I have rather complicated desires.  I've read that providers don't want to talk about sex.  If I brought a note that described what I want, would that be regarded as more appropriate?

I think you'll find that with most ladies, after you get beyond the "getting to know one another" stage, you'll hear something like, "What do you like"? It's probably okay to talk at that point, as long as your answers aren't rude, crude, and socially unacceptable.

Or you might ask in a respectful fashion "What are your limits?"  In that way, she can tell you and you may govern yourself accordingly.  You will never know unless you ask or try (within the limits communicated to you, of course).

and also bring a #2 pencil and  then leave a space that says - "please circle yes or no"

xo lisa butler

You can ask for ANYTHING, but she can still say no, LOL.  Seriously, she WANTS to know what you like and want.  And it is so much easier for her if you will just tell her instead of making her guess.

If your desires are "complicated", it will be more important than ever to read her web site and reviews to get a feel for whether she will be a good "fit" for you.

honestly - I would love if a guy brought a note to an appt. in particular an incall type situation .....

it would make my day !!!!

I am in this business and life for things that are fun, things that are different and I am open to an adventure ...

so bring it on !!!!

xo lisa butler

No....not me. Nothing in writing!!!  Ugh. Bad enough having emails.  I think the less tangible evidence the better.

Should I pin the note to my shirt?

Didn't know your sense of humor was so alive..that was too funny.

write it in marker on your lower stomach.  She will be sure to see it!

Kari~~

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After reading it she said that she didn't have any unmarked 20's or a bag to put them in.

Whoops!  Wrong note.

i wouldn't recommend a note, that would come across as a bit odd for me personally. but you have to remember that not all providers are the same. some never wish to discuss physical activities with you, even in person...where others like myself are all too happy to do so. with me, that's all part of the pre-meeting getting to know you process. i want to know what you need and desire, so that i can determine whether or not i'd be a good fit for you. i never discuss "paper" or anything remotely "business" related with any potential client, so it all feels perfectly comfortable and natural.

I prefer you pin note to shirt and swallow it after It is read, please.

xo lisa

Honestly if your desires are that complicated you will need to get with someone that sees eye to eye with you.

This can be achieved through research on TER and pm messages with other TER members.

Find a girl, then build up a rapport with her and hopefully live out your wildest dreams.

xo lisa butler

A note would definitely be the cutest thing, but i must say pictures illustrating your every want wish and desire would more than bring a smile to my face... itll ensure a circled  "yes"

in fact i will making your pictures reality before even getting to finish circling yes lol

xoxo

Okay, how about a note and a match?

Somewhere I read that in a review...
"anything, everything... Just ask!!!"

Now where was that???

Oh yeah, my last review.. Silly me :s

SEND A YOU PORN VIDEO OF THE ReQUESTED ACTIVITY i sure you are not the first to think of the activity

What a great idea! Especially as I recently asked my ATF what she'd like me to me to do especially for her to make her happy and feel like it was special for her.  Her response was grabbing me by the ears and pushing me down between her legs and simply telling me to get busy with my tongue and mouth so I could not keep talking.  I'm still trying to find out what she'd like me to do to make it feel special for her . Maybe if I had her give me a note, I could simply start and check them off as I do each.

I suspect that such an open ended question would not get the same response as it once did when asked a GF a similar question; she opened my wallet and grabbed my AMEX gold card and said I should watch a movie while she went out for the day, and that would make her REALLY happy.  Decided to try plan B.

I thought it was cute!  I think it was on our first meeting after we had been talking back and forth for some time via e-mail, and he said he had a lady friend in England whom he'd been talking to about the types of things she liked and it piqued his curiosity- he wondered if I might compare my likes to hers.

We were sitting having a glass of champagne,  getting to know each other better, and he pulled out the list saying it was all the things she liked and would do.

He actually DID give me a pencil and asked me to put a check mark next to all the things I either have done, or would be willing to try with someone.

I remember it was a very long and thorough list!! There were a few things I didn't check, and still wouldn't, but more that I did.

I liked this idea as we both felt comfortable with how it was discussed and it was an easy way for him to figure out what was ok and what was off limits.

Needless to say we had several very fun, fulfilling encounters after that day until he had to move across the country.

Hmmmm...I wonder if I should make up a typed "questionnaire" and offer it to my first time visitors upon their arrival.

xo
Kim