Hmm.. I think you already understand that you could be opening the door to something you might not be able to shut again.  If seeing an SP before is an option, it'll always be in the back of your mind, you know?  It's funny, but a few months ago I had a client who was 22 and getting married, and I think I helped him decide not to go through with it - and not by anything I said!  So maybe you should be prepared for that.

-Anya

there was just this thread on the Newbie board, here's the link and the text below, from raul32. You will note the similarities with this post. Now it happens that this guy raul32 has 2 reviews. As flyunited pointed out, this guy says first that he has been faithful for the last 4 years, and he has the nerves to have written 2 reviews. So either he faked the reviews, or he's lying when he says he's been faithful.

I don't know what this guy is looking for, but it stinks.

here's the text of raul32's 2 posts on the Newbie board.

"Here is my dilema.  I am not looking to be a life long hobbyist.  I am 22 years old, am about to graduate from college with a bachelors in Computer Science and Business, and am about to get married in a couple months to a beautiful woman.  You see, the problem is that I have been with her for four years, and she is the only woman that I have every slept with. Its not that I dont enjoy having sex with her, because we have great sex.  I guess I just want one more rendevous with another woman before I take the plunge.  Does that make me a bad person?  I dont want to do it after I get married.  Is it a bad Idea to see a provider?  I just want to have one amazing night of sex without the emotional attatchment.  What do you guys think?  


You see, I dont know what it is, because I really do love and want to marry my soon to be wife.  I guess you can say it might be a case of cold feet, or something similar.  The thing is, I was never really involved sexually with a lot of women, mostly because I was young and inexperienced.  But once I got involved with her I just ended up staying with her and had no real chance to test my new confidence.  I know that Im an attractive guy, I dated a lot of women before her, but I was freakin weird!! What can I say man, I turned down a lot of women for sex which looking back on it, I wish I hadnt.  Im not afraid to try it out and have a great expereince and want to keep doing it after Im married because I have a lot of self control (hence Im 22 and have been faithful to the same woman for the last four years).  Am I kidding myself or should I just find a provider and have a great time?"

it won't be "one last fling". These ladies are like potato chips.

You can't eat just one!!!!!

do whatever you want!! Who cares what we think!!!

Kisses, Shaye

Plain and simple:
Don't get married, period.
Too many reasons to list so I just simplified it for you.
Date her, love her enjoy her.
You've got a lot of livin' and a lot of learnin' to do all by yourself. Enjoy yourself.

Sedona

I would not recommend having a fling like that. What if you find out that the provider get do it better than your SO ? If you do will you break the engagement ? You will forever  burn. I suggest that you wait a while until your middle aged to enjoy the hobby.