You learn quickly that picking ladies strictly from the catalog (no reviews) means almost a 70 percent failure rate and even 6s are a drop off from what you get if you do your homework... Stay away from the pretty pictures on EROS for example... Earn the trust of other hobbyists on your local board, share intel when you get it and don't waste money on pretty tricks who are thinking "Give me HJ for $300, Alex."

Of course there is, in all aspects of life. There is no perfect life. Everyone has some decisions they would like to do over even if the outcome was great the first time. Hindsight is 20/20 and there is not one person in the world who wouldn't change at least one thing they have ever done, especially when beautiful women are involved

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After each date

I 'walk through the tapes'. (Not literally, figuratively, but man it WOULD be nice to review the date on tape!)

I do it twice, once while I am traveling home, and again about a week later, since my thoughts may change.

I ask myself
   -what I particularily liked and disliked about the date.
   -what, if anything, I could have done to make the experience even better.
   -would I see her again.

I don't focus on what she did/could have done, since I can only control myself. I do find for some, after a weeks time, the initial glow has dimmed somewhat, while for others I am planning to meet again as soon as possible.

Reflecting on the above questions has helped me understand better what I am looking for in a date, decreasing the chance of a poor choice going forward.

All of my reviews are written at least a week or two later, so if I seem enamoured of a lady I spent time with, imagine what the review would have sounded like if I wrote it after a few hours! I'd be accused of being a shill for sure in some cases!

I think questioning HOW you hobby is normal.  It takes time to perfect your style and internal mission statement.  Never question THAT you hobby.  The day you do that, get castrated and buy a hybrid.  Game over.

perhaps it would have done one of two things!:
1) perhaps it would have driven me to a divorce sooner.... as with all things the more inertia there is the harder it is to "get the ball rolling" and in a lifeless marriage... time builds inertia like Al-Qaida builds bombs.  This would have been good for my ex, our kids and also for me.
2) sparked my desire to have sex with the ex Ms. Superdude...  alas... part of what killed my marriage was the lack of interest (on both our parts) to "love" each other....

So you see, retrospect - probably would have been a good thing....

Even the encounters with B&S however teach me things....   and here is the biggie from that... Most of the ladies on the "TER 'A' List" respect themselves.  They take pride in their appearance and make no apologies for what they do, but rather pride in doing a good job.  Most of the B&S ladies are less than fastidious about their personal hygiene, appearance, how they present themselves or even having a good time....  they simply make me appreciate even more the ladies who are quality and view this line of work as a true "profession" in the truest sense.

it is too easy to generalize... all men are XYZ, are women are XYZ, all provider hook ups are XYZ... it's a lot healthier and sure preserves your sanity to treat each encounter as a real experience that won't be like any other real experience. The thing is to allow yourself to go deep into the moment and totally experience what that moment has to offer. The thing not to do, and this took me years to learn, is to be comparing one moment from one phase in your life to another moment or this moment. Hobbying is about being present in the present. It's a form of meditation. When you can let go and trust the present moment to be what it is the most amazingly fine things just happen organically.

1)No Call, No Show
"I should have called a different provider"
2)$600 for a 35 minute lesson in upselling
"I shouldn't have gone on Backpage"
3)Just like doing the laundry
"It was a small load. I should have done it by hand"

What a lousy night that was!!!!!

There Is Always The Chance Of Disappointment When You Hobby...

a lady with great reviews has an off day and you see her on that day.

You get baited and switched.

You get a $300 15 minute HJ.

You get one quick pop on one of those days where you could go for three long pops.

Of course there are times that remorse sets in, but then again there are those other times that make up for it.

The hot MILF who gave up her aerobics time at the gym to "workout" with you.

The lady who loves sucking cock so much, she barely slows down to swallow and start again.

The cute little Latina who always gets three pops out of you and smiles and laughs with you the whole time you are together.

The GFE who enjoys your time together so much she takes you out for dessert after your time together.

And of course there is the lady that not only claims to not be a clock watcher, but really isn't.  The one that considers the donation for an encounter whatever time that may take.  The lady who after your first pop, brings a Gatorade to you and says drink up, I have plans for you!   You Gotta Love That!

So yes, there can be remorse, but there can also be pleasantly suprised, gratefully blessed, and unbelieveably impressed!

Good Luck and Good Hobbying!