Met a lady a year ago while working in the mid-west. Saw her for two two-hours sessions. We really hit it off, great comfort level and we both had A LOT of common interests. So I invited her on a 10-day road trip back home. We had a great time.

We are both interested in history, so she picked a bunch of places she has always wanted to visit/see and I did the same. We agreed on the list and hit the road. Action in the morning, action in the evening and action is some isolated places in several national parks. She liked to flash while standing next to the big entance signs to national parks. Took a lot of photos.

I have seen her since, and we are planning another trip this summer.

You have to be lucky and have a lot of common interests.

I have done many first time overnights with success. The key is research and communication.

Interact with the provider on the boards and in private mail and see how things go. Read her website and pay close attention to her likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests, tastes. Setup a time to have a brief chat on the phone before the appointment.

Find something you both enjoy, it will make the date more memorable.

Instead of asking her a blanket what do you want to do? question, engage her by offering her dinner choices or post dinner choices where she has to choose or ask her opinion or feedback about certain things. Avoid conversations on heavy topics like politics etc where potential for disagreements arise.

An overnight is not a "fuck fest" although some turnout to be that way but more of a night at the spa man style. It is up to you to enjoy yourself, the provider gets paid regardless.

Stay loose, easy going and relax. In most cases let her lead and you can have a fun time.

A tricky balance?

Now most ladies will tell you that this is your time, do what you want to do (aside from 100% action, of course) and presumably much of the time will be spent in public.

Now again, this is "my" time, so most ladies will defer to my wishes, but sessions always go better when the lady feels comfortable and hasn't spent the last hour pretending she loves yodeling.

"Just ask" doesn't always work, because you'll probably get "whatever you want, honey"

This is a pretty open-ended comment, but I'd love to hear successes (and failures, lol) and how to make sure mine is in the first category.

Be a decent, interesting human being who is interested in another decent, interesting human being.  Choose your companion based on compatibility, not on price.  If it takes saving up for, then do it!  If it doesn't, great!  But choose well and be a reasonable person and you should have a great time.

How exactly do you choose a companion based on compatibility? Do you do lengthy get-to-know-you phone calls?

Last I checked the ladies were very clear about this NOT being e-harmony

... to say that her style matches yours.  If you're a talker and she's not a good listener, neither of you will have fun.  If you're all about ordering room service and doing a marathon BCD date and she's all about fine dining and conversation with a little stress relief before a 10 hour sleep session, neither of you will have fun. Compatibility doesn't have to mean EHarmony type stuff.  

You choose an overnight companion based on compatibility by researching the heck out of her, planning well enough in advance that you can share 'get to know you' emails/phone calls and be sure that what you picked up on her personality - as a PERSON - matches what you found out in your research. The menu items are pretty easily discovered in profiles but the personality is what makes an overnight a success.

...I need to find a provider who's into the Civil War.  Then we could go out an screw at Pickett's "high water mark."  So freakin' hot!

It isn't rocket science. Fuck. Find a lady you're interested in for such an encounter. Talk with her.

You can't fuck all night. Seriously. As much as you would like to, in my experience it's been beneficial to find some things in common besides doing the horizontal mambo and go with that.

For instance, go to a restaurant that you've always wanted to try. Go dancing. Play some pool if she's into that sort of thing. Gamble. Whatever.

Look, I know what I'm about to say is contradictory to the 'lifesyle' we all indulge in, but I think it's so cool to find a lady that gets excited about doing diferent things. Things that differ away from just meeting at your room, hit it, and seeya.

I dig dates. I know they're paid for, and I know what to expect in the end.

Alright. Bad choice of words...

But when you click, and have a great time OUTSIDE of the bedroom, guess what happens after!

What you say sounds good in theory, but in reality, how many girls will have multiple, in-depth contacts with a client? And you are suggesting this AFTER the session is booked.

Can I cancel on you after a week of emails if I "just don't feel it?"

PS, I did my research I found this little bit on you -

You say
2) Please be sure that the rate for my time is within your budget before contacting me. So simple (and obvious), yet so overlooked."

You may have overlooked that your rate page says "contact me"

Shorter sessions are a good start but I have done first date overnights after some communication witha  lady and getting the sense that we would be compatible. It really is not that difficult to find out in initial email conversation what a lady might be interested in; since you are not yet together she is likely to be rather open about her likes and dislikes in a way that might not be there if you are already on a date. Take some time before confirming a date - but don't waste her time if you have no intentions of booking, a balance as well.

10 days how the hell did you work the cost of that out for her time??  And good for you..

How many times do we hear the lady say that she doesn't have the time or the where-with-all to talk with a prospective client to the degree that he would feel cool to make a date with her to the best of his satisfaction.

They're too busy to talk. It isn't professional to linger without a mutual agreement. Not to mention that they are subjected to 'time-wasters'.  

I'm not knocking the ladies. I love the ladies.

It's just hypocritical. They want to spend extended time, but they don't. Or at least give the impression that they do, for the extra fundage.

I guess what it comes down to is it's the luck of the draw.

You find ladies that truly enjoy your company(alright, give me a fucking break!), and you go from there.

My point is, when you get tight with a lady, whether she's a provider or civvie, what's the fucking difference?

You're gonna get fucked anyway. Hopefully the good way more than the bad.

That's the way I see it.

always included a lot of very engaging conversation.

Beyond that, watching a movie while cuddling on the sofa or bed, or exchanging long massages are other very worthwhile ways to pass the time.

Although most of my overnighters are spontanious spur of the moment type situations, I would not "schedule" an overnighter with someone I had not seen first for a shorter time to see if we "click"

Except for a few ladies that I have seen many times where spending the entire night together is just a given, most of my overnighters start as shorter sessions that for one reason or another don't end until the next day. lol and I do not mean to imply that I always engage in marathon fuck fests that last all night. Sometimes I just like the company of certain ladies and ask them to spend the entire evening, or vice versa.

and yes, in fact, i do engage in "lengthy get-to-know-you phone calls" with potential clients. i wouldn't dare agree to meet with a man without having a good feel for his personality, his needs, his character...and these things combined will help me determine our potential compatibility and even chemistry. this is a process which is never rushed, so may take weeks or even months. i am not interested in meeting countless new faces, or in sharing my mind and body with those who will not remember it after a week's time. i am interested in developing genuine long-term relationships with those who need and desire what i have to share. i have yet to see a new client in 2011, for instance.

so yes, there may be many providers who are differently motivated, and will make very clear their lack of desire for "wasting time," with lengthy email and phone exchanges, or who may not even wish to be contacted at all unless you are scheduling an "appointment." but please do not assume that we all function in such a way.

however i must add this...even with my particular process, i would never agree to an overnight or longer engagement with a man i had never seen. until you are actually face to face, there are certain questions regarding chemistry especially which cannot be answered. so my advice to you would be to first seek out a provider who seems to have a preference for relationships vs. flings, and once you find and get to know one or two of these women, arrange to see them for two or three hours. and if that goes well, THEN express your desire for a night together.

I can't speak to how many ladies will have multiple, in-depth exchanges with gents.  I just know I do.  I'm suggesting that this occur AFTER a session is secured so that the lady's need to know she's not wasting her time is met (and therefore you'll actually get her time in response).  Can you cancel after a week of emails?  Well, that would depend on her cancellation policy.  If you booked an overnight 2 months ahead of time with me and then cancelled a week within 3 weeks of the date, you'd get your deposit back (minus travel expenses).  But that's just how I do things..

Regarding that site... I actually just found out last night that I had one!  Someone has created it, without my consent or input, using my existing P411 text and pics.  I'm aware there are no rates listed, because I didn't create the site or authorize it, I have no idea how to change that.  My RS2K page has rates, if that's what you're interested in....  and BTW, I'm not based in LA either.

If you only knew bunny b...
I could write and try to prove things but in fact I simply wish I had the opportunity to show you what a night in heaven can be....
my loss? your loss? Who know, it might have been disappointment anyway lol but if...

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There is nothing magical about overnight sessions.  It's just a bunch of time.  If you get to know someone, and a regular session never seems long enough, then book longer sessions.  Eventually, the sessions will be 'overnight'.

Definitely get to know someone first.  Why would you sentence yourself to 12 hours with any randomly chosen person?

I almost never book a single hour.  Never enough time. I almost never book overnight either.  Because normally I simply don't want to spend that much time with someone.  I want to get up in the morning, not worry about my breath, poop, and relax.  Having a woman there can be sort of annoying.  I've even turned down offers of free or very low cost ($100) overnight 'extensions' to an evening date.  In fact, I've only spent the entire night on the clock with three women.  In every case, the overnights were not planned, but we were simply enjoying ourselves too much.  In one case, the date started in the early afternoon, continued unplanned into the evening, and then she spent the night, most of the next day, and then we met again for supper later.  And then we had an off the clock (mostly fraternal, but definitely complicated) off-the-clock relationship that continues still, though it's mostly email because my wife forbids me from seeing her anymore.  Another woman once spent the night at my place -- again unplanned -- and we never even got around to having sex!  We never went beyond heavy petting.  We also developed a friendship (albeit also complicated, because I'm married) that continues.  But she is European so it's not like we have opportunities to get together much.  I totally fell in love with the third woman.  I could spend a lifetime with her.  She's also European, though, and when I left town we said goodbye.  I send her flowers still, but we never talk.  In two months I am returning to the town where we met, and where she sometimes still works.  But I will be there this time with my wife and son.  My wife knows all about the relationship.  I am on a really tight leash.  But wow.  I'd love to just accidentally run into her in the supermarket, just say hi again.  If my wife found out I was even thinking that she'd divorce me.

Anyway, whatever.  Get to know someone. Then decide whether to spend a whole night.  You'd hate to pay a thousand or two for the equivalent of a plane trip to China next to an annoying stranger.

Now THAT sounds like fun!

Compatibility isn't everything, it's the *only* thing when spending a substantial amount of time with another person. Basically, you really shouldn't consider spending more than a couple of hours with a woman unless, outside of the whole hobby thing, she's someone who would meet your criteria as a friend or someone you'd ask out on a date.

The longer you are going to spend in someone's company, the less important the details of sexual stuff become, and the more important her personality, character and temperament become.

And by that, I mean her *genuine* personality, character and temperament. Being an actress can get a lady past an hour or two. But with me anyway, much beyond that if a lady can't genuinely appreciate my nature, she'd be ready to jump off a bridge about 3 hours into the date. Why would I want to put someone through that when I can instead find someone who would be appreciative rather than merely tolerant?

Usually I would say that an overnight should only be spent with a lady you have already met, but being that I experienced the other side of the coin, I will speak on it.

I exchanged emails for a couple of days, spoke on the for 10 minutes, and an overnight was scheduled.
Our overnight consisted of
  Watching a couple of movies whilst making out and fondling
  A lot of great conversation. We had some things in common, such as his alma mater, was the school I was attending at the time.
  Few glasses of wine. More conversation, more making out.
  2-3 hot romp sessions around the house.
  Slept for maybe 4 hours.
  I sneaked (yes it is sneaked and not snuck or snook, lol) out of bed before he awoke to freshen my breath, then came back and woke him with a little bj action, and then moved to a lovely love -making sesh.
  Conversed a little more, Hugged, Kissed, said goodbye, and he walked me to my car.

It was a wonderful experience, and I am so happy, because initially I feared it might be awkward.