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Caller IDs are easy to spoof -
There are lots services available and they really work. Usually only about 10 cents a minute. You dial an 800 number, punch the number you want displayed and the number you are calling. And poof, your number is spoofed.
Unblocking calls for the security and peace of mind of you ladies is both a practical and a fully understandable need. I must contend however that many of you ladies fail to give the hobbyist the same respect and consideration. In a world of cell phones interrupting us all at any given time it is frustrating and often deleterious to both our desires as well as your business if we cannot identify the source of the call that comes in as we're standing in line at the bank or dealing with a million and one other distractions and trying to surmise whether to pick up or go to “phone tag”. In addition many of us guys have actually read the user manual for our cell phones and assigned specific ring tones for caller groups so that when a certain tune is played on our phone we immediately know it is a call we either want to answer or can’t answer due to present company.
As stated earlier your need to know is well understood. We gentlemen also need the same consideration.
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I personally don't like the phone. It is a rude interrupting tool that puts one on the spot. That said, a lady should only be calling you at a specific pre-agreed upon time. Blocked or not, you should know who is calling and be able to decide if you are in a position to answer.
Realize that there are many ways to trace a cell phone back to real identifiable information. Protecting this seems to be more important than giving you the convenience of knowing who is on the other line before picking up.
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Your personal dedication to professionally allocating a prescribed time window in which to telephonically communicate is to your credit.
Your lack of understanding or consideration for our needs with those who don't follow your strict professional protocols is less than gracious.
"Your personal dedication to professionally allocating a prescribed time window in which to telephonically communicate is to your credit."
Thank you.
I also encourage gentlemen to take some responsibility to set these times to call so that there are no unexpected suprises... AND if you ever receive unwelcome or unauthorized calls from ladies, do the rest of your gentlemen friends a favor and explain how unprofessional that is!
"Your lack of understanding or consideration for our needs with those who don't follow your strict professional protocols is less than gracious."
You assume a lot there.
I take care of my friends needs by setting the time/day to call, ensuring that there is permission, AND I personally do not block my cell number.
It is less than gracious to say a lady protecting herself may be more important than your need to know who is calling?!?
If you think so, that's your right.
Ungraciously,
Sola
It's a whole lot easier to say "urg, wrong number" when the display reads private call, than when it displays a number that shows up on your phone records. Before you attack, yes I know better...and have plenty of phones to cover this situation. But not everybody does.
everyone has this plight. My suggestion is to not answer the phone and let it go to voicemail. There will always be an opportunity to check your messages at a more convenient time. I will never call a gentleman unless I'm returning his call and he's left a message. If a gentleman not does leave a message but there is caller I.D., then I won't call back. I feel it's not my place to call if he doesn't leave a message and what time to call him back.
Sometimes I answer my phone without thinking and have to tell the person I'm talking to that I'm engaged with other friends. Can I call him back? It's better to retrieve messages later than be embarrassed.
Hugs,
Ciara
Ciara, That is a very professional and very good point!
I don't agree with it.
I understand the ladies need for privacy/security.
It is, to me anyway, more important for them than for me.
I/we don't get 10's or 100's or phone calls every week.
I/we don't have the need to "weed out" those calls.
Some of these ladies are friends and I have told them they can call anytime they want. Some do call, sometimes just to check in or catch up, if it's been awhile since we last talked.
When they call, their numbers come up as "restricted" or "private".
Any call that shows up as either of those is probably someone I want to talk to.
If I answer it and it's not someone I want to talk to I can always hang up.
If I'm expecting a call, I will answer. If not, I let it go to VM and then check it.
Nobody uses my phone but me, so it is a secure system.
I don't have their numbers in my phone book , for obvious reasons, but I know their numbers so that's a moot point.
As far as we "gentlemen" needing the same consideration, I don't agree there.
One last thing...
if a cell phone going off in a particular situation can be an interruption or deleterious to your situation...
turn the damn thing off.
I do, that's why I have VM.
Just my opinion...
B
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-- Modified on 5/8/2006 1:52:06 PM
I hate it when I can't type for crap.
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There are lots services available and they really work. Usually only about 10 cents a minute. You dial an 800 number, punch the number you want displayed and the number you are calling. And poof, your number is spoofed.
. . . only occasiobally answer caller IDs that I don't recognize. If the call is important enough I expect to get a voicemail.
And I do not block my phone number, and I never did understand why a provider would block her number. Especially if it is posted on her site and advertisements.
To solve this problem, I encourage people to communicate via my booking form or e-mail. More convenient for the replier and a bit more discreet. As well, I lot of topics I cannot or choose not to discuss over the phone, sometimes can be addressed in e-mail.
JMHO
Vanica
with the new phones that you have to list 2 phone numbers in your phone book for the same person (only if your blocked)
one with the area code and #
the 2nd one with the *82
I'm blocked for a couple of reasons
1. I really don't know who I'm calling back
2. Never know if the SO is checking missed or answered calls...or even holding the phone in hand...hell you never know!!
I think it's protection for all, I think most gentlemen respect and understand the reason for it, also if your giving references and some personal info then unblocking your # shouldn't be a problem..
I don't like answering blocked calls, I don't like being caught off guard by who knows what!!!!
Usually the person will leave a VM with a call back # or at least they give me enough information that I feel comfortable calling them back.
Consider for a minute all the married guys who are in the hobby.
If a provider calls with a 'private' number, then the call is recorded in the phone and on the bill as 'private'. No harm, no foul because it could be anyone.
If she calls with an 'unblocked' number, well then wifey has a record of all these 'strange' phone calls from a provider. This would be 'bad'.
It's far better for the provider to keep that anonymity going than for her to trigger that "I Feel Like Makin' Love" ring tone in your phone.
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