I'm a single guy in my 30's, good looking some providers say, and always have providers telling me they can't understand why a good looking guy like me should have to PAY any girl for sex. I guess, to them, I must be some kind of LOSER. I simply tell them this arrangement works well for me. All I want is SEX without the DRAMA/BS of a civilian relationship.  




-- Modified on 8/20/2007 6:58:35 AM

Yes, questions/comments can put a damper on a session (i.e providers who want to talk about your home life; wife, kids, etc.)

Usually, however, you can steer the provider in the direction of discussion you wish to pursue. I think in your case, the provider you saw was was either drunk, stoned or just a complete ass. (prob. a combination of all three) Unfortunate, but if you hobby long enough you will run into situations like yours.

people radar.... unfortunately - you happened on that night to get a person who's radar was not only bad - but on the Fritz!  lol!  as I say, keep going as some are really very good at spotting what ya want - but more importantly what ya need.

She was drunk.

Usually does not bode too well for a good session.

(Unless she's Scotish 8o)

...I once had a provider ask me if I was married.  Upon telling her I was, she told me that I "shouldn't be messin' 'round with her."!!!  Talk about a mood killer!  I was already feeling guilty, because I was heading to a friend's wedding after the session.  Looking back, I shouldn't have tried to hobby b4 my friend's wedding (in fact I was self conscious the whole time I was at the wedding that my face smelled of pussy...Hey that's all I could do for most of the session; and it did "save the session" to some extent), but I never thought that a provider would actually say something like that to me.

No top shelf lady is ever going to act that stupid. Good providers don't ask customers if they are married or make jokes about their sexual preferences. Good providers also never tell a guy that they can't believe he has to pay for sex.
I probably would have walked away when I saw her drunk upon walking in but, who knows....as always, sometimes the little head wins out...for better or worse.

Thank you for brightening my day with your post . . .

I am/was having a bad day until I read your post. Granted, she didn't use good decorum in presenting her compliment, but she truly meant it as one. I think what she meant was, "You're too good looking not to have a girlfriend. Are you bi?"  Anyway, as horrific as this sounds, we have to lighten up a little. After hearing about Miki, I think we have far worse problems than someone asking if you're gay because you're good looking. However, I think it was incredibly rude of her after you couldn't achieve an erection to make fun of you and offer a gay friend. She might have been drunk or just off her rocker. Either way, it was rude of her, but just accept the good-looking part, hon.

If it were me, I would have said, "No, I'm not gay or bi -- just don't want the bullshit of a girlfriend. However, I'll take what you meant to say as a compliment."  Knowing my smart-ass ways (I know you're laughing at this one, Miki), I would have said, "Why are you providing? You're a good-looking woman. Do you not have any brains to get a real job?"  Just kidding. Thank God Miki understood my sense of humor. I think her and I thought more like men at times.

Hugs & smooches, good looking!

Ciara

-- Modified on 8/20/2007 7:01:56 PM

Maybe she was about to tell you she was actually a TS.

Now that would have been a good punchline!!

a few short years ago - when I had just started internet-based hobbying, I me a lady.  She was fantastic.  (actually I had set up the appointment as a 2nd choice as my first choice was unavailable)  She and I met - and we spent a good bit of time just talking... turns out she was into a lot of the same things as was I.  Not only that, but "age" came up and as I thought her to be very young... she commented on a movie that I thought she would have no clue... turns out - not only did she know the movie - but she picked up on my worry about "age"! she put me at ease by saying - "hey, I'm not that young - but don't tell anyone" (and no, her review is not listed on TER!)  It also turned out that she and I knew a lot of the same people in the community - from her legit business......  wow! eh!

We saw each other a few times... but on our last session, she said something at the end of the session, that made me realize that - she was being not just a good provider - but a great provider - but the words - they destroyed the illusion - it happens - sometimes... it just does.... but to be honest, I would rather it happen with a provider - than with a civie girlfriend - or worse - wife.

in short.... I don't think that she was trying to annoy you, just being herself - as you don't know the clientelle that she sees.... you may have amazed her.... perhaps she was considering offering you friends with benes.... who knows...  

but alas, you did not play it out - and now?  well, we'll (and more importantly, you) will never know - will we.

sorry, she really screwed up.  

I have to say you could make it well in comedy

thank you for the chuckles.

no offense, but your story sounds made up

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