Up to a client.  They aren't concentrating on the confirmation, rather, they are concentrating on what they want to do to you.
I realize you don't want to babysit but sometimes you have to (on a rare occasion).

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Amber,

The onus is on the PERSON who is supposed to do the confirmation of the appointment during the arrangement of the session.

That means, whichever side is "holding the ball" must confirm the stated appointment so that BOTH parties know that the agreed day and time is setup.

From what you described, the ball was in the guy's court and he failed to pass the ball. You stated that he said "He forgot" to confrim the appointment. It's HIS fault.

The same can be said for the other side as well. I would confirm the appointment then I ask the provider to confirm and when she does NOT confirm, then I am going to contact someone else to make the appointment. Then on the day and time of the original appointment, the lady emails me asking me, "Are you coming?". I tell her NO because SHE did not confirm the appointment and I went with someone else. She then tells me that she will NOT ever see me. I reply, that is fine, but I tell her to remember WHY this didn't happen.

sunrosc

It's just good courtesy.

And if you cannot make it between a reasonable confirmation period and the appointment time, a concession needs to be made.

If I confirm with you 24 hours before an appointment and I end up having to change my appointment time, or cancel outright, I should give you a concession.

I was supposed to meet a provider on Wednesday night.  I confirmed with her in the afternoon for 7 pm after work, and I ended up getting called into a meeting and then drinks afterward at the bar with clients.  And I completely spaced and forgot the appointment (forgot to put it in my iPhone calendar).

I was a total NCNS, and I texted her after profusely apologizing, but ALSO saying I would give her the full amount since that was totally on me.  It's not a lot of money ($140, as she has given me a great rate that she grandfathered in from years ago), but it shows respect.

If she had canceled on me last minute, I would have expected her to give me extra time or a discounted session.

If you have a good thing going, don't fuck it up.  More importantly, just be courteous to others.  It's really that simple.

I had a provider cancel on me day of after confirming with me the day before.  She was coming from MN and to NYC.  The day of, I get the email saying that hotels were too expensive, etc.  And this was her second time, after promising me in the replacement session from the first cancellation that I would get more time.

Not sure what she expects going forward, but I would be a little disappointed if she didn't give me even more time, or discount the session.

And another provider in MN (WTF is it with me and MN providers visiting NYC?) had an emergency last minute and was in a different state, but I had to chase her down three times via email to get any kinda response.  She agreed to do a FBSM/DATY session for a discounted rate from her typical GFE session, and that was nice.  But when she canceled last minute and said she couldn't make it, I asked if she was cool honoring the same terms if I saw her in MN or if she came out here.  Her response?  "If you book within a certain period of time (not defined, BTW), then yes.  However, if you don't, then no."  I don't get that response.  Seems to me like she had a better offer away and decided to blow off my session.

To which I say...if you don't like the terms, then don't offer them.  And if you cancel on me last minute, you should at the very least offer the same terms, if not better.

Or maybe this is her way of saying...not interested.  Which is fine, but I would just as soon hear the truth.

If a gent books an appt I always confirm the day before and then I want to have a quick phone conversation the day of.The guy you described in your scenario sounds like you avoided a problem person.
Cursing because he could not confirm an appt he requested sounds like someone who has some issues.
If a gent books an appt and you let him know to confirm and he does not.I probably would reach out one more time and let him know if he cannot make it or if the appt is a go to let me know.
If there is still no confirmation and someone else wants that time slot I would go with the for sure thing.
I don't double book and when something comes up with a gent he has to cancel or reschedule the appt there should be common courtesy on both sides of the coin.
It all boils down to a provider and a gent both being respectful each others time some get it some don't.

He didn't even tell you he couldn't make the call because he had family or co workers that wouldn't leave.   He should only be angry with himself.  
In all cases the arrangement (like confirmation) & call location (second call) vary from lady to lady...  but a potential client should be sure to follow her instructions or, if they won't work, to get an agreement on an alturnative.  (One lady I see, I negociated the call point to the coffee shop 2 blocks down the street...  I call from outside & she watches me arrive & immediately enter.)   Another Fav instructs me to call from the road with an ETA but upon arrival to enter & lock the door behind me.  
I would never begin a journey without a confirmation.  
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I do not hobby often, so I had usually schedule my appointments well in advance.   As such, I feel I need to confirm generally a week or two in advance of the appointment.   That way I have an opportunity to reschedule with another provider if I cannot reach her.

One provider was no longer reachable, and my emails were returned when I tried to confirm with her.   Presumably she had left the business.   Another time the provider no longer responded, so I was able to cancel.   In both situations, I had just enough time to to reschedule with someone else.