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brownjack 803 reads
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On the whole, I'm generally uncomfortable when hobbyists in the forums talk about providers in a negative light.  Specifically, talking about them as objects or generalizing providers as having little or no regard for clients' feelings, or that providers actions are always deceitful or failing to respect providers as equal human beings.  But, I recently had an experience that made me reconsider whether that attitude might be justified.

 
A couple of months ago, I sent a first meeting request to a local agency, and was careful to include the date and time of the desired meeting and all of the requested verification information.  I never received a response.

 
Because I'm a glutton for punishment (and because the agency features magnificent women), I repeated the process a couple of days ago, and after refreshing my email obsessively for a whole day, I again received no recognition.  Hurt, angry and disappointed, I drafted a bitter email, accusing them of bias and/or a sense of personal entitlement.  And, it got me to thinking that maybe some of the people who post less than positive things about providers were in fact correct.  After several drafts, I was happy with my points and the tone.  But, I chose to wait until the morning to send it.

 
In the morning, with a cooler head, I drafted a new email, alerting them to the fact that I'd sent a request, but had received no response.  And, that maybe, my email had been lost.  In the new email, I asked that they respond to either of my emails or that I would assume that they were not interested in offering me their services.  And then, and this is important, I sent the new email FROM A DIFFERENT email address.

 
Within minutes, I received a response to my original email.  They had not responded to my first email, because there had been an issue with my verification information, which raised a red flag for them.  With a some additional effort, we were able to get the issue resolved and they booked my meeting request (which, by the way, was spectacular).

 
The moral of the story:  In an industry where humans are being intimate and vulnerable and at the same time judging/rating/criticizing, the odds of feelings getting hurt is enormous.  Not all stories have the happy ending that mine has.  Regardless, it is my experience, and this incident proves it, that...

 
It is always best to assume that people are operating with the best intentions, until proven otherwise.

inicky4660 reads

1) Just because someone criticizes an individual escort for poor performance does NOT mean he's criticizing ALL escorts, as you are implying.
2) If you were "Hurt, angry and disappointed" after a second non-response you are seriously over-reacting. Mildly annoyed is the right response, after which you just move on.
3) As you yourself point out, you were NOT dealing with an individual provider. but with an agency. So how in the world is this connected to a provider anyway?
4) If I'd been running that agency I'd have wondered why you were using a second email address. That would have raised a red flag for me.
You need to seriously re-think the way you are approaching this game.

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coeur-de-lion52 reads

that you are not going to automatically assume I'm an asshole if I post something negative towards a provider or agency.  I CAN be an asshole on SOME posts, but still provide sound information and advice from my experience on other posts.  

 
I'm glad you had this epiphany that there are times when providers and/or agencies may have EARNED the disdain of posters here, and a negative comment not only serves as an opportunity to vent, but as a warning to other community members to keep their guard up when dealing with certain providers/agencies.  

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brownjack58 reads

CDL - Thanks for grasping the purpose of my post.

 
I did not mean to suggest that providers/agencies always operate with the purist intentions.  Nor, that they should not be called out for the same.  I only wanted to let it be known that shit happens.  Instead of assuming the worst, and in the absence of any other evidence, there can be value in assuming the best.

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CurlyW-NatsFan72 reads

It is the same people who live their life with such naiveté  sometimes end up getting afflicted with a condition called "I-have-fallen-for-my-hooker-and-can't-get-up".  LOL

 
I will give you a counter story..   I book 90 min appt with a hooker visiting from New Jersey. Everything is great. We set up a time a month in advance. I always inform them that my time is very important to me,. She decides to switch her schedule and never informs me.. She is no longer going to be even in town on the day that we had previously planned. I just happen to catch as I was perusing her website.. I sent her an email asking for clarification as to what was going on..  Her response... "Well... It was a mistake...Blah.. Blah.. Blah..."    This was actually the 2nd time the bitch cancelled..  

 
My response:

I am not sure right now if you have the organizational skills to make a trip happen Who knows, you may end up getting lost and might end up somewhere in Rhode Island..The appointment was booked based on your schedule, which had you on 7/21 in Tyson's, which you confirmed.. End of the story.

 
Here is the kicker.. I took a half a day off to see you. Thankfully, I have plenty of time to put something in that window, but clearly you don't have any concern for other people's time.. I just happened to catch your mistake and email you, otherwise I am sure you would have gone your own merry way and not even bother to look back and see what you did with someone else' time..

This is the 2nd time this is happening.. Last time you claimed your step dad falling from the roof (sounds total BS in retrospect). Do you really think you should even be give third chance to screw with my schedule..

 
I don't think you deserve a dime from me..

 
Good luck..

 
And yes,, FUCK YOU !!

Looks like you have a lot to learn young padawan.  Come back in a few yrs and let us know how you feel.  

 

I approach this business like a detective approaches a criminal investigation. Everyone is a suspect unless they prove themselves to be worthy of not being one..  Makes your life a lot easier

 

And rewriting something 3-4 times until you are happy with the tone of your email? LOL.. Do you really think you are writing email to a CEO of your company?  That's seriously pitiful.

-- Modified on 5/16/2023 3:26:09 PM

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