not read websites? I'm sure I'm not alone in receiving ample emails in which guys ask for same day appointments when I state very clearly that I need two days to do my screening. Not only that, but those same requests don't include any screening info! Lol! Sigh.

First to see all her pix, then to check the fee.  If both of those motivate me, then I may look at the rest, but not necessarily.  I may go right to her reviews here.

"Do you do 30 mins? Can I see you today at noon? Do you do anal? Can you come to my place for an hour? [silence when asked for references]"

I read all of a lady's site if I'm considering seeing her, especially if I'm planning to see her. I like to get a small glimpse of "who" she is (in her appointments at least).

If they aren't following directions, just ignore and delete. Don't sweat my pet! LOL!

read instructions... or ask for directions... They already know it all and don't have time to be bothered with the details.

Because I always want to get a sneak peek at the lady  for one and also because I look at the donation, and because Im still fairly new (about 2 years) and dont regularly hobby I havent seen alot of ladies so they need extra info on me.  I also like to know what the lady likes and what she's into so I can try and make the experience good for her as well.  Idk that seems pretty normal to me not sure why others dont also do so.  Its common courtesy to me.  Sorry you have had so many bad experiences

The literature on some ladies website is counterproductive of my wanting to secure a date with her.

I often have specific clothing requests. This is often very easy to figure out that she can accommodate if the woman has many photos of the kinds of clothes I like. Also, I am very specific about my ladies. I am 6'1" tall and 200 pounds. I read all the stats on verification sites, or her website if listed, because its not always as much fun for me, or the lady if she is 5'1" tall and 100 pounds for example. That is not a hard rule, but a lady that size is very small for me no matter how cute she is. I tend to lean more towards a woman who is 5'6" -5'11" tall, 125-140 pounds with D cups or larger. Just my thing.  

People who read each other's post probably also read the messages a woman puts on her website.

because Moses was a man, and wouldn't stop to ask for directions!

They say they wont negotiate (most will), they say you MUST fill out their form (very few actually mean it), they will say "money is for companionship ONLY" (lol), they say they don't do threesomes(many will), and on and on and on and on.

Some websites are horrendously bad extensive narratives. Pages and pages of self promotion, the difficulty in finding the information, filling out web form only without an email, photos smaller than a postage stamp, use of language somewhere between a prima donna and bi†ch, and no rate information are all reasons for getting those emails you say.

Not much you can do about stupid. You can take pity on them, but then you'll soon find yourself driven to rant on TER discussion boards.  

unless they've written a particularly nice introduction. But even then the fact that they want to meet today or tomorrow means they probably don't plan ahead too well and probably won't be a good fit for me. I have had exactly two successful encounters with guys who write a nice introduction but want last-minute. The rest never resulted in meeting.

Same goes to how I participate on the boards too,  I only read select topics and select replies.  

So perhaps that explains some of it.

Incredibly, some people with white collar jobs manage to get by without knowing how to read by getting others to cover for them and advancing on their street smarts and verbal skills.

I do read the websites closely as the more I know about her, the better things should go.  I recall one gal had a secret word imbedded in her website, and if you recited it when you met her, you'd get a special "kiss".  So, I met her and told her the word.  She pressed a Hershey's kiss into my mouth.  Cute.

But just thought I'd see what the general consensus was as to why someone might not read sites, would request last-minute appointments, and set themselves up for disappointment.

You are going to lose tons of SPOTY points after that post, and I agree with you 100%. Some womens web site do look like she is trying to do everything her power to KEEP you from contacting her.

So in my case at least, if it looks like she is trying to talk me out of contacting her, I let here win, and I don't contact her. lol

So my booker works with the girls own booker.  

With only two reviews in the last 10 months they may think that you are hungry. I am sure that a lot of those gents want to be charitable.  

not necessarily in this case. My site is easily navigable and the fact that I require two days is right thre on my RSVP page. I think these emails are coming from ad sites or my TER profile which gave my email address listed.

Is why are you so damn far away from me?!?!?!?!?!  

Too dumb (or feels it does not apply to him) to read a few pertinent bits of info, I am not interested being alone with that.  

However for those of us that actually mean what we say, I guess the only thing to do is either give them one chance to get it right or just delete.  

I do delete.

Just wondered what reasons people here might give for not reading websites. I agree- it's an excellent screening mechanism! Lol!

revisit my interest in volunteering to help adults to read. I think I can do this through my local library.  

... Basically  3 types of people in whatever activity is being done. Those that are meticulous about everything. Read it all and do it right. Those that are never meticulous, don't know what's up, don't read etc.  , and wonder why you think they should. Then the group in the middle. They may or may not check things out before jumping in based on what they are doing and how much it matters to them.  

A lady's web site is a useful screening tool. I weeded out many potential drama queens that way. Yes, I follow the instructions on the site except I don't like those website forms. I skip the lady if that is her only approved booking method.

I admit that I am spoiled by P411 and I do most of my booking through P 411, I also am NOT one of those guys that follow directions well. Case in point, I almost always send an inquiry through PM rather than the "appointment request form" Some ladies will chastise me over that, those women I do not see. Other women simply won't respond to my PM's that too makes it easy. If I don't hear back, I assume she doesn't want to see me, and I won't bother her again. Do you see a trend here? lol

The way I book my appointments is in it's own way  my way of screening overly "rules bound" providers. If a woman expects me to jump through hoops to see her, I don't want to see that woman. If a woman wants to get across the point that she has certain rules that MUST be followed, once again, I don't want to see that woman.

Some guys treat "renting a hooker" as a luxury item that they do on special occasions and consequently they put a lot of thought and energy into the booking process. I OTOH do this on a very regular basis, usually several times a week, and the one thing I am certain of is that there are many fish in the sea. I don't stress a bit if a woman I reach out to doesn't respond, promptly or ever for that matter. There are plenty that do, and the way I do thing works just fine for me TYVM.

The way I look at it, you can only find out by asking and what's the worst thing that can happen? She can say no, no biggie in my world.

BUT...they don't mean it for EVERY guy that contacts them. I have often stated that the johns "approach" is everything, or can be.  

There are certain patterns of behavior (both positive and negative) that seem to correlate with each advertising venue. It's quite fascinating. 99.9% of the guys who find me via this site actually bother to read, which is nice. Personally, I can't fathom why anyone would partake in such a high-stakes activity and NOT bother to do their homework. To me, it seems much more tedious and time-consuming to text every hooker on Eros with "r u avail" than to take ten minutes to do the minimal research that it takes to find out which lady meets one's specific criteria.  

It's probably still on the first page here.  I almost congratulated him on it, but then I thought, "Nah!" This post by Johny is OK, but hardly better.  Thus the SPOTY race is still as it was.  And since Johny's volume of posts is much higher than Fungry's, I'd say JohnyPimpsAlot is still out front.  That is, unless Tidwit amassed so many points before being put on time out that he's still in the running.

I'd say that SPOTY race is still wide open.

just do it very badly, like a sadly high percentage of people who post on this board. Hence the need for Conan The Grammarian.

you have improperly used the word "that" instead of "who" in two consecutive sentences.  Conan spank.

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.....and more importantly FAQs pages. And I usually DON'T find what I'm looking for and ultimately have to email the provider to ask. So both parties are guilty of either not reading or omitting info

You'd think there would be one guy that said "hey Mo, should we get some directions?". Yep Kathleen Madagen, she's a riot.

Women don't change their minds do they? Say it ain't so Joe, say it ain't so....lol

Can I pick you up off the floor? Are you 100% certain your squirt isn't pee?  Can I ask for CG? What about vanilla sex,  do you do that? Would you be offended if I ask for sex

Your email address is listed in your TER profile, so one may think that is usually the best and easiest way to contact you. Personally, I go to a website for photos - that's it. Unless of course I'm redirected back by the lady in question.

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Shoulda never gave you the link, smartass.

...moving on to next if she wants me to jump through hoops.

Makes me wonder when/if we'll see our little TurdMonster around here?

One can spank without the time and effort to contact a hooker. I don't think that's the reason. There is more free porn on line that a man can handle in a lifetime.  
Of course anything is possible when one has too much time on their hands.

I could not find it. I actually spend 10 minutes or so

It comes down to respect and trust, really.  If you don't respect your date and the rules she puts forth, how can you expect her to trust you?  If you are incapable of a respectful interaction that builds trust, you're not getting all you can out of these lovely little rendezvous.  Save your donation and take care of your urges in the shower.  Just sayin'

All the men were giving him directions at the same time when he didn't even ask! lol

RSVP page? That would be the only way you can find out how to contact me on my site.  
http://softlysarah.com/rsvp.htm
It's the second sentence on that page- right at the top.  

The websites are just a splattering of SEO clearly not written by the girl. If not SCO sometimes it is just written by marketing person. I could see that's why some guys wouldn't read them.
I took a lot of time and effort in writing every word on my site. A lot of times I see the same terms and phrases I used for the reasons I just mentioned, though. It's frustrating when you mean the things you say and they're just saying them then

But like common sense, it isn't really all that common. Lol!  

makes me laugh every time. Agh- the cluelessness! Bless 'em.

shopper! I think as WB pointed out, most men here would be much like you in that respect. (After all, being here requires reading after all- lol!)

"Shotgun approach".  Oops technically that's two sorry LOL.

I respect every gal's right to run her business as she sees fit.  But I may think she needs me to jump through too many hoops or give her personal info that makes me uncomfortable.  In that case, with all due respect, I'm on to the next one. Trust works both ways in this world. And there are plenty of reasonable options, so no need to take care of my urges in the shower.
Just sayin'.

You really need to get that GED, bro.  But I guess first you need to graduate from Charm School.

..and in return he stocks the Quickie Mart for me..

giving him lifetime award. Him and his GF  Tiny Minnie

"... when alone, what else will they ignore to get what they feel they are entitled to"

All the information is there, my screening and booking page, all screening information that I need.  
Also they email me are you available now? HELLO!!! read my website, unless I meet you already that's a NO.
You do 30 minutes? My website say one hour... if you want to stay for 10 minutes that's okay with me, but the rate for my company is the same as stated on MY WEBSITE

Everyone's happy.

gent. I'm willing to bet that your experiences tend to be more positive than not. Research pays off!

natural to wish to know as much as you can about someone with whom you'll be spending some very intimate time. I get that- and it makes far more sense to me than the guys who don't bother reading anything. Diligence is sexy!

Whenever I overhear my customer service rep explaining to someone something that is both clearly stated in product description AND self explanatory ... I just praise all the gods I can possibly think of that I don't have to do HER job.

And she can't do the escort mantra "X hundreds per hour X hundreds  per hour X hundreds  per hour"

if a guy is here, he "gets" it more often than not.

I see on ladies' sites is their location.  

inicky46, you've posted dozens of reviews on TER and I've posted one.  Given your experience, it's hard to argue with you, but I'm curious... do you really think it's "too many hoops" for you to read the rules she's posted on her website and do your best to abide?  Your point about trust going both ways is a certainly valid, but the hobbyist always has the upper hand over the provider because he's the one who initiates the contact.  A pretty girl putting herself out there for you (us) should be respected in the first contact without her client requiring her to bend and break the rules that allow her to run her business safely and efficiently.  That seems to be the entire point of this thread.

we get those hurried emails is just that- the guys just click on our email addresses and email. If a guy writes a sweet email intro, even if he wants me in an hour, I will always politely respond and kindly direct them to my website. But if it's just a one-liner or not a well thought-out note (one which doesn't include any info about him) that could have been sent to a million ladies, I don't bother. We definitely wouldn't be well suited to each other.

I agree that approach is key.  I must admit I have no issue being asked questions at all. As long as the johns don't mind a "no", I am more than happy to hear them.

But if said hooker does not want you or your cash, well next. And as much as you say next, we can say the same thing so sorry to burst your "I have the money I therefore I am king" bubble. Not all money from a trick is worth the trouble.

There are rules and there are rules.  Not all of them are reasonable just because she thinks they are.  This is my entire point: she gets to decide what her rules are and I, respectfully, get to decide if I find them reasonable or acceptable.  I thought I was clear in my first post about this but I hope my clarification gets it across.
I've read dozens and dozens of gals' sites.  When you've read enough you'll perhaps know how many are off-the-wall unreasonable.  Where does it state I've got to accept an unreasonable request from anyone?  Especially one that would have me reveal personal information that could be misused?
Also, your statement that "the hobbyist always has the upper hand" is just flat-out wrong.  The "hobbyist" (gag) gets to decide whether he wants to meet her requirements.  The hooker gets to decide if the information he's willing to provide is sufficient.  It's called parity. Unless she's desperate.  Or he is.
Claro?

everytime

Yes, there are clowns out there who don't read and ask stupid questions. Yes, the world is full of assholes. But if you come on here and hyperventilate about it? Well, draw your own conclusions. Personally, I don't book with people yell in all caps

listing in their FAQ page whether or not they see women. Most providers do not mention it, tho it seems that more are starting to. Some do mention whether or not they entertain couples. So rather than just going ahead and submitting all of my references on a providers form, I have to email her to ask.

It's a double edged sword. For a while I had no website listed but following an inquiry would direct them to it…(someone just informed ter…ah well) unless of course they were awesome and provided everything upfront. That said I see gals' websites and am almost envious at how rad and informative and professional they are…but I have a single paragraph and it seems to do little good.

is how many ladies don't bother to read MY profile, which is on P411! (we are alerted when a provider has looked at it).
Perhaps 20% of the time they don't bother at all.
I have all my preferences in there (yes/no replies to standard questions) and talk about myself a bit!  I feel so ignored and only like an ATM machine when that happens.  All I want is a little love, don't you care!  Okay, I'd better stop, but I do find it a little funny (and a little sad), when it's become such old hat that a lady has even lost any curiosity about who might be walking through her door next! (beyond the basic sreening of ensuring that I am not an ax murderer)

and some can come across as very patronizing - which makes my decision easy...

Very astute.  Acceptance of things we don't control really does make it easier to go through life.  Whining and complaining?  Only makes us more miserable I think.
And really, who WANTS to be around people who complain all the time?
If I get that vibe from a lady on her site, it's "next..." without a second thought.

who ask stupid or repetitive questions as much as some ladies in this hobby do...
I'd really be a miserable SOB.
Learning to accept certain things with grace and charm really does make it easier to go through life.

"too many rules" helps me to screen too.
I'm a down to earth guy, and I like down to earth ladies -  "lots of rules" doesn't exactly create a strong impression that the lady is laid back and fun - quite the opposite actually.

I hear you, and your right. Your feelings regarding that are one hundred percent valid. The ONLY thing I ignore on that site  is when the guy says he doesn't like perfume. Be cause he can peck, shower, bowchicawowowow, then shower again before leaving. I can't pack enough things for casual vs lingerie vs costume vs no scents vs perfume please vs heels, stockings wait jeans wait school girl... humanhumanahumana… It's a lot to shuffle through airports. Other than that, yes we should take note and accommodate to the best of our ability… sexy beast you.

To avoid this, go the burka route in your shots (could attract a whole new client base, who knows?!).
If not fully "committed" here is a nice starting point!  Hmmm, might not be as "helpful" as I first thought..

damn, just when I'm trying to settle down and get to sleep - I'm on east coast time you know! ;o)
You are truly a cut above...

... a lady's website. why do I do this?

"So every once in a while a lady says "maybe if your site were more professional…" and I say what are you a lesbian? "

Read it and weap:

I'm a lesbian too (I only like pussy), and I understood her perfectly....

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.....I never see you at the monthly lesbian meetings, so I'm calling bullshit!

I have a female friend who's bi and also has reviewed.  It's a unique and valuable perspective.

Your two statements (with which I agree 100% by the way) are PRECISELY why the guy always has the upper hand.  SoftlySarah's original point was not that you are expected to adhere to unreasonable screening requests, her point was that many guys ask her to ignore requirements which are spelled out clearly on her page.

So forget about her statement for a moment and take your statement separately as it stands.  That's the way I read it.  And I still disagree.

Pst... pst... let me give you a secret tip: rich people, really rich people stays rich or getting richer because they keep a tight leash on their money and they demand the most in return for it.

Hmmm... I don't actually have a FAQ page. You make an excellent point of why I should include one. Thanks!

takes the time to write a good, informative profile. It's rare on there to be fair. But I read every single profile of someone who contacts me. I can't imagine not doing so.