Hide the hobby phone in the office? So then the only time I can hobby is during work hours? With this approach you can't hobby after work, because then you need to go back to work to drop off the hobby phone! I have Verizon, so no sim card.

I know this may be different for some guys, but I think a lot of guys are in the same situation as me. An unknown phone turning up would be much harder to explain than a random call to my regular cell phone. My wife does not answer my cell phone (because it's either my friends or work), and she doesn't look at the bill, certainly not closely enough to try to identify every specific call.

Hobby phones don't make sense for everyone.

Sooooooooo,

I received an email from a hobbier's wife letting me know that her husband wouldn't be meeting me today.

For all the providers out there, it is crucial that you do not give out your real phone number or any hotel information via email.  I never do this and thank God I didn't this time around either.  This was a guy I have seen several times but I still didn't choose to give him any  info in an email.  Always use a track phone and speak about meeting places via phone call.

I understand that things like this happen sometimes but hobbiers, please try to be extra carfeul with your email accounts so they don't fall into the hands of someone that would not be happy about it.  It will not only cause major problems for you but, also for the provider that you are seeing.

All I can say is that I'm glad that I practice safe scheduling and reccomend the same for everyone else!

Happy and Safe Hobbying to you all!

Muah!

xoxoxo Brianna

i think thats a good point but not sure what the alternitave options are since most of my communication before a date with someone is via email since a lot of guys dont have hobby phones  since having an extra phone is suspicouis if your wife finds it lol and prefer  email as the main communication? any tips would be great and thanks in advance! xoxo Lilly Lockhart

Miss Brianna,

Thank you for your post. It's right on time.

I also just got a crazy yahoo voicemail from a very upset wife. I'm so glad that I distanced myself from the situation. I always use a throw away phone and info.

In truth the person I feel for most is the hobbyist. He loves his wife. He's a good man, husband, and father. He simply likes to taste me once a week because his wife doesn't allow him DATY. He's never been rude or nasty to me. It's quite unfortunate. He and I became friends! I'm sad for him as his friend.

Due to his indiscretion, three people are carrying heavy hearts: the SO, the hobbyist, and the provider.

Please Safe Hobbying,
Concerned Ho

I had known my client for over 5 years and he was the type to
text ( I'm not fond at all of texting) and I always questioned
him about it and about his own discretion  because he told me
that he once got followed and did get caught when he vanished
for a couple of months one time. He told me no this cell phone is safe, it
stays in my desk at work so it's ok  . He would always text me when
he was on his way . This one time , he set up his appointment and
followed by some sexy talk text ( which I am not fond of) and this
time it was his wife. She text  me back saying stay the hell away
from my husband of I will have you arrested. I never heard from him
again and it's probably a good thing .

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I only see people who give me a phone number I can contact.  Its part of my screening process.

Hard to believe a guy can't hide a hobby phone. Or, have access to a phone away from home. I'm guessing that most guys who hobby have an office. Hide the phone there. If you want something smaller to hide, then get a sim card phone (AT&T, t-mobil), and hide a hobby sim card. If he has a laptop, Skype will work.

I see it as the cost of hobbying. A few ladies I know will only give the hotel location over the phone. A few who give it by e-mail, will only give out the room number by phone. One lady I know never gives out her number either. She gives me a general location via e-mail, and will call my cell phone at the appointed time to give me final directions.

That's absolutely frightening.

A while back I had a client who asked that I text him on New Year's Eve. So I did. Turns out that evening he was sick and his wife had his phone.

She was very discreet, searched my number and ended up at my doorsteps. Fortunately for me, I was not at home. But client told me she described my place. They almost ended up in a divorce. As for myself, I ended up with a hobby phone that cannot be traced back to me personally. Now I stay away from contacting clients unless they do so first.

One needs to know only the call point for the second call.  Probably in sight of the hotel.  I actually have coffee shops programed into my GPS...   in areas I frequently travel to.   It really should not be that hard to hide something smaller than a pack of cigarettes!  

A separate free email account.  Never open it it someone is nearby.  In turning over a computer...  set it to clear history on shut down...  and always shut it down.  Even if you have to click the off button by accident.  Ooops!  

It is too easy to get complacent & sloppy...  and sloppy gets guys caught.  When I started this hobby I promised myself that I'd not do anything "stupid".  It wasn't long before I learned that I was not being adequately careful.  NO, I was not caught...  but what I was doing relied on LUCK.  Luck is not a PLAN!   Over the years, I've seen about every bone-head move.  And guys keep finding new ones!   Every one of us MUST practice the highest security at all times.  Every time some rookie gets caught...  a dozen or more wives learn what to look for.  The Newbie board is invalueable for prospective, new and vetran hobbiests...   to learn or brush up on best practices...  

I agree that ladies should use a Trac type phone.  One can not be too careful.  

A hobby buddy of mine has a drop dead gorgeous wife, she is smoking hot but she is 50 (He is 60+) and he likes fucking 20 year olds. He has told me that she has a full menu and does not deny him anything, again she is not 20. And sometimes he likes to fuck a 20 year old blonde and sometimes a Latina. Other times he wants the stripper look. And let me say that she has an amazing stripper body with huge tits. If she was single and I would be all over that.

So I agree that not all wives are frigid, fat and ugly. I bet some of you have real babes.

I really tried to stay our of this one. I really did.

For three years, my husband was seeing escorts, that I know of. I didn't have a clue. He didn't want sex from me anymore. I blamed our grief.
One night, he was late coming home and said he would pick up dinner on his way. Fine. It was getting  later and later, so finally I called him. He said he was on his way he got a little lost over by this local shopping mall. I didn't understand why he would be over there, it was not near his work or our home. It sent a red flag, but not enough for me to go crazy. That night, I dressed up sexy and tried to have sex. He turned me down. So, yes, I went looking.
First, I looked at his cell. Something, I never did before. Nothing. I sat there, 2 am and knowing in my gut something was not right. The next day, Saturday, we spent out with our daughter. Great day, but I still knew something was not right.
Saturday night we went out and I called him out on it. I said, I think you are cheating (never did I think he was paying for it). I was pretty drunk and a little out of control, in a fun way. He laughed at the idea. That night we had amazing sex (but it always is after a few drinks)
Sunday, he went out with our daughter and I stayed in bed, hung over. I started thinking more and at one point thought to go on the computer, my laptop not his. Still not sure of what to look for. I looked at our online cell phone bill. There is was!
Phone numbers that he was calling and then deleted from his phone. I didn't think to call them, why would I. What if they were people in his army unit? He is their commander, I can't let anyone know that I thought something was wrong. We were constantly be told how wonderful we were as a couple.
I googled some numbers, which led me to bp and cl. I looked at the pictures, put it all together.
I handed him my laptop with everything i found on it. I pointed out the phone bill and the pictures.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER did I call any of the women, try to visit them at their locations or involve them in my problems. They did not take a vow to me, did not promise to be faithful, they did not owe me anything.
I looked at their pictures, their websites, trying to figure out what they had that I did not. I looked at the services that they offered, there was nothing.
I could not find a reason, they were not better looking, they didn't offer any sexual activities that I didn't do.
After two years of therapy, we are getting along great. Better than ever. Do I trust him? I don't know. Do I think he is cheating? He says no, and until I see a red flag go up, I need to believe that.
I always thought that I would walk away if I was cheated on. I use to think of how stupid women were to put up with it. I realize that 20 years of a relationship is not that easy to walk away. I had to give it my all and in the end if that is not good enough, then we divorce.
Another thing, I did not tell a single soul about this outside of our therapist. Why would I? It was enough for me to know what he did, I don't want to ruin his career, ruin my daughter's childhood. So there are not 12 more women knowing about these sites because of me. I was destroyed enough, I couldn't carry it into the public and the rest of our family. Somethings are met to stay private. I don't seek revenge on anyone.
I am glad it was prostitutes for the simple fact that he had no emotional connection. He put his money down, got what he wanted and left. It also hurt that he was willing to pay someone for what I would do for him.
I was asked why I am on this board, this life interest me. Plain and simple. I love sex.  I would love to be able to  sell it. I hold no hard feelings toward anyone. It does surprise me how so many men talk about their wives but stay married. How the escorts believe what the men say? The sterio type put on wifes. How it is so easy to judge the wife?
Do I judge any of you, not at all? I strongly believe you should live the life that makes you happy.

After finishing using the hobby phone: step one,turn phone off.  Step 2 remove battery (no chance it will ring).  Step 3, hide phone and battery in separate hiding places (if found, it's a dead phone you "found").

For every guy that hides a hobby phone in his office, there's another guy who forgets to return the hobby phone to his office after the appointment. Wife takes the car for an errand, hobby phone rings, wife finds unfamiliar phone. Hilarity ensues...

Or worse yet, guy forgets to drop hobby phone back at office after the appointment, accidentally brings hobby phone into house, hobby phone rings. Hilarity ensues...

I bet you would make a good provider. There's probably already some manginas jerking off to your post. You can only lurk for so long before you indulge.

Exactly! And in my clients case one would have thought he
learned his lesson after his wife hired a P.I. to follow him. He got caught
in public with another lady he was seeing as he would alternate his sessions.

In a way I am glad I am not seeing him anymore. Between the texting that annoyed me
to no end , and  learning about his lack of discretion he would wind
up having someone shot. His wife even called me up which I forgot to mention
and admitted who she was . But the texts were out of control.

Sorry to butt in ... I haven't finished reading the whole topic yet.  Sometimes giving the general location by email is good enough until the final 5-minutes-before phone call with room number.  I have even been told "The Hilton" only to find out 5 minutes before that she was really at "The Marriot" on the opposite side of the street! Not a problem; keeps people more comfortable and still gets the gents to the right place on time.

Wouldn't this be more of an issue with the idiot being careless. If you know, your wife or SO goes through your personal stuff, why would you not be careful?

I am not married or have SO at this precise moment so, it doesn't matter. You these posts now and again which makes think first, what an idiot? Second, why would you not protect the information such as you email, mobile phone etc.? Third, why would you share an email address today when, there plenty of free emails out there? Fourth, assuming you are sharing one computer, why would you not set up different accounts with different passwords (you can set up accounts and control your private shit), sixth, when and if I have SO (big if), and they go through my private shit, they will be out the door in less 2 micro seconds, personal peeve of mine. I don't go through anyones shit even if it is plain sight and even if they want me to see the crap. I don't need to know, if I can't trust, I don't need to be there and be miserable.

I don't think I have guts to be a provider. I think they are risking alot and carry alot of bravery.

I wouldn't say that I am understanding.

The points I was trying make:
I do not blame the ladies for the problems in my marriage that made my husband turn to them.
My husband did not read the newbie manual, no hobby phone. lol
Every wife is not how most of the men here think they are

My wife is 54 and, when she gets herself up, can stop traffic.  We were at a wedding last month and she looked amazing.  I still didn't want to fuck her, though.

I got busted by the wife not too long ago. Totally my fault (idiot) because I didn't close out the email account before shutting down the computer. I thought that I was toast but she was actually glad it was an escort and not a civvie. She thought it was just the one lady. We worked things out and things are much better between us. I've seriously cut back on my hobbying but still need the occasional "fix".  I'm a reasonably attractive man and get hit on by civvie ladies from time to time but am never seriously tempted because I hobby.

After all , it was very thoughtful of her to alert you rather than a simple NCNS.   Just kidding .  I think you might  be a little concerned that she does not misplace blame concerning her errant husband [ ie..he is to blame..not you] and do anything damaging with your email address...like send it to her local LE.  Might want to consider changing jurisdictions for a while.

What a close call since there is no way LE could find your ad, website and reviews and find your email address that way. haha

Okay, I get that it's better to be under the radar...

I never caught him cheating, but there was so much sexual rejection (even early on) that at one point I felt like the ugliest woman in the world. I am divorced now.

Meeting so many men who see me differently has completely changed the way I see myself. I understand now that his lack of interest in sex had nothing to do with me.

So, there are just a few steps from being interested to being chosen as an object of desire and summoned.

You just need to get professional pictures, a website and you will be ready to rock!

Imagine how he would feel if you were escorting behind his back? LOL

(Get a Trac phone!)

Yeah it really sucks that this particular hobbier couldn't keep his personal stuff under control.  I have decided not to play in the VA and DC area any longer  You just never know.  Looks like I'll just be a travel girl from here on out!  I will be changing my name, website and email.  Do you think this a good idea?
 
Muah!

Thanks for the sarcasim - have a great day

Ofcourse, if I were you I change my phone# emai, website and the way you screen ppl.
Also, why are you not coming back to DC? Did something happened?

abandoning DC & VA or going totally outcall might be an overreaction. My immediate concern was if the wife was aware of your pesent location and was vindictive toward you , there might be risk.

Angelique, that exactly how I felt. That was my interest in this board, the websites, seeing the pictures. I didn't want revenge. I wanted to know what the ladies had that I did not.
I feel better about it now. I still have a day that I am hard on myself, I ate bad that day, didn't go to the gym...but I am happy.
I am having professional pictures taken, but as a gift for my husband. I believe I said earlier that I could not provide, I am a chicken and I think you are all pretty brave to do what you do.
If I did, I know to get t Trac phone...I have read the Newbie Manual. lol

I like this life, it turns me on. I like reading this board, to me it is exciting. I am not trying to dig for information. I don't think my husband was/is on here. I don't know, don't care.

I am happy for you, that you found what you needed to feel secure with yourself. I wish you well.

I text back - ONCE - and tell them to "call me because texting is too slow for me."

If they text again instead of calling, I don't answer it (I'll read it, but I don't answer it).

If they text me a third time, I call them. I sometimes get a "Why did you call me?" when I do that; my stock answer: Because I don't text and you were obviously trying to contact me. Most of the time, if they've asked that, they'll hang up and I never hear from them again.

The rest of the time, I'll talk with them a bit; we'll either have a date or we won't.

I actually thought of doing this someday for my future SO.

Be your own mistress! Get a wig, a trac phone and start an affair with your own husband with your secret identity. Sneak around with him behind your own back! "When is your wife leaving?" He might find the naughtiness of it without all the guilt very exciting.

And it would be really hot if you pretended to be an escort. I'm not sure if this will actually be kind of painful since it really happened, but it's something you might find kind of fun just to pretend.

I used to do things like leave a note on the table, "Meet me at Hampton Inn, room 340" with a pair of panties on the table. It was fun to "act like" lovers once in a while rather than a married couple and just pretend we were being naughty.

I hope the pictures turn out hot as hell so you feel you can "Hang With The Big Girls"

Just to be clear!!!!!!!!! There is nothing wrong with the way I screen people - It was the idiot hobbier who couldn't keep his email private from his wife.  Take a little more time to read before you post.

Very nice! Now you calling your clients idiot? Anyway, I was talking in general, your organizational skills sux.