I'm the physical size of "Doug" on King of Queens or Drew Carey but not as nerdy. I've found that if you have a warm and pleasant personality and can make a provider feel welcome they over look at bit of extra weight without a second thought.  I'd like to hear from hobbyists and providers on this issue. Do big boys get less attention or is everyone treated equally if they act like gentlemen?

what you look like and what yo weigh never ever comes into play with me, NEVER. How you treat me does, attitude is everything.

Id rather go see a big guy who's nice to me and treats me right then some GQ model who treats me like crap.

nice guys don't always finish last, at least not with me

Jenny

I'm a big guy and I used to be a lot bigger. Over the past year I've lost about 100lbs but I honestly have noticed no difference in the way that I am treated by the lovely ladies that I see. There ARE some considerations to keep in mind as far as what positions may or may not be realistic but a good lady will always find a way to make it work. Personality, cleanliness and attitude are much more important to a good provider than what you look like.

. . . I always give attention to big boys; I'm small.

I find big and phat guys to be a really great experience for me. I imagine that I'm sitting and bopping on a biiig fat cloud (me on top of course). I once was with such an obese guy that I hardly could find his penis. I had to dig it out from under his stomach fold. This guy was from a very fancy part of LA and he was very wealthy. And supernice. He just laid there and seemed grateful while I was bouncing up and down on his little dick. Meanwhile, I was having fun. It was my first real fatboy experience. And when it was over, I got a fat tip too. I don't mind fat or big, as long as I get to be on top. In fact, that's best. Just lie there and let me do all the work. Those skinny, defined muscular types are the worst. They can't just lie there and enjoy like big guys. They always have to fuck you to death, like they're on some kind of Marine mission or something. I prefer fatties and biggies. Much sweeter. And when they don't move, they don't sweat as much as the athletic types. Shit, give me a fat, big guy any day. And besides, they really are much jollier. No masculine bullshit to prove, they are just happy. Only once was I with a big guy who was mean, but he was an exception. Otherwise, you couldn't find a nicer client! Big is great!

They tend to sweat more and that's a big turn on. Or so I've been told by numerous providers who loved my big belly and big ass.

in response to the line about being "fucked to death".  i am an average size guy  6'2 about 195  ive been with providers that are very dominant and want to take control and some who want to get pounded like a drum at a metal concert.  so should i just ask when she walks in whether i should lay there or go all energizer on her ass??

It's not  the size of the person; it's their attitude.
No, you don't walk in and ask how she likes to treated; just go with the flow and listen to her responses to your moves.
Congratulations on your weight loss!

This is a topic I think about a lot, being a rather big boy myself.  I "sense" that a couple providers I like seem to be "disappointed" that we can't make a couple positions work well ( usually they just don't do anything for me but make me sweaty - as I feel so little with a cover on in some positions ) and that it often is the case that they have to be on top and doing most of the work - so-to-speak.  They've never complained openly but I just sense that they'd wish they could lay back more.

I know several providers responded they enjoy being in control and like guys who don't want to pound them like jackhammers, but I worry that some are the opposite and tend to dislike having to do all the work too much of the time in a session.  I am probably too paranoid and sensitive but one reason I like a lot of foreplay and massage is so the provider doesn't feel like they have to work so much in our sesssion compared to others.

Stop being a wienie!  As long as you're the one who is paying the E-ticket price, you get to decide whether you 'pound her like a drum' or lie there like some fucking Yoda...

I'm a big, also use to be a lot bigger, I've lost over 120 pounds with another 90 or so to go. Then skin removal and all that fun stuff.

I have ALWAYS, without exception found my attitude and being sweet and respectful towards the ladies to be a winning factor. They have told me this numerous times, they'd rather be with a sweet heavy guy like me than some jerk no matter what he looks like any day.

Being a bigger guy, I'm also more appreciative of the ladies. I know it's no picnic being with a big guy, though it's a lot of fun! It's like always being able to have sex on a waterbed! AND .. sex with me is just like getting a shot. It's over before you know it and all you feel is a little prick.

Honestly, I've found just being myself, sweet, honest open and fun, we both have a wonderful, satisfying time together.

With the obesity level on the rise in America, I am also forced to quote a line from Revenge of the Nerds, "To all the beautiful people out there; there's a lot more of us than there are of you!"

Jimbo

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I think you're being a little too paranoid and overly sensitive. You are paying for their services afterall. Would expect to wash most of your own car if you paid someone to wash it? And I'm one of the most respectful guys I know especially when it comes to these awesome ladies, but any of them that wanted to 'lay back more' I'd not visit again. Like I said, and the business goes, it's a service, it's a business. It's part of their job to do the job and make us think we're their man for the time we're together.

I think you should just relax and enjoy yourself.

The ladies I have been with do seem a little disappointed at times, rarely but it's happened. After talking to them though I found out it's because THEY feel they're not pleasing me, and they feel bad thinking I'm not enjoying myself. So it's truly their desire to please me and show me a good time, and keep me coming back for more that is coming through.

I assure them whatever they're doing is fine, we always have found a position or whatever to bring us both pleasure ... and tell them that anytime I'm lying naked next to a beautiful woman is a good time!

Jimbo

I totally have a good time with the big boys. Get on top and ride them Cowgirl style... yeehaw!

Hmmm...
As a lady I appreciate the guys that take my physical well-being in consideration ie: "pound her like a drum."
Post under your real handle and see how you do making that next appointment.

Thank you for wondering not only about our well-being; not pounding us and for remembering it is about not only your pleasure, but our comfort.
Personally, it doesn't really bother me to be on top the whole time ( yeah for the elliptical!)  You deriving pleasure from our time together is the important thing.

*happily humming RuPaul's "Covergirl" to myself* lol, ok, let me compose myself.

i've posted before about a favorite client of mine who is on the larger side...6'6" and around 350-370 i would guess. yes the logistics of being with a person of that size can mean a bit of additional physical labor involved for me as the provider, however the pay-off is great: his immense pleasure. before me, he hadn't been able to penetrate a woman in many years, due to a combination of his weight and penis size. well with my smaller body type, flexibility (thanks to the parents for sticking me in gymnastics for a couple of years), and plain old determination to please, he is not only able to have intercourse with me but in multiple positions, even one we worked out with him on top for a change of pace. i don't mind the extra work because he's always so grateful. and the next day when i feel that ache in my calves and thighs i'm grateful to him for the fun workout! lol.

now it would be a different story if a larger client was just rude or inconsiderate and treated the provider like a workhorse. but generally if someone is courteous, respectful, compassionate, he will be rewarded in kind, no matter his size.

it's not about being a "weenie"  yes i am the customer but i also want to make sure that the provider is having a good time as well.

I personally prefer big men. In my real life I date big men exclusively. However I will say that as a provider I really don't care what size a gent is. And as a gent you shouldn't feel like you have to warn a provider of your size. Now had you said a medical condition then I would understand that but simply you size....No Way. And just a note.....if you are treated indifferently by a provider tell her to kiss your big ass and dont see her again.

That's very cool Lilli! I can feel for him as the combo of a big boiler and small johnson is a drag!  I can do 2-3 positions with most gals but rarely does more than one please both of us.  Any tips for positions that help - besides your flexibility?

well like any sexual position these all depend on flexibility and body type, but here are a couple we like:

guy: standing beside bed or kneeling on bed, whichever is more comfy for some hard poking.
girl: on back in front of him, legs together and toes touching the ceiling.

you could stop right there, but for a lil extra yumminess: if she has some flexibility, have her bend her closed legs straight back towards herself as much as possible, then lean yourself against her. it's a nice way to do man-on-top without crushing the sweet little thing under you.

for a doggy-type position, try this one:

girl: lying over the side of the bed on tummy, hands bracing herself on the floor. legs spread wide open.
guy: comes in behind her, kneeling on bed and leaning over her. her legs need to be tightly wrapped around your waist, under the belly. use her butt or hips as a brace and poke away. this positions works well for me because of the way my girlie parts are built, but if she is not built similarly it would be a good position for greek.

hope those help a bit!

I posted this question a couple months ago and got nothing but smart azz hobbyists commenting about how I should just get skinny - like that helps.  So it is refreshing to get some real HELP from you and another sweety who PMed me.

Thx girls!  Really appreciate it