I am curious as to how much ladies believe cancellation excuses.  After 20 years and hundreds of appointments, I’ve canceled only three times. The first, 15 years ago, my father died unexpectedly. Yes, he really died and I had to leave town with an appointment two days away. The second, about 10 years ago, I got food poisoning and had to cancel the day of the appointment. Finally, two weeks ago, I canceled two days in advance because I got the flu.

I have only had to cancel once due to suffering a concussion from a car accident.

Since most communication is text or email and rather formal, it’s hard to know the truth. Honestly, unless she’s a repeat offender, I have no choice but to give her the benefit of the doubt. But I am sure some are BS.  

While I've needed to cancel less than a handful of times in 9 years, I've never done so for unimportant reasons. One time was because of a family member needing to go to urgent care and another couple of times because I got up that morning with some illness.  

A girl who does this very part time.  We had a great phone conversation at first but then I had to cancel last minute from a family thing.  She was pretty disappointed.  Could tell in the tone on the phone.  Then she blocked me, understandable.  I offered to zelle her to make up for wasting her time but was already blocked.

And that's precisely why every single date needs a deposit to confirm it. I may have had 2-3 cancellations of confirmed dates in 10yrs?  
 
Accountability moment: I myself pulled a no-show recently.😱 First time EVER. For ANYTHING. I have NO freakin clue how my alarm didn't go off but I slept through the entire appointment time and woke up 12minutes after it was scheduled to end.🤯 I was, and still am, mortified! But having integrity means you own your fuckups AND fix them.
 
I tried refunding the deposit immediately but since I've never accepted, let alone refunded a deposit via Amazon gift card, my Amazon account got suspended in the process. I sent the gent screenshots of the Amazon emails stating my account was suspended for "suspicious activity" and had to send Amazon multiple bank statements and then pics of my face, DL, passport and credit card. It was resolved in about 48hrs. I refunded the gent 120% of the deposit out of respect for his wasted time/gas. He remained civil throughout the process and hopefully we can still meet up the next time I'm in town (with a front desk wake-up call, room alarm clock AND my damn phone alarm😤).
 
Life happens... but it's your integrity that carries you through.

Love that you did this for him. A lot of providers I have encountered would not own up to it and try to do anything extra for wasting his time.

I too had a couple of providers who had to cancel on me and wanted to make it up to me. One gave me a full complementary session but I tipped her handsomely afterward. And the other gave me a nice discount as well.

Thank you, but that just falls under "being a decent human being" in my book. No one is fooling anyone trying to reframe a fuckup in any other way but what it is. It's also kinda insulting for them to think being a shitty human is gonna get you far in a service industry🙄 Shitty humans usually go far in the corporate world tho....

In the rare event that we do get a cancellation it's usually with sufficient notice and is not a problem because it's been maybe 2 or 3 in the last few years.

I just had to cancel my first appointment ever because my flight was delayed and I ended up stranded in Europe.

vegas is unique when it comes to provider cancellations.   i have had to book 2 or 3 for the same night because of the high rate of no shows ... i do realize i typically book 1 hour and multi hour dates are common in vegas and they often get those requests last minute ...     but it would be only proper to give notice .. another reason to be perfectly candid in vegas starting 5 years ago  i have turned to SB ladies on those websites vs the true pros  .. never had a sugar baby ..  aka  amateur escort     no show.

Funny you told that story - the lady I mentioned above who complained about last minute cancellations and then did it twice to me in two weeks just slept though a date we had setup only a few weeks ago.  

when someone gets cancelled on that it's some BS reason. I think that is a symptom/reflection of this apparently being something of a low trust situation. I've only cancelled twice and both times I was on the phone with the booker just before the session so REALLY short notice. (In one case there were maybe 5 police cars patrolling the area, a couple more in the vicinity and maybe 4 cops out walking around the complex. And it was maybe my 4th or 5th time playing this game. You could say I was a bit nervous. Booker was actually cool about it and we rescheduled a few days later. In the other it was a cold rainy night and there was NO parking available in the complex parking area and the closest street parking would have been at least a mile away. Again, the booker was cool about it and she gave me to first appointment for the following day.)

I was set to meet a girl in Vegas, all was going well. I was waiting for her at the bar and then I got a text saying she felt uncomfortable seeing me. She said I had that cop look, whatever that is. She said she saw me at the bar, told me what I was wearing and just like that, she bailed.
Another time while I was at baggage claim, in Vegas I got a text from the young lady's booker who I was set to meet later that evening. Was told she had a family emergency and wasn't going to make it.Booker didn't even offer a replacement...fuck that shit
I've had a few last minute cancellations,  but I'm surprised I haven't gotta the "Dog eat my homework" excuse...but I have patience

I know you guys can face a lot of BS/flakiness/whatever but I gotta say, I'm not built for scenarios like y'all share.😳 I don't care if I had to save for 6mo to book someone reliable enough (and everything else that floats my boat), cuz I just couldn't deal with people like that. I couldn't get turned on! And especially if there wasn't a proper acknowledgement and ownership of error, or if there were stupid BS excuses and blame shifting, etc. I would't be able to make my body work for fun stuff (unless it was a grudge F vibe😈).  But I'm super glad you could brush it off and had an even better time than expected!  
 
I'm naturally a night owl (or vampire even) and occasionally have insomnia and end up "accidentally" watching the sun rise. Most of the time I just power through the day and then sleep "early" at 11pm-midnight the following night. Sometimes I'll take a 2hr nap and have no issue waking to my phone alarm. This was one of those insomnia nights and I think I finally fell asleep around 8am with my phone set to go off at 10am to get ready for the noon appt. Not ideal, but no biggie in my world.🤷🏻‍♀️ Gimme coffee or a Monster and I'm good to go!
 
I'm also the kind of person for whom being 10min early to an appt actually means I'm 10min late for it (in my mind).  
 
So when I finally peeled my eyelids open and it was after 2pm.... fuuuuucccckkkk.....😱🤯  Anyway, it's all sorted now and I'm appreciative of how he handled it!

I swear I've a 40+% NCNS rate from dating apps in the US and it's close to 90% back home🤯. Then there's the massive amount of ghosters that vanish as soon as you try to set actual details to meet. Then there's the poor hygiene, poor manners, "red pill" attitudes, etc of the ones who show up. It's rough out there, man...  
 
I was telling this to a new friend the other day and he couldn't believe it, but it's totally true! Clients have consistently treated me better in every conceivable fashion than ONS, short or long term BFs and husbands (those are the worst).

I didn't exactly brush it off. Being late was one thing but she never ghosted me before and I was genuinely concerned about her well being.  

That's actually a very sweet (yet annoying/worrying in the moment) scenario then! Nuance matters!  
 
I'm not the kind of person to get close with someone like that but if the quirks of her personality don't bother you much, the chemistry is great, and y'all click on multiple levels... I'm happy for both of you!  
 
We're all odd ducks in our own ways and finding someone who's weirdness aligns with your own is a super cool thing.🙏🏼

Do you mean you've had to make consecutive bookings in a single night due to NCNS, or that you scheduled simultaneous bookings in order for one of them to actually show up? 😳 My imagination runs toward consecutive, last minute, minimal screening, no deposit bookings? If so, ya think that might be indicative of the issue?

I have never met him, but we have built a connection. He text me yesterday to cancel because his daughter was being air lifted to a hospital due to a car accident. I prayed for his daughter and to him to drive safely to her. She’s ok suffered some injuries. I truly care about people as humans, and as a mother I have empathy.

Truth!!

I had to cancel once because I had COVID. I was able to do that the day before our appointment.  

I have canceled one time in well over 100 meetings. Being an ex business owner makes me very sensitive to lost revenue and time that cant be regained. Thankfully it was with a long time regular of mine. I am sure she was unhappy but never complained. I did pay her fee of 1 1/2 times next time I saw her. She is still seeing me several years after this happened so I guess everything worked out.  

Car "problems" don't always require a mechanic to resolve.

Back in the early days before I found TER  it seemed like so many girls were prone to having lost their grandmother unexpectedly.  
Lost track of how many .