This is what I hear when I scream from having my breasts crushed in a man's strong hands.
"Some women like that"
I have seen these women and after the guys leave they complain that their breasts hurt.
They don't tell the guys that they are hurting them.
The breasts are full of nerves .I don't think that crushing nerves would feel good.
I was in Hawaii and someone pinched my nipple so hard that it hurt to be touched for about 8 months.
So I had one good side.
I have seen the reviews when a lady tells the hobbyist that he is hurting her he writes that her "breasts are soooo sensitive that you cannot get near them "
Yet EVERYONE else there that day had a good time without hurting me.
I have been called too sensitive when Iit hurts to be touched because someone has just injured my nipples.They take a long time to feel pleasure again every time someone is too rough with me.
It is technique.
And some women can take a lot of pain and will allow there breasts to be crushed ,pinched,twisted, and so on.
I have slept with about 400 women and I tend to find ones who like a lot of nipple stimulation but about a third do not.
When I have asked the ladies they say they do not like the way their breasts are man handled but they assume it is just what they have to do for the money.
I think a lot of women "go numb" and dissociate.
I don't do that. I want to be present and enjoy attention.
I just don't understand why someone on a first meeting would go straight for crushing or very hard pinching and just assume it will be okay.
Most women find it painful.
Please don't test crush my breasts and hope I'll be the ONE who likes it...or is so high that I don't feel anything.
I think drugs have a huge impact on what these guys think we like.
I am not on drugs. That is why I am sensitive.
I'm NORMAL.
Some of the other women are numb.. not normal.
Some women do like a lot of stimulation and I'm not saying that they are high on drugs.

It ain't all about you, your guess here, act like it...

Let me see if I am interpreting you right, because I'm kinda having trouble here... but you think that PoleDancer should just sit back and shut up when something is painful to her because it "ain't all about [her]", and in fact isn't ANYTHING about her because hey, you're the one paying?

orgasums on Flora's thread.....

Hey newsflash cumbubble - it ain't all about us, but that sure as shit doesn't give a man license to HURT us. Or am I unwittingly addressing Hannibal Lector right now??

Poledancer brought up a point that I am certain every woman has experienced at one point or another. Every woman has different levels of sensitivity with their breasts and nipples. A few months ago, I had a fellow bite down so hard, I literally thought he bit it off. No foolin. That was the incident that finally convinced me to remove my nipple rings for good. Too many men assumed that I must like having my nipples pulled like silly string because they were pierced.

With the above mentioned fellow, I actually swatted his head while I howled from the pain. His response - "I thought you liked that" with a blank look of surprised. Yes dear, I love having my nipples lightly nibbled on, NOT having them chewed on as though you haven't had a proper meal in a few years.

On a positive note at least, the response to my now ringless nipples has been very positive. Most men have said that they preferred me sans rings because although they looked sexy, they got in the way. I must say, I heartily concur. So there is at least a silver lining to my story.

But sweet cheeks, you desperately need therapy if you think we ladies should just shut up if something a guy does is painful because its "not about us".

The cheeky tart with an attitude has spoken

no offense sins, but me thinks she's just a bit of drama queen, & is taking  license w/the word, let's move on & be happy, if she is in such pain, take it to crisis phone center & talk it out, not the erotic review, Cumprende?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPkqEUwnYCA

This is a good reminder, thank you Poledancer.

I'm amazed at how many men seem to forget that I have a BODY.  Not only do I have a whole body that loves to be touched vs. an hour+ of clit stimulation... but that my clit has thousands of times more nerve endings than the head of a cock.

I wonder what a fellow would think if mirrored with 1,000 times more pressure rolling Mr. Happy between my teeth?  

Gentle, please!  I'm quite clear and happy to ask when I'd like stronger stimulation.

Some of you fellows have learned atrocious techniques and THIS is quite an appropriate place to discuss the matter.

Why is it that the men that say the stupidest things on here use an alias?  What are you hiding? Are you worried that associating your asinine comments with your true identity will hinder your ability to see a provider.  Well, you're probably correct. Either you are saying what you said for 'shock effect' to get us going, or you're an ass. Plain and simple. Yes, please hurt us, please abuse us. We won't say a word because it's all about you and it's your dime. Uh huh. Next!

When's the chic going to cum to bat & complain now about how we're not sensitive to their ass holes? everythink else has been covered...

wasn't the originator an alias?.....
btw, you've been crossed off my list missy..

Most of the girls cannot get in that board.

The boards on TER are only of any use because the ladies participate. Reviews are a good tool but they are a one sided version of the events. The boards are all about interaction between providers and clients. If the only participants here were chest pounding "take it and shut up" morons I wouldn't waste a minute of my time on these boards

Judging from your tone you don't appear to be a big fan of fair and honest interaction. As usual another big mouth hiding behind an alias...

start of slow and gentle then build up to more stimulation

The Oldest Fat Fart when you need him, the angry girls don't get it....

Normally I wouldn’t get into this thread, but I think it’s a good post and worth some consideration.

Typically I like to have my nipples played with roughly, but there are limits to that.  Now- that doesn’t mean I like them slapped, yanked, twisted, crushed, etc.  It may be a function of my size; because sometimes it seems as thou clients feel I can “take it” because I am a big girl (in both height and stature).  It’s sort of like saying a man who is above 6’2” can handle having a woman (of any size) pile-drive his lap, lol.  It still hurts and could possibly cause physical harm.

Now, I employ the “wait and see” method.  When a client asks me what I like, I always say I go with the flow.  Once I have gauged how rough a client is, I try to give hints about what is pleasing and what isn’t.  If it hurts, I will say something.  Despite another post that it’s not all about “me”.  While I am providing a service, I think it’s unreasonable it expect t to be harmed in anyway during the process.  If that logic is honest, then providers should be expected to see diseased clients and do bareback because after all, it ain’t all about us!  So what if we get a life ending illness- it’s all about the client!  PLEASE!  Some clients like to see providers for variety from their LTR, some just like women and some really objectify and view women as disposable vessels from which to gain pleasure.  I make a point to avoid the last type, because it’s one thing to be a little too rough for lack of experience and finesse and another to want to rip a woman’s tits off because you loathe women.

In conclusion, if you’re not SURE the provider you’re seeing like pain- then it’s always better to proceed with caution.  Even if she does like it, everyone has their specific limits- so discuss it if you want to push those boundaries.

One more thing- I really can not stand rough “fingering”, sorry to be so crude.  Women are extremely delicate and it is very easy to irritate if not injure a lady if you are too aggressive.  Granted, some women like that sort of thing- but I would say most don’t.  Our nerves are sensitive, so slamming your hands into such soft, sensitive flesh is not productive.

Happy hobbying!
XO
Melanie

Seriously. What is your disfunction?

If a woman winces, or pushes your head away, or comes right out and tells you it hurts?  It HURTS!. And that is your CLUE to back the F up. Damn.

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the men may not realize their strength.

your bloated ego just doesn't get it....
& yes, i am the new content mod

did you get enough of the attention that you crave.....

A long standing definition of psychological health is, a person having the ability to enter into and maintain a mutually beneficial relationship. If this is your true opinion, I question whether you qualify.

I found Flora's post to be wonderful but I hardly think it was wrecked by PD.  Furthermore, if PD wanted attention- I would think the post wouldn't have been made under an alias.

You need to flame under your true handle and not an alias if you want to make your point.

XO
Melanie

No, just another asshole hiding behind an alias.

Oh no... I just "white knighted" Bostonguy. I have just lost what little self respect I had. ROFL

Yes, some women like more stimulation.
Our breasts are not lumps of tissue for you to manhandle!!

As always, I like to play a little devils advocate.

Some of these dudes (read: not all) are shitty in bed by default, and if you've been with 400 women, maybe you don't like men as much? Men are however, where the money is (generally..) I think if your truly a lesbian though (I'm on the fence about true bi-sexuals, but I go along with it in the case of providers..), or just don't like men, this could be a problem as well. But that's a different topic IMO.. Again..I sit here rooting for Obama, but snipe with conservative-views, I'm odd.

Maybe it's pent-up sexual frustration, and they can't control their emotions, who knows. They shouldn't do it, period.

Men are a bit rougher than a woman by certain, and if we had to be compared to your 400 women's touch (I'd even lose though I'm good -- I can't compare with a woman for certain..), we'd likely be brutes. But if you are generally being 'hurt' then you are with a man that has no idea how to touch or please a woman; which in this business is likely common. I know a lot of independants don't have a security net to where they can just kick a hobbyist out.

To me, it's a warning, a final warning, then your out. You shouldn't tolerate this period.(have some standards..) If that means you mace or taze the dude or whatever if he doesn't listen then so be it. Don't be afraid to be up-front, if that means you lose a client or two, or the money so be it, at least your breasts wont hurt for months.

For example, I had read the reviews of a lady I recetnly saw. IN the review a guy mentioned she just had a breast job done and was sensitive. So I took this into account, even that being said, she still told me to 'take it easy' (I literally placed VERY little pressure on them..) . So I just stopped touching them to avoid the problem. I'm more or less the perfect 'caller'...not everyone can be me, so you have to take different levels of accountability to these guys and hold them to it.

I would tell them up front. Hey baby, I'm really sensitive here be gentle ok (with a wink or something..whatever it is you girls gotta do..) IF they aren't ok or get agressive, you esceleate it to ultimata, and say 'Look, respect my wishes or this will end..' Granted I've never provided, and I know there is a chance of violence,a lot of risks i could never imagine or understand, etc, but if it really bothers you, you must take some kind of stand on the issue.

Be assertive, don't let them do this, and set that standard, and you'll be alright!

-M

This post was MEANT for clients to read...and learn. What the hell would be the point of posting to a provider's only board?

but they are just a bit inconsiderate and uneducated ,especially with the ladies not being able to correct them. Some hobbyists will write mean spirited reviews if you tell them they arte hurting you.
They are bent that YOU are WAY too sensitive and they are just using the same amount of pressure they always do.
The reviews are nit just to keep you guys from getting ripped off.
They are sometimes used to keep us in line -or else.
They say get out if you don't like it.

I have touched,pinched,licked or whatever they wanted with 400 women.
I prefer men,but not for oral.
I enjoy doing things to men and sex but I prefer a woman for daty because her mouth and tongue is softer with no little scratchy hairs.
Women can get too rough as well but they don't get in a huff about it when corrected.

I think Pole's main point is that the "typical" woman doesn't want her breasts to be treated as a punching bag, stress ball, or wood to be gnawed on.

Yes, thank you .I'm awfully horny now.
All this talk about women has made me horny as hell.
Who wants to go to the titty bar
?

Things of such importance bear repeating. Though never aware of causing pain while hobbying, I know that past and present SO's have experienced discomfort at my touch. Those times seemed to involved where they were in their cycle, not that I received pleasure from causing them pain. I would feel shocked and embarassed at the time, but I would never expect them to put up with me causing them pain or discomfort just to protect my ego. It helped us both when they would tell me that their breasts were sensitive.

today nipple and breast sensitivity alert is blue/green? I don't remember the colors from airport. Help me out here ,please.

Buddy, only an imbecile would be panting to be on your list. Your money is NOT that green.

I don't remember either, but if we ever get together, I promise to listen to your directions very carefully, as to which colors mean what. I usually start very softly, like breathing softly over the nipple. Then, if I seem to have a greenlight, a soft nussling. If it's still a greenlight....well, you get the idea.

I liked to be licked around the nipple and licked only on the nipple itself.
I like my breasts gently caressed and not squeezed or kneaded.
I had my first orgasms like that.

Gay Erotic Review, not that there is anythig wrong w/that, but geezz girls , take it outside, because you ladies hang out on this board, does that cause you to menstrate all together now, & then make guys gay, not that there is anythi.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qm358hRsG0

How'd you know that that was what I was planning to do next?

at the rate you're going, you should keep that one in your favorites.

This isn't Flora's thread, numbnuts.

b-

If I dont like something I will speak up..in a nice way..becuasetheres no need to get defensive..I just think that some peope dont get i..they dont know what feels good..then there are the ones that do..Bless them

If you are gonna use an alias how about giving "Not a real man" a try. It fits!

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If so, we need to make a play date.