perhaps she will "love" getting your child support checks.

BB might (keyword MIGHT) mean she is developing feelings for you. We are human after all, and just as susceptible to the love bug as the rest of the population.

However, until she tells you that she just can't keep taking an envelope from you, take it with a grain of salt. My sweetie KNOWS he is my sweetie because I haven't accepted an envelope from him since the first night I met him for a 2 hour date that still hasn't ended after 5 delightful years

that if she did it with you, she has done, is doing, or will do it, with someone else.

Don't believe the story "I don't do this with anyone else" or "I don't do this for just anyone".

Walk, no RUN, away as fast as you can. She is nothing but trouble.

"New Sugar Daddy?" Seems like she prefers that arrangement, and you are being recruited, uh, no, drafted. I mean unprotected sex plus OTC time; just add some money change palms from your hand to hers, for special monthly needs and there you have it.

I have been seeing a new provider recently and during our last session, things got very intense.  During DATY, she told me several times that she loved me - she then pulled me on top and begin using my member to rub herself.  Before I knew it, she had inserted me without a cover and we proceeded to have bareback.  It was intense.  She finally straddled me in such a way that I could not pull out, all the while begging me to come inside her, which I did.  Afterwards, she insisted she had never done that before.  I believe her, as she was previously in a relationship with a sugar daddy and only recently started to escort.  She has only seen a handful of clients.  Thing is, she wants to hang out (OTC) now.  I really want to see her again.  I'm worried we might be falling for each other but I'm basing her feelings for me on the fact that we had unprotected sex.  It was easily the most erotic and unforgettable lay of my life (i think it was mutual) and now I'm thinking of her all the time.  Has this happened to anyone else? I'm not ignorant to the fact that bareback is dangerous but I believe her when she says I am the only one she has done this with.  Have I put blinders on or is this something special?

I give you 100 to 1 odds that she will not get herself tested for you.

you're in for some major disappointment my friend. i'm not suggesting you stop seeing her but keep the wallet closed outside of sessions and for christ's sake, COVER UP!!!

Sex hormones are very intense & these board are filled with stories of "I've Fallen for a Provider and I can't get up!"   One thing hobbying has done for me is taught me to keep perspective in these matters.  Now there are RARE and I mean really RARE occasions when a client/provider relationship turns to the L word (LOVE).  But the road is frought with pot holes.  You need to explore your own mind...  are you open to a CIVIE relationship with her.  IF so you may explore if she is interested in the same with you.  But you know what happened was completely unsafe...  and can not happen again, unless you stop hobbying, she stops providing, you both are tested & monagomous.  IS she open to stopping providing?  Are you willing and able to be her primary support?   If ANY of these answers is NO, then it's a deal breaker.  

You have to Man Up!   She might be falling for you...  or she might be looking for a meal ticket (my 1st wife/now ex was).  The thing is you'll never know for sure...

You need an OTC clock/no action conversation about where each of you wants it to go.  
Best Wishes

OP knew very well what the responses are going to be on this board so, based on that assumption; the possibilities are:

(1) OP is bragging about a provider falling in love with him which could be OP's fantasy

(2) Said provider is looking for a new Sugar Daddy

(3) OP is looking for a ego boost and attention

(4) Playing the board for a sucker

End with a question:

How many people here seek advise from this board on their personal relationships and decisions? If happen to be one of them, please seek professional help.

Thanks.  
I didn't have the strength.  

likely you've got blinders on, but as humans we get thru life with blinders on.

look, go for it, but don't be dissapointed if 6 months and $10-20 grand later you are in the same position you are today.  nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I, for one, do not get all the 'lecturing' you will get by the usual posts about dangers, etc.   Sure, be responsible and get tested and if she's willing to share her testing, then your both being mature about it.

One thing to remember, a lot of providers really don't mind bareback with real regulars.  A) they know that the intimacy of it keeps regulars  B) the fewer clients they have the less hassles, C) a lot of providers don't really like condoms but their a necessary protection against hazards of the job...
and on the flip side D) like all relationships, as good as the two of you get along, it will either get worse better, or stagnate, but is bound to come to a head for you to move on in life

Providers are like anyone else, and this is their business, and providers come in all different types - you are either a really good client (and stable $$$ coming in), maybe a fantasy of her own, who knows - but the odds are she is just being human and having best of both worlds for her, and if that's ok with you, accept it, don't fantisize about it, and at some point you want more from her, be prepared to walk away with rejection.

This lady is someone new and even if she was not.Are you willing to gamble with your health because she said she loves you?Perhaps maybe lust or a game that she plays who knows but more likely than not she has done this before.All you know is what she tells you now out of that handful of clients she has seen you do not know if the same thing occurred or not.There are many posts regarding guys falling for providers and at times providers falling for their clients.Not so special but it looks like she is gambling with her health and you are as well.Be smart and safe all it takes is one time to catch something.

Do this for yourself, take a break from her.

No excuses - It was dumb not to use a cover but I realize that now and don't intend for it to happen again.  I just never prepared myself mentally for such a situation (a provider who pounced on me like that) b/c I never expected one to ever do anything remotely unsafe like that.

Do you want this woman as a girlfriend?  A real true girlfriend?  If so, then...

1) Stop paying her. Now. You can't have her as both a girlfriend and hooker.  I have tried various permutations of off and on the clock a few times and it always ends up totally fucked up.  The nice thing about this is you'll also know immediately whether she's playing you. If she insists you keep paying, you're being played. I have NEVER heard of a girl charging a guy she considers a 'real' boyfriend.  

2) Start expecting her to act like a girlfriend.  Which means it's not going to be all about you any more.

Or do you NOT want her to be your girlfriend?  If so, then...

1) Insist on no OTC time. Ever. Pay her for every minute you are together.

2) Keep your dick covered.  In fact, it's probably not a bad idea whether you're paying her or not.

So, OK, thanks for reading.  Now you can go back to ignoring everyone's advice.

Chances are if a provider initiates BBFS during foreplay w/o prior discussion she's just an amoral human being & that's all. However, the drawback of it all is 99.9% of the time an STD will be transmitted & more than likely an STD that you already have. The good part about your story is if a provider is telling you she loves you 1st then take her somewhere & get tested & see what develops. The overall outcome of it all may fall to your advantage in a long run if you are good at this game!!! This may be the stuff dreams are made of for you if you play your cards right ... and dreams do come true.

Bareback isn't happening PERIOD.!!!! At least I have something to look forward to when Married

Shanghaied.


Thank you
2011 = 28

I disagree.   c'mon 100:1 odds?, that's hyperbole.   I give it about 50-50 odds.   If you're a regular, and she is ok with bb, she would likely get a regular test to maintain that relationship because it's a big plus for her, and obviously she's ok with the bb aspect.

Because pretty much the same thing happened to me.. Instant, intense chemistry. Pretty much love at first sight. She was also a very new provider and had only seen a couple of clients.

And yes, in my case we did say "I love you", she quit the business, I quit the hobby. She wouldn't take one red cent from me even when I tried to pay for stuff.

So.. It could be special. Or it could not. But sometimes it's for real.

Professional Providers don't LOVE their clients.  Over a long time we may become friends...   She has come from the security of a Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby relationship...  Odds are she's looking for security again.  

Very few ladies will ever go bareback with you no matter how long they see you but their are a few who do this to make sure you cum back often. While your dishing out your money for her time put at least that much away for blood tests and legal complications. Don't be a fool and get suckered into that game. I have been around for years but there's only 3 years of history on me here.

Do you want to be her next sugar daddy along with who knows how many others

Kisses Haley