Science can explain the creation of the universe or the forces within an atom, but not why there is poetry.

Sexual attraction may be all about chemicals, but there is something more to it than that, at least I'm convinced.

To tell you frankly, I hope we never know.

There's something very alluring about a mystery.

What causes me to connect? Damned if I know. After almost 40 years I would think to have a clue but I don't. I rely very much on my intuition. I tend to prefer woman in their 30s and upwards but every now and then I'll go with a 20 year old...and have never regretted the decision.

My sense of what is beautiful may not be someone elses. My idea of a great sexual performance may not jibe with someone elses. But then again, that is why I am me and not someone else.

So, enjoy the diversity and do not over analyse what you have. Are you having fun, are you enjoying the experience? Isn't that what this is all about?

I thnk so.

Pat J

Any girl that can deepthroat me and lick my balls at the same time is an instant ATF, no matter what she looks like.

Any girl that seems bitchy or stuck-up goes to my DNS list, no matter what she looks like.

A girl's looks changes what I am willing to pay.  Rarely more than 200 for BBW, up to 400 for a "10"...assuming she deepthroats .

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...I've been trying to figure out why I might be attracted to a particular woman at the time. I've certainly developed my List of Attributes (which is changing and evolving over time, as I do the same) - -no addictions; intelligent, educated and smart (yes, three different aspects of the same thing); reasonably in shape and active (preferably outdoors-friendly, in all senses of the word); communicative (not just mindless chatter) and that extend to non-verbal communication (especially re: sex); generally optimistic and outgoing (a social person).

The physical look doesn't really matter all that much, as I've been in relationships with 8 women in the civvie world and none of them were of a "type" in their physical appearance; they've all been distinctive in their appearances.

In the end, chemistry trumps all -- and that can vary quite a bit, depending on many variables. Just gotta go with the flow, trust your instincts and realize that you can learn about your choices only in retrospect. Thus, we will encounter a good many "WTF was I thinking?" moments when reflecting on our lives.

Someone once said our "mistakes" are the only things in life we can truly call our own -- still wondering if that's true...

On first glance there has been little in common about the women I've connected with.  A couple blondes, a couple dark black haired ladies.  One tall (5'11" or so), one as short as 5'.  Some GREAT in bed, others a solid B.  It sure isn't only the physical since my ATF is a legit 7.5 while there are a couple 10s I wouldn't give a second thought about seeing.

Trying to come up with the common items:
--Most are 35-40 y/o (still much younger than I am)
--All have great outgoing personalities though they show in different ways
--Each is enjoyable at dinner and just walking along the river, not only in bed
--Each made the first move by being interested in part of me, not just my wallet, and when I responded in kind (which did not happen with some women) things opened up very easily and naturally with a reciprocated trust

A couple of the friendships have endured over a decade now through good and bad.  Just got off the phone this morning with one I haven't seen in 2 years (she moved away, retired, and got married) but we'll always be friends.  Going out in September to see her and her family.

Now that I've seen quite a few friends and repeated with just a few, I think I can say "comfort".

Not just physical or sexual comfort but emotional and intellectual comfort. Selfishly, I partially read that in a physical way: if she's lying there next to me, head next to mine or on my shoulder or chest, it's just ... just great. (I think that's an indicator of mutual trust and comfort.) If I feel like I can fall asleep not having to worry about being Bobbitted or anything else for that matter that is great. If that experience is the same two or more times, that makes it that much more comfortable.