is the ability to say no to things you do not want to do.

There are people who post photos fully clothes, and their desire for intimacy is that of those who would choose to take them home before they got nude. There is nothing wrong with that. It's just a different market.

Reviewers look for reviews and contribute. She is not interested in that type of clientele. I do not see a problem with it.

A. Use TER white list as your bonafide and accept the consequences of honest reviews.  

B. Get references from providers and never share your handle with them.

but I would suggest that this gal may have so many rules that she squeezes all the fun out of a situation.

 
She did you a favor.

Why not use P411 for references?  That way no connection between your TER handle and reviews vs your P411 ID.  With P411, you can now invite non-member providers to view your info. Yes, P411 costs you but well worth it...your experience as just one example.

Many of the women who left while TER was in hibernation have decided they don't like the "review culture" and that it's demeaning. Some have gone over to SWitter where they share horror stories about how they were treated by TER "slobbiests" and damaged by degrading reviews.
So it doesn't matter if you have written accurate, fair reviews, only that you review here at all. You will basically be DNS'd simply for admitting you review here, at least by this particular group of providers.

The women here seek to use their bodies to make a living but some get upset that we judge their bodies. Tough. As long as you're not being dishonest or purposely cruel, you should call it as you see it. Years ago I saw a lady who had at least 20 pounds more than her pictures suggested.  I mentioned that--in a review where I described her as sweet, cute and a good lay.  Still, she bitched me out until I blocked her number. Her loss.

TLDR: It's more her problem than yours - so get over it and find another.
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For reviewers, the point is to write an objective review to allow others to make informed decisions before they spend hundreds or more to get the fantasy experience they desire. It's really disappointing to a monger who spent a big percentage of his paycheck when he finds he's not turned on by the provider. Is she entitled to his money if she materially misrepresents herself? Sadly, there are very few providers offering a money-back guarantee if you didn't like the service you receive.  Stretch marks are not automatically "ugly" or "unsexy". But they are a real thing and may not be what a particular monger might want.  So when a provider covers them up and gets pissed when she is called out for it she's going to lose credibility and ultimately business.  
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For providers, the point is to ensure the client is SAFE, free of drama, likely to be happy & hopefully become a welcome regular. Clearly, every provider has an absolute right to refuse to see anyone any time, for any reason.  But if you run a business you wont be very successful without customers. So it's important to attract as many safe, returning customers as you can accommodate.  How to do that is the very essence of the science/art known as advertising.  There are many advertising techniques, but I submit that those which rely on deception (looks, services, rates, attitude, etc.) ultimately fail to work over time. So trying to suppress objective "truth" in reviews by objecting to or punishing reviewers will probably only result in lost business.  
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Now on to TER's role: TER is not an arbiter of the truthfulness of reviewers, nor are it's reviews an advertising platform for providers. (Though TER does provide a separate area for provider ads.)  Reviewers who exaggerate scores consistently will eventually be called out, as will reviewers who try to "punish" a provider with lies and low scores when  she didn't do something they demanded, but probably was NEVER available.  In fact, many of the threads in the discussion boards revolve around the accuracy of a review and/or a reviewer.  
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So yes, she was probably unwise to decline to see you. And she was totally within her rights to tell you no for whatever reasons she had - even if she didn't explain all those reasons to you.
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Life is good.
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The Cat

What better warning of disappointment do you want?  The provider herself was telling you she's not up to your published standards.  Thank her for saving you from a bad trip!

... there are sides here.

The truth is, for a lot of providers, honest and detailed reviews do more "harm" to their business than good, and they'd prefer to have no review at all or generic and praiseworthy review or fake one instead

 
Obviously, for mongers who read reviews, it's the other way around. Details are very important like people have mentioned. Ink, excessive weight, piercings etc. The more details, the easier the decision.

And for provider, it's the other way around. A generic review leaves room for hope/imagination, but the more details the more chance some turn off might be mentioned for a monger.

It's not really ter specific. It's any review site. A prolific reviewer who doesn't write simp style reviews is probably not someone many providers want to see. Especially providers who exaggerate a lot in their ads.  

To sum it up, it's in many providers direct interest to not accept people who write honest and/or detailed reviews. And if we know anything about capitalism is that most people will act in their self interest.

My belief: Providers have the right to screen however they want and to say "No" or refuse to see anyone for any reason or no reason at all.  

One of the dumbest things that I see is guys complaining that a provider doesn't want to see them because they are black.  Ok.  So what?  She has preferences.  We all do.  Move on.  See someone else.  It is not like she is refusing to cut your hair or serve you dinner.  Not comparable.

That said, the easiest and smartest way to screen is to keep reviews/TER separate.  Don't screen with your handle.  And ensure that your TER account is associated with a different email than the email that you use to screen.  Problem solved.  

If you use the same email, then providers can search TER and bring up your TER handle.

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A good reason to use an alias. Parse your reviews into two; bad reviews under your alias and good reviews under your "real" name. So, you fulfill the role of posting reviews to help your fellow mongers, but protect yourself by only posting good reviews under your searchable name on TER.

Has worked well for me, no problems.

You want to see her but she doesn't want to see you...or vice versa.

Accept it as part of p4p and move on to another potential new playmate that better lines up with what YOU want. It's your money, right? It's her body and her decision as to who she wants to play with, right?

Sometimes those two priorities don't intersect in the Venn diagram that results in a good/great review.

I've always written honest reviews and have never (knowingly) had a problem because of it. I feel that I'd want an honest review of anyone that I might be interested in visiting; do you appreciate that kind of honesty in helping you to make an informed decision?

My post wasn't in regards to her right to choose not to see me.  I agree that providers can screen however the want and choose to see whomever they want.  It can also also a safety issue and I don't expect providers to take appointments when they don't feel safe. I also don't care that she chose not to see me.  I don't take that personally. I'll just see someone else and as others have said, she loses out on the money and it will go to someone else.  I treat the ladies I see with respect. I'm clean, I'm on time, and I don't overstay my welcome.  I was just wondering how others felt about not including details in a review that are not flattering but might help other consumers make more informed decisions as long as they are true.  It appears to me that most of you out there, at least the ones who responded, find it helpful so I won't change my practices.  I know I want honest reviews when I read them because it helps me not get ripped off.  I also didn't realize that such refusals happen to the extent that they do and I've learned a few tricks for avoiding it. Thanks for your opinions.

I recall that the newspapers found a way to describe Monica Lewinsky without calling her fat ... "portly pepper pot."
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And I recall someone calling a woman "stately" which brings to mind someone of the large frame of the Marx Brother's Margaret Dumont.
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There must be other terms that likewise soften the blow.

This thread is being mentioned in some escort twitter feeds.