i was turned away because my date saw me through the peephole and didn't like what i was wearing. i was dressed casual because it was a weekend. wtf! i walked away and she texted me to say she cant keep the apptointment because of what i was wearing. what a fucking bitch. what do you guys wear on the weekend or after hours?
..... I wouldn't turn you away for that.... sounds like you were dressed nice -_o. I've seen guys come in their lol fedex uniform lol. chef uniform, t-shirt shorts and flip-flops, suit & tie straight from work you name it.
Think there's an underlying thing there. I'm TOO casual. I've seen ladies in a t-shirt, shorts and flip flops. Went after work in my 'uniform'. Even answered an outcall in a towel a few times. One of them with the hotel maid doing her thing while the lady came into the room.
Doubt if he had a big ol' fucking booger hanging out of his nose she'd turn him away considering his money is green like everybody else's. If his references checked out, he wouldn't be there. Or, maybe the camera crew or his mom standing behind him had something to do with it and she was just being 'polite'...?
The good ol' Conical asian hat. lmao
I wear most anything from jeans/t-shirts to dress pants, oxford shirt and sport coat. (No tie, couldn't tell you the last time I had on a tie.) Wing tip shoes, deck shoes or tennis shoes. Never had a problem. I've never worn shorts and flip flops but I know some do and have never heard of an issue.
For me, shorts (depending on the shorts) and flip flops is a bit too casual. But that's just me. What does your weekend casual look like?
While I don't understand her turning upi away for that.. She has the right to say no to anyone. This does NOT make her a bitch.
I can't imagine why she would turn you away for that..I have had a friend come to my place covered in mud.. Straaight from work and straight to the shower..( was for warned, which was a plus) Casual does not bother me at all..
BUT, LET ME BE VERY CLEAR, A gentleman that shows up in nice clothes, ( I always notice yoru shoes) and or a tie... gets my motor running.... !!!!!!LOVE, LOVE IT...
If you came to my door and looked like a homeless bum who had not had a bath, combed your hair,and had stains and dirt all over your clothes.. I would have to decline the visit for sure....
In Rhode Island, I've seen more uniforms than I can count! The only one I haven't entertained is the state LE one. You must give us more details! What'd you have on?
Maybe its a no shirt, no shoes, no servicing policy?
I'm sorry this happened to you.
KK
The RI Staties often win first place for best uniforms in an annual competition for this.
Really!
What is "this"? The hobby or looking good in uniform?
I'm strangely attracted to police officers. LOL. I just hope they aren't attracted to me!
KK
But, it is still a good cautionary tale for us guys to be conscientious about what we wear.
Gals do care, and while they may see you even if you dress like you dove into a dumpster to find your gear, they will enjoy you (and therefore you'll enjoy them more) if you dress in a manner that says to them, you care.
This means, at a minimum: A clean shirt with a collar without an obscene message on it, slacks that have at least a semblence of a crease, (shorts OK on very warm days), and shoes preferabley made from something that had parents.
Sorry to have to say it but the old saying is true: Clothes do make the man.
That fucking sucks. I thought you put a lot of thought into those, meaning, they would be appropriate for a date with a lady I'm getting ready to hand over hundreds of dollars for?
I mean, you say the clothes make the man. And cuz of my behavior, I'd suspect if a lady knew anything about me, wearing a T-shirt that said 'How can I be so thirsty when I drank so much last night' would be A-OK in their book.
Oh well. Guess I'll take some fashion tips here pretty soon.... 
Not sure I agree. Sometimes the location, the lady's web site, etc., imply a certain level of class. Without knowing who/where she was, and without knowing what he was wearing, I think it is impossible to tell if she was out of line. She should not have to explicitly say the equivalent of "Do not embarras me and draw undo attention to your arrival by how you are dressed".
Clothes not only make the man (and the lady), but proper clothes also make for discretion.
Yeh-I would need to know WTF you were wearing-then I could form an opinion-right now my opinion is that WTF you were wearing created a poor image-and you did say you were casual-casual is in the eye of the beholder-that is why so many companies had problems with casual day-it was very difficult to draw the line......perhaps and most likely you were over the line-beyond the pale-et al !! ????? So "S'plain Yourself!!
Cause women hate that shit, especially if you looked better in it than she did.
It isn't John Edwards, is it ?? !!
My guess is Marcus Bachmann... oh wait, he only likes boys.
As others mention, maybe you should tell us what you were wearing. You may have been wearing something that made her concerned. Or simply you just may not have been her taste.
When I go to see a provider, I always take a hot soapy shower, loiton my body up, spray on some body spray, put on some clean boxer, socks, clean dress shirt, and slacks. I spray on some really nice colon, be well groomed, and throw on some nice dress shows.
I show up to see the provider as if we're going out on a nice date. Many providers I see, I can tell they are impress, and their performance tells.
When you go to see a provider just take the time, to put on something you know a woman would like.
You only made the change after a provider told you to.
If you were dressed casually and your clothes are clean I don't get it.Every lady has the right to decline a person she does not want to see but to not open the door because of attire.Just what the heck were you wearing?If casual to you is jeans and t-shirt I do not see the issue unless you were going somewhere that called for more dressed-up attire.As long as you are clean who cares if you are wearing jeans versus a suit the clothes don't stay on for long anyways.
Just my .02
Exactly. On my website it says I don't worry about what you wear if you
are in jeans or a suit. What I do care about is how clean a man is .
It's getting taken off anyway .
I know someone name angela too but she has a diferent last name.
That's what I like to hear! You ladies rock, lol!
.........please give me her contact info. I'd pay a good girl like double !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have none so you came with a handle with CoomonSense it in the hopes of getting some by repitition. No chance dude, you aint got it in your DNA.
I usually wear shorts, tennis shoes, and short sleeve shirt when not at work , weather permitting.
The first time I saw my fave, she was at the beach with ocean front room.
I showed up with bathing suit and surfboard.
She opened the door and let me in.
if you lok like a bum I will make my dog bark to scar you away. ware a suite next time. I am mad.
I do not know because you did not tell us, but "casual" has a wide range of meanings. Ripped jeans and aprofanity laced t-shirt is one merson's "casual" and someone else's "I am not letting someone like THAT into my hotel room!"
What was the location? Ritz-Carlton or Motel-6?
Was it a dinner date or a stay-inside hour?
Most of all, what did SHE look like, it would give you a big clue what she might expect.
I have to admit when your short note gives no details like these, and when it is full of "Im_a_Pretty_Boy", "wtf!", and "fucking bitch" I have to wonder what immage you projected at the door. I obviously do not know, but your words hint it might not have been appropriate to certain places and certain ladies.
To answer your question directly, when it is a weekend or evening date I do dress differently then when I am hanging around the house or doing work on my car. For a date with someone I have not met before I will typically dress as if we are going to a 5-star restaurant, even if we are not. I have never been told I was over dressed, often had reson to believe it was significantly appriciated.
I suspect I will hear a number of "The guy is paying, he shouldn't have to put in the time to look good as well", which may be true, but so long as many guys do not it does seem to result in my good fortune. Letting a lady know she is worth more than just a few dollars, she is actually worth a little of your time, is usually rewarded very well.
Do as you wish, just relaying my experiences.
I like a girl with standards. Put a clean handkerchief in the top pocket of your jacket next time, works every time. Remember, they figure you smell like you look!
As others have said, if you look like a bum you will not be seen by certain ladies, but I would also add that if you look like a douchebag (and you are younger) some will turn you away. I have a policy to only see mature gentlemen, but every once in a while a younger and more immature one slips through the cracks. I don't discriminate by age and if you look clean and respectful I will see you BUT (and this is more common for younger guys) if you show up wearing Ed Hardy / TapOut / MMA gear with torn jeans, skater shoes, baseball cap, whatever, I will not see you. I'm basing this on past experience. The times I chose to see someone dresses like that were all too weird for me. I'm more of a naughty GFE, not so into PSE with someone I've never met before. So extreme dirty talk, ass slapping, wrists pinned down, etc by some guy who is twice my size does not really make me feel comfortable. I see a direct correlation between the clothes I described and that behavior. So if that was your weekend casual wear, it might have been the reason. (Btw, calling her a "fucking bitch" without letting us know what you wore doesn't earn you any sympathy.)
i donnt wnat to bye them so i can dres ok for ladis
With your foul mouth of describing her a "fucking bitch", you seem like an edyot who does not respect rules/boundaries. There were probably lots of red flags with you, and your clothes was the straw that broke the camel's back..
I would open the door and beat the shit of of him
but unfortunately they do for some people. Who cares? The clothes are coming off soon. To me the less clothes and the easier to come off the better. Shorts, and flip flops, is standard dress code where I live. A guy wearing a suit would look so out of place it isn't funny. Don't wear dirty clothes, or clothes with holes in them. (Unless the girl expects that, like the post above about the guy who was muddy) Dress approprioately for where you are going. If you are taking a provider out for a fancy dinner date, that's a lot different than an hour in a hotel room. If it is just an hour at a a hotel, are you meeting in the Hyatt Regency or the Motel 6? If you are meeting at a beach cabana, I think showing up in swim trunks is perfectly suitable. Dress appropriately for the location, occasion and time of day. And if she is coming to your room, then you should be able to answer the door in a towel. (I wouldn't on a first meeting though--I would probably have on shorts a t shirt and barefeet)
It goes both ways though. Some hobbyists expect the providers to be all dolled up, in a nice outfit, and with stockings and garters, and high heels. For me I am perfectly happy to see a provider in a sun dress (with nothing underneath preferably) and flip flops. Jeans, shorts, or a denim skirt with a tank top is perfectly acceptable to me also . No or very little makeup. No stockings. No high heels. No fancy lingerie...
If I go out in a suit and tie on the weekend, my wife would know something is up because it is T-shirt and jeans on the weekend. Lesson learned is not to schedule a first time meeting on weekends with a new lady. After I got to know the lady and we have established that I am no bum, she will not have a problem with T-shirt and jeans on the weekend.
...........when I do choose to work a weekend, I always let my gentlemen know my expectations up front: "while I know it is the weekend, and I do not expect you to wear a coat and tie, I would ask that you do not wear shorts, flip flops, or a collarless shirt.
If the lady did not tell you her expectations, then she should have not refused to see you.
Hugs and Kisses
This is very strange to me...
I can't believe the lady turned you down because of what you wore? I'm not saying this was the case, but maybe she didn't like the way you looked?
I usually wear nice jeans and a button up shirt. Obviously, if I were to go on a dinner date, I would wear black dress pants and a dress shirt.
I'm sorry you were shut down like this, totally bogus excuse if you ask me.
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