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Probably another wreck. I am using an alias because the provider and owner are on the board. A long time provider I see through an agency offered to see me at a reduced rate. Less than what I was paying and more than she was getting. This worked for a while until all of a sudden she wanted full fare.  I had asked how much time this amount of money would get. She came back with less time than I had be getting for less money. I asked about it and the she said she had to charge everyone the same. Now this was after telling me she looked forweard to our sessions because she always knew she would feel good. I decided to pass and she got real mad ranting about needing the money and clients ripping her off. Now this same lady had a history oif car problems and had cancelled on me several times at the last minute. Couple of times twice in the same weekend. I never got mad or said anything. It isn't the money it is the princeple that pisses me off. I really like our sessions but I am moving on because she has changed her outlook. Maybe she wanted to stop seeing me and this was one way to try. Anyone been through this?

Don't even try to analyze the situation. It might take awhile, but you'll find another escort and trust me you'll really like the new lady's sessions.  And for her telling you she looked forward to "our" sessions because she knew she would feel good. Remember this is P4P. And no, I've never been through what you described.

offthebooks204 reads

I'm not upset about it. I guess you find all different kinds of people. I guess she let her ego get in the way. I felt like telling her agency about her side work but it isn't worth the drama. She knows where I live. Sometimes I think some of these ladies forget how much competition there is out there.

-- Modified on 9/21/2010 7:34:25 AM

wasn't really towards you but you got the shit end because she had nobody else to talk to? I recently had to tell someone that I wasn't offering half hour appts anymore...I do enjoy his company, albeit brief...and I do like him as a person outside the hobby....but it boils right down to business is business...he got very upset with me...so I told him in no uncertain terms....when you pay my bills I will fuck you for free...until then, IT IS WHAT IT IS...so, perhaps you can tell the lady your feelings on the situation and she can take it or leave it...make it her choice :-)

and she's too greedy for her own good.
I am sure the agency she works for would not appreciate her taking clients and seeing them on the side.
Throw her to the curb and find a drama free provider.

Once this is happening I would think it imperative to get away from the drama.  I have seen several ladies for extended sessions and often.  I certainly can understand that you have developed some feelings for this lady...but remember that this is P4P!!  The key to this working is that you are really paying her to leave you alone when your time is up.  And when she starts with the increased fees, et al, that is your cue to get the heck out of there.  Perhaps you should change your cell, email and the like and find a new lady who will appreciate your time (and $$$).  Good luck and move on.

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I have moved on. After this type of deal I wouldn't hook again even if it was free. I have been seeing this lady for about four years. Uually two hour appts. Sometimes but not usually a fuckfest. Not sure why the change. Goes to show you never know what type of people you are going to meet in this business. I plan on being a few an done from now on.

-- Modified on 9/21/2010 9:40:06 AM

If the lady is on this board she has probably already figured out who you are based on your post.

Too much drama.  Move on...

by the way, your alias won't help much if she's on the board too, you will be lucky if this doesn't blow up in your face - sounds like you're stirring up a potentially very volatile situation

A lady has an absolute undisputable right to establish whatever rate she desires.

However, a client has an undisputable right not to see a provider.

If a client has previously committed to see her and she raises her rate in the interim, he is no longer bound by that commitment as he has no control over her rates. I don't care if she raises her rate even a penny -- you can opt not to see her as she has changed the terms of the deal.

That is, her freedom to set rates is also YOUR freedom to reconsider commitments based on that.

It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. That is, she wants to be free to establish whatever rates she desires while not allowing you the corresponding freedom to refuse to see her at the new rate.

Sounds a lot like the situation where a man signs up for monogamy and the woman unilaterally changes the terms to chastity. EXCEPT -- this lady doesn't have a protected state monopoly and can be ditched sans troubles.

Which is what I highly recommend.


Trying to increase egg production by strangling the chicken.

I had an agreement with a gent along this lines, worked for an agency and charged him only what my fee was that I collected(I felt bad for him, he is in a wheel chair and I thought he was nice enough).  After I went Indy my rates went up, and I kept him at his gifting for a while.  There were a couple of reasons for me raising his rates to my current structure, none of which were how much I enjoyed my time with him or not.

1)I went indy and my rates went up

2)He started contacting me ALL the time, sorry but if I only see you once or twice a year I do not have time to sex chat you on IM 2-4 days a week and take your calls once a week to bs because you are bored.  I enjoy talking chatting with my guests, but if you are not booking I don't want you getting my excited with moans into the phone or chat that is designed to be whack material.  NOT fair if you aren't visiting.

3)He continued to use others services at full rate while expecting my severely cut rate sessions on a much lesser basis.

Those things contributed to me raising my rates up to the current standard.  It wasn't because I didn't enjoy my time with him, that was the time I enjoyed.  It was the other off the clock time that got to be a bother.  

He knows that for him I am what he wants, no matter the rate.  As a matter of a fact I just saw him Sat and after almost 11yrs we still have some hot ass dates.  

So, I say this...  If you really like her and feel she is worth the rate then see her.  If she raised her rate it might not be because she is a money grubber, that you annoyed her or the like.  In this case, it sounds like she is trying to make her life work and having a very hard go of it.  Perhaps if you really like her then offer her a counter offer that meets her 1/2 way.

So say she was seeing you for 2hrs for 400 and now she wants 600, offer her 500 for those 2 hrs and see if she goes for it.  If you don't like her enough then move on.  Keep in mind sometimes in this industry when you burn a bridge you can't cross it again.

As far as calling and letting the agency know, do you HATE her?  She will be fired, that is common place with agencies to fire those who take their business.  

So I am not saying anything against the originator, but the lynch mob coming out because a lady desides to raise her rates drives me nuts.  A lady can charge what she likes and you have the right to see her or not of your own accord.

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I agree with most what you say. However in this instance I asked for more time and how much after an appt. was set. Then I found out the fee increse. Thank god I asked her. It would have been bad if she had shown up and then I found out about the increase. I think she is in $ troulbe & imature It is a ggod time to go elsewhere. I just was wondering how often this type of stuff happens.

that she gave you a discount for a while.  Instead of thinking she jacked up the rate on you going forward, the reality is, she lowered the rate for you previously.  Be happy you got a better deal than others before, and just fair-to-market price now.   Net-net, to date, you are better off than otherwise!

Also, it sounds to me her agency found out and is forcing her to charge you the same rate as everyone.

Shocked you didn't move on sooner....I've cut some visitors of so do in kind with her and just move on.

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