintended push.

captjsparrow 428 reads

posted 13 years ago

26 / 27

Re: Oh god stop with the sob story

I really don't care about the money, Cosette. It was an honesty (or dishonesty) issue. I didn't like being "taken". And having had the opportunity to vent on this forum, I'm over it.

What experience last Friday night are you referring to

Cosette 497 reads

posted 13 years ago

27 / 27

Re: Oh god stop with the sob story

I'm sorry if I seemed curt, it just seems like hot and cold, you seem to like her and believe her and then later you're really angry, but then again only you know the relationship you had, so for that I'm sorry.

My story is similar and different, it's similar in that I got sick on Friday, very very sick. I see someone every Friday, one of the nicest people I've ever met and it's been going on for about 4 weeks. He's divorced so he has time flexibility for long dates. We went out and in catching up he had gotten a huge promotion and as for me it had been a tough week because my mother's death anniversary had happened. Anyway, I kept ordering margaritas, and they kept coming - and NO FOOD. Needless to say, at 5', even with a slightly above average tolerance, 5 strong ones and a shot knocked me out. We went back to my place, and all I did was puke. Very sexy I know.

The next day I wake up and there's the agreed upon amount on my nightstand, and a text from him asking me if I was ok. I was floored. He certainly didn't have to, in fact, I wouldn't have expected him to - nothing sexual happened. You can bet I will be making this up to him because I encouraged us to drink way too much.

You're in a tough spot because technically you can't have it be made up, and if she does this as her only income, she may not be able to return it, even if she wanted to, so it's tough, but you said you saw her many times, maybe that was enough to know whether she was overall a good person, and only that will help you determine whether you were taken, or whether your help was prematurely accepted hoping to make it up to you in the future.

Whatever you decide to do, just talk to her first, don't let it just be angering you inside and then you end up costing her more than what it was that she didn't return to you.

Sorry again.