The lady I was to do a threesome has been sick so I invited my other girlfriend.  He's been a regular gent for me once a week.  

Get this... she wants to date him.  I could strangle her!!!


What would you do in my situation?

Get even with her!   Date me!  (trust me, that fact that her actions made you lose your mind will kill her!)

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So you're saying date my client now ?

NO ... that was a feeble Saturday morning attempt at humor.

Seriously ... I'd say this:  It's hard for anyone to find connections these days, so if she wants him .. let her have him.  Clients come and go all the time - you'll get another one soon, probably a better one.

If they find something together ... then you can be happy for them and hopefully some other woman may do the same for you some day.  If it's just a fling .... he'll be back anyway.

If they maintain a relationship ... but after a while he starts coming back to see you ... you will have inside information from both sides of the relationship ... just think of the ways you could use that to get even!  (again .. just kidding on this last one)

Just let them have each other.  

Outside of the humor, I agree. Do NOT stand in the way or both will hate you. Keep talking to both of them and act like it doesn't bother you a bit. If they fall apart, you will probably get your client back and your friend. If they get serious, you get invited to the wedding Turn down being a bridesmaid, the dresses are usually god awful

dates him.
But dating is a 2 way street.  How do you know your client wants to date her and do you even know if he is just wierd enough to want to keep paying you?

The other thing in the long run, your friend will be more important to you than some client so be nice to hear and let her have him.  May be she will return the favor some day.

I have yet to meet another escort that would put her friendship over a client.

I KNOW she'll charge him and play her games.  She's met others I've introduced to her when she came back from a hiatis and she hurt my business by preaching how BBBJ's are dangerous to those she's met.  Go figure, she doesn't do bbbj's.  

I think I'm done trying to find friends in the business.  Too much trouble and not worth it in the end.  

I sent her an email today:
a true friend:
Itroduces a ton of nice guys, always talks in good favor with respect to her friend.  Especially when a lady is scared and coming back from having her baby.

Introduces her friend to guys she likes not "I have a ton of icky guys I've been seeing I'd like to get rid of" as you'd said to me yesterday.

Doesn't try to impress those she meets via her friend.  Has a good time but understands this is her friends regular she likes and I'm doing this for his fantasy.  Would most definitely not stand there telling him how awesome he is, acting like she wants to see him again, waiting for a number to be offered.  

Doesn't secretly tell those she's been introduced to how dangerous BBBJ is.  

Just had to get some things off my head here

My ATF invited a friend once to a threesome.  I had a great time with her friend and ended up getting my cups from her.  but my ATF is still my ATF.

I don't know your relationship with your client other than he see you once a week.  If this is for any period of time (months)that would make it seem like he is pretty happy with and you would probably qualify to be his ATF.

Even if your friend approached him, I am not sure again that he would take her of on the offer.

You also need to understand when you get possesive of a client, that entails some responsibility on your part.  You have to walk him, feed him, scratch him under the chin, and tell him he is a good boy.  If you don't, he may just go find himself a new master.
As to this woman who is now not your friend, screw her and the pony she rode in on.

Probably need to ask yourself if it is the steady income or why you care about this guy.

Cheers

The proof of her friendship is in her actions.  Not the why the what.  Please don't become cynical.  We already have cynicalman and cynicalman 2.0.  We don't need cynical women.  There are a lot of good guys and women out there.  Maybe you just need a diffrent type of friend.  There are women out there who are not escorts who would love to be your friend.  Some of us guys also.  "Its all about the money" is true to an extent.  Make a friend outside of your business circle  Personally I don't have a social realtionship with anyone I work with or for.  Good luck don't get hard.

very doubtful, we have to live dual lives.  How many of your real friends know you hobby?

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Actually I would have a friends only no sex relationship with someone like you.  A friend of mine who is a women has a daughter that works as a provider and she would.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you do for a living.  I thank God for women like you.  In a time of need you are there.

That's BS, I had and still have non prodiver friends when I was working in the biz. Most of my friends(male and female)knew what I did and didn't look down their nose at me.

My best friend of over 10 years supported me when I told her I was getting into the biz.

Maybe it's time for you to take some time off and focus on friendships outside of the biz. The last thing you should be doing is making this biz your personal life.

Good luck!
WL

"I have a ton of icky guys I've been seeing I'd like to get rid of" -- Disappointed's "friend"


if i understand you correctly, THIS is her idea of sharing the wealth (her clientele) with you???

if so, then honey fuggabout her. undermining you by trashing BBBJs? screw her. stealing your clients while at it? screw her with vengeance ... in any BUSINESS you step on anyone's toes and impede their influx of revenue and you can bet someone will pay and pay through the nose. just ask any businessMAN in almost any business. but the exact same is true for women and this business. it's human nature, no gender bias about it whatsoever.

now if i misunderstood you and she's a "friend" worth your reconsderation ("give her a chance", etc) then by all means, give her a chance ... she'll do it to you again. gauaranteed.


btw, i'm getting the sense from your post that you're venting some stuff that's for a particular few's consumption and benefit and not necessarily the public at large. so if this is NOT what you expected to hear, you'll forgive me, i'm sure.



IAATM

Thanks, I think you understood me exactly.  It's time to stop trying to make friends in the industry.

This was more to vent.

My old boss used to have a saying "I guess people are just acting human." I always thought it was pretty corny, but now that I'm getting close to the age he was when he was saying it...

The point is, while this situation is ripping your heart out, it is no reflection on you. It is a reflection on the other lady. If you add up all of the things you have done for other ladies in the business (I am assuming here), you have to have a great sense of pride in what you have done.  Its unfortunate, but very human, that the things you do for others are not always recognized by those you have helped the most.

But trust me, there are many who do recognize, but maybe have forgotten to mention it lately. Confide in them.

Nobody 'belongs' to anybody. Your clients are not 'yours'. They pay me to (make sure) I am that way. Do I adore them all and want them for keeps!? Of course! But, that's what makes them so special, and seeing them on a repeat visit even greater! Remember this - when they make a date with you - they CHOSE you. What a compliment - what a treasure.
Feeling differently ruins the fantasy for everyone. Enjoy them when you have them..

What's that saying about the bird, and setting it free? You know the one..

Besides, everything is for a season, and I'm glad it is.

I told one friend about my "second job", a very respectable gal and she is totally cool about it.  It is rare but it can be done.