An interesting phenomena that I've noticed over the past few years:
A small segment of male clientele seem to PREFER or get some sexual or personal enjoyment out of being bitched at, complained to, or otherwise having their provider be disgruntled or angry with them. Then, they will apologize profusely and get some pleasure out of satiating and pleasing the provider so that he can then "win her back", have hot makeup sex, etc. I have finally figured out that those who enjoy this BWE are causing the drama on purpose and actually like to be in the doghouse. Maybe it triggers the hunting instinct to know that he will have to figure out a way to win back the girl, whereas when she's happy, it is too easy and he quickly becomes bored? Does anyone enjoy this BWE or experienced something similar
I suppose some people like being shit on, some emotionally so. I don't like anyone being angry at me.
Whatever boils your crawfish.
That's the beauty here. For enough bucks, anything is possible to make your fantasy come to life.
Kinda sounds like the guys going for this are hanging in the Dom/Sub aisle of the store.
Yeah I was thinking the same thing. BSC sub/dom play.
To be kicked hard in the nads. 
yes, FORMER. After 6 years & many pleasant hours, I can not imagine anything that would make me want to see her again. More like BEWE!! (Bitchy Ex Wife Experience) Moving on!
when the attitude comes out I'm done.
Are you sure you're reading them right?
Are they maybe just angry and can only display their anger when they are confronted with another angry person?
In other words, are they goading you into a shouting match (or whatever) because then they feel they have license to vent?
This is a very strange but not all that rare mechanism.
I'd suggest you try to avoid these people, ESPECIALLY as a provider. (bitchy + vulnerable correlates to trouble)
Yeah, re-reading this, it sounds like there could be some psycho potential for danger, but I don't think so because it's more like harmless, annoying drama that's instigated in order to get a rise. So they can then beg for forgiveness. Nothing ever escalates or gets violent.
No one has admitted it, but I swear that some (maybe 10%) of men really do get aroused when the provider acts bitchy or yells at them.
Are they maybe just angry and can only display their anger when they are confronted with another angry person?
In other words, are they goading you into a shouting match (or whatever) because then they feel they have license to vent?
This is a very strange but not all that rare mechanism.
I'd suggest you try to avoid these people, ESPECIALLY as a provider. (bitchy + vulnerable correlates to trouble)
Or some kind of personality thing? I checked out your site to see how you present yourself, and on the "At A Glance" page saw the description, "introverted, feminine, diplomatic" and thought, someone of such an ilk as you describe might move on to descriptions like, "fiery, outgoing, in control" or something like that. Given, personality is maybe only 10% of what swings the choice of who to see, but still...
So what I was concerned about is that the chewing-out could mirror what their wife, girlfriend, co-worker, mother, whoever does to them but they can't fight back like they'd like to, so they look for someone to treat them that way in a setting where they feel they CAN fight back. That could escalate.
From what you're saying, though, it might be closer to him saying, "I've been a bad boy, scold me and spank me, please..." Which amounts to role play, and as such, is pretty harmless, however annoying you find it.
What if you suggested getting more into the role play with him, pretending to be his boss or babysitter or wife or evil stepmother or whatever? That might be what he's really looking for, and by putting it into a pretend mode you can more easily control how long it lasts and how far it goes. Just thinking.
Good food for thought. This must be a personality thing because these "rifts" have gone on for weeks or months at a time before we finally make-up. So we're not talking a 2-hour role play session here. But I also realize now, unlike before, that its all being "put on" for his excitement. So I just play along.
Anyway, you pretty nailed it with the whole "I've been such a bad boy..." act that follows the drama. Im not naturally aggressive or dominant at all, actually the total opposite, but I can see how you would be a little confused based on the conflicting info in this thread. But if someone annoys you daily for weeks and months, of course one day you'll snap (lol)
But maybe it does, and it is rather a mental thing.. Typically those personalities don't make it very far with me.. I like easy going, pleasant personalities rather.. and I am not into S&M or any other kinky, out of the ordinary stuff either..To each their own...
A small segment of male clientele seem to PREFER or get some sexual or personal enjoyment out of being bitched at, complained to, or otherwise having their provider be disgruntled or angry with them. Then, they will apologize profusely and get some pleasure out of satiating and pleasing the provider so that he can then "win her back", have hot makeup sex, etc.
I have finally figured out that those who enjoy this BWE are causing the drama on purpose and actually like to be in the doghouse. Maybe it triggers the hunting instinct to know that he will have to figure out a way to win back the girl, whereas when she's happy, it is too easy and he quickly becomes bored?
Does anyone enjoy this BWE or experienced something similar?
Leave them to be.
You are not getting paid to understand them.
I've heard of guys that like girls to give it to them with a strap on. Heard of guys that pay girls to slap and kick them in the balls. Not my cup of tea.
I like to start with kissing and DFK, end with BBBJ/CIM, and do all the other acronyms in between...thank you very much.
make-up sex part.
I had enough of that bullshit when I was married. I sure as well don't want to pay for that, ok I did pay for that when I was married. But hey, to each their own.
I almost fell into that shithole when I first started.
I realized that the women I meet here are friends.
Not soulmates....
I'm guessing your guys are falling into that trap.
I have to be honest, and say.
I think it's bad for the mind to have what they call an ATF.
That's not what I came here for.
Meaning.. I don't want to share anything other than my sexual fantasies with an escort.
Sometimes that rule gets broken though.
Both sides are to blame when that happens
..please note that "had" is past tense... a shame too as I really liked her on and off the clock.. especially on the clock...
so the topic invites a discussion of which of our two worlds is more real. (Or even the good old, what is reality?)
Suffice it to say, that with most gals I see, if it is for a long enough time, and a long enough get together, the BWE usually comes up in some way or another.
Think of it as the surly waiter you get at an otherwise fine restaurant.
Nothing is ever 100%, right?
On the fact that BWE eventually appears.
We've all heard the expression "honeymoon period."
I know it's over and I am entering the BWE transition period from telltale signs. She starts texting me with annoying requests OTC (can you look this up for me? i'm getting my nails done.), is a touch less polite ("do this" instead "could/would you", no "please"), or she starts to take our time together for granted (are you coming or not?).
I might revenge f that 2-3 more times usually and then bye-bye.
Or else she gets the ring. That hasn't happened yet. Lol.
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My ex was not too bitchy, but it got a little bit worse towards the end of the marriage. There's no way I'd want to go to see someone and pay for that experience. There are a lot of kinks and fetishes out there and to each his own. If that's what some guy wants then more power to him.
A small segment of male clientele seem to PREFER or get some sexual or personal enjoyment out of being bitched at, complained to, or otherwise having their provider be disgruntled or angry with them. Then, they will apologize profusely and get some pleasure out of satiating and pleasing the provider so that he can then "win her back", have hot makeup sex, etc.
I have finally figured out that those who enjoy this BWE are causing the drama on purpose and actually like to be in the doghouse. Maybe it triggers the hunting instinct to know that he will have to figure out a way to win back the girl, whereas when she's happy, it is too easy and he quickly becomes bored?
Does anyone enjoy this BWE or experienced something similar?
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/showReview.asp?Review=1264333
I have played this scene with Mistress Justyne of Maryland/DC or MJ as she likes to call herself. I have repeated this scenario with her a few times. It is so hot!
That is one of the most worthwhile reviews I have ever read.