Ask them to confirm with you either by email or phone the DAY BEFORE THE REQUESTED APPOINTMENT!

I had an issue tonight that I wanted to run past a few people just in case I might not be seeing all sides clearly.

I had a man book a 2 hour appointment with me. The appointment was for this evening, but he booked it nearly 2 weeks ago. At that time, I told him he was on my calendar for the 19th @ the requested time. He says OK. I don't hear from him again until about 2 hours before the scheduled appt. when he replied to my pm asking if tonight is still a go.

He stated that he would have to reschedule, when he didn't hear from me yesterday he assumed I was canceling. Now, he had never requested that I contact him the day before & I had clearly told him that he was on my calendar for the time/date HE requested. Which means when someone else requested to see me tonight, I had declined thinking I was busy.

To be honest, I'm quite annoyed with him. Do you all think I am being too tough on him or do you think I have every right to feel the way I do?

Lots of providers NCNS or double book. His assumption that you were no longer meeting was not far off. It's the provider's job to confirm the appointment because when the hobbyist does some providers feel that he is being a pest. JMHO.

OK, but since I never told him I would be confirming the day before & he never told me he would be expecting me to, don't you think it would have made sense to shoot me a pm saying hey are we still on for tomorrow night?

Confirm all appointments to avoid this issue. Do not leave it to the last minute or to the hobbyist to do it.

So you don't think he's in the wrong at all? Wow, ok

If he did not hear from you the day before the appointment and he was in doubt he could have contacted you.
It is not really that hard to send an email or a pm and inquire if everything is still a go.
For this reason I always confirm an appointment the day before just to make sure that there has not been any change in plans.Most of the gents I speak with who book that far in advance I always speak with in that time leading up to the appointment anyway.
Kind of sounds like he had another choice in mind and then when you sent a pm he thought you had cancelled could just be an excuse.Who really knows if the reason he gave you is in fact true.
That always sucks to have a last minute cancellation.

My honest opinion, cancelling 2 hours before is BS.

If he wasn't so sure about the appointment to the point of cancelling 2 hours before, then a day before the date, he should've sent a txt or email or a marthafolking phone call asking if the appointment is up in the air or up in outer space or not.

I've at times set appointments up to several months ahead of time. Almost 2 months I've gone without confirmation and 3 weeks before the appointment we send each other a confirmation just to see if things are good to go. Communicate back and forth everyday for a week and then 2 weeks go by without anything. The day of the appointment she sends me txt saying if we're still good to go, I respond "why wouldn't we?" lol.  

I hate providers who flake and I'm sure providers hate guys who flake to.

In fact we should all freeze them flakes to death cuz they're not so grrrreat.  doh~!
(Ok that was kinda lame but you get the point. )

Definitely not in the category of  accusing the provider with a lame "since you didn't confirm I assumed you weren't serious about the appointment".

garbage. Yeah, I hear it, but it just goes flying through one ear and out the other. The only way she'll convince me to do something is when she repeated nags me about it. Then I know I have to do it. Its like that for some men. Especially when it is planed several weeks a head. I doubt that he'll remember, and you should not be discourage by it. And learn to accept it as is. However, there are ways to prevent this from happening in the future.

If a guy book an appointment two weeks ahead of time. It is always best to confirm the appointment several days before the appointment. Even though you have accepted and confirm his appointment for that specific day. Not everyone's schedules will work out for the agreed time. As with any other business, especially since he book a two hour appointment which requires an $800 investment, any other business would practice appropriate methods to reassure the appointment.

Do not consider it a hassle, or you are somehow intruding on him by asking him to reassure his date several days before the appointment. It's not even a hassle after you reassure him two days prior, and reassure him again on the same day of the appointment. It doesn't make you look desperate by any means.

If I book an agency girl here in DC a week prior before her arrival, I will get a confirmation. Then, I will get a second email a couple of days before she arrives to confirm my appointment. Then, on the day of my visit, I'll get an email to confirm my time. That's how some agency works, because they know that other people's plan may change, and they want to reassure themselves to prevent future loses.

Even though he didn't request you to send him a confirmation, it's always best business practice to do so. This way, you know ahead of time and this avoids any unwanted assumptions. This also shows that you are serious about the appointment and that you look forward to seeing him. Keeping a clear and healthy form of communication is vital to any relationship. You really shouldn't be discourage, its all part of a learning business practice.

You didn't turn a profit, and had to turn down another paying client as well. I wouldn't dwell on it these things happen.

I always book a couple to a few weeks in advance, so this is an issue I am very familiar with.

Because of my travel schedule, I will only have a few days in a given city, and most of that time is taken up playing golf. I don't like cancellations and no-shows. I don't like rushing to implement a Plan B on the fly in a strange city.

So how do I deal with it? I take the responsibility of confirming all of my appointments with enough lead time. If I'm going to get upset with a lack of communication from the provider, then I need to initiate the communication.

In other words, I would not do what your client did - if he didn't hear from you the day before when he expected it, he should have contacted you. Likewise, I would not do what you did - wait until two hours before the appointment to confirm.

it's confirmed as far as my commitment to that appointment.  It's the only way I can operate, since I only play when I travel (which isn't often enough, by the way).  BTW, most of these appointments are for 4-6 hours, so that probably raises its "importance" on both sides.

Just to be on the safe side, I usually try to stay at least in "loose" contact with the lady, and within a week or so I'll email her for any dining preferences, etc., which helps cement the date on both sides.

I did make 3-hour appointment with one lady once for the next day.  Got the room, waited....waited....waited....nothing.  I emailed her and she said I didn't confirm.  From the day before?  The upside is we hooked up later and had incredible make-up sex, LOL.

Unless the two of you had agreed to reconfirm the day before, an appointment is an appointment.

If he was so concerned he should have called/written you to confirm.

I almost always make arrangements a week or more in advance.  And while I often do some e-flirting with her during that time, I feel no need to reconfirm usless she has asked me to.  Otherwise an appointment is an appointment.  On both sides.  I have had ladies do the same thing and if they had not requested a reconfirmation, I was upset at them too.

He was in the wrong, but so are you. Cancelling two hours before hand is not cool. I had to do it once but I paid an extra 50% the next time I seen her to make up for it. If he had any doubts you and he were still on he should tried to contact you. You have caused to be a bit upset.

But the blame is not all on him. Most appointment based services do confirm appointments the day before. My lawyer does it, my doctors does, and hell the rug cleaners do it as well. There is a reason for this, it reduces NCNS greatly. You should have confirmed, as it is the professional thing to do. You make professional wages so you to should be confirming appointments.

... this could have all been avoided if YOU had confirmed. I would think it would just be good business practice. Hell, look what just happened because you didn't. Personally if I book a few days in advance then I take it on myself to confirm but that's just me

As a monger, my opinion (FWIW) is that I like to have contact the day before. If I don't hear from the provider (and I don't usually expect to) I will typically contact her, just to make sure the appt is still on. Now, of course, I've only recently joined the hobby, and due to my work, I tend to schedule a day or 2 in advance, and since I'm located in Knoxville and many of the providers are off BP and can be a little flaky, I KNOW I have to confirm to remind them, or I'll have NO appointment!

Due to limited time availability, I'd much rather schedule, confirm, and then have a sure thing appointment, than to either schedule, not confirm and not have an appointment, or to take a chance calling around hours before I have time and not being able to find someone that I WANT to see.

Personally (understanding that I'm wired a little differently this way - maybe it was the way I was raised LOL), I think what this monger did to you was rude, and not acceptable.

Hope this doesn't happen to you again!

Most appointment based services do confirm appointments the day before. My lawyer does it, my doctors does, and hell the rug cleaners do it as well. There is a reason for this, it reduces NCNS greatly. You should have confirmed, as it is the professional thing to do. You make professional wages so you to should be confirming appointments.