: TER General Board Discussion : Beside the Benjamin's. . .

DBJHunter 1157 reads

posted 9 years ago

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Beside the Benjamin's. . .

what and what no to do if you want to be an escort's favorite client?

mrfisher 111 Reviews 620 reads

posted 9 years ago

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There is a litany of oft repeated items:...

Be courteous.
Be clean including breath.
Be well dressed.
Be on time.
Don't flake on her.
Obey her boundaries.

Those are most of the musts.

Some nice to haves:

Tip.
Bring gifts.
Be a good lover, that is to say, generous.
Be witty.
Look like a Greek god

VOO-doo 576 reads

posted 9 years ago

3 / 22

My $0.02

First of all, I wouldn't try too hard to be an escort's favorite client. Just be respectful of her as a provider... that means respecting both her personal boundaries, and her professional boundaries. It's a courtesy to her, and trust me, she will appreciate that. At the very least, she'll happily welcome you back (assuming that everything else went OK).

I appreciate money/tips/etc, but what really makes someone my favorite is his character and personality, and the way we relate to each other. Is he kind to me? Is he intelligent? Is he a good conversationalist? Is he compassionate? Is he easygoing? Does he have a good sense of humor? Do I have fun when I'm with him?

(It goes without saying that he's clean, doesn't trample over my time and business, isn't rough or rude, etc.)

Some things that stress me out would be (not in any particular order): texting or emailing me to chat, not gracefully letting me leave when I start to make those 'getting ready to go' noises, forgetting that I have a personal life and trying to 'buy' me by pushing the limits of what I'm willing to offer (i.e. trying to convert me to a de-facto sugar baby).

I've known my favorites for quite some time. I trust them... they've been good to me over a period of years, and I know they don't want to date or marry me. They appreciate my service and company, and they show it by their behavior toward me (not necessarily money). For instance, I got the best relationship advice of my entire life from a 70-year-old client. He cared enough to say what he knew I needed to hear (it wasn't what I wanted to hear. But he was SO right I couldn't ignore him).

When someone tells me flat-out that he REALLY wants to be my favorite client, I always feel like he wants to wrangle some concessions out of me... timewise, or even emotionally. It comes across as presumptuous and/or manipulative, and can actually be kind of creepy

ScarlettStClair See my TER Reviews 449 reads

posted 9 years ago

4 / 22

Re: My $0.02

I agree 100% with all of this, well-put!
Simply put, be a considerate, kind person. Respect boundaries. If we enjoy our time together, we'll naturally want to see each other again, and a relationship between us will naturally develop.

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sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 440 reads

posted 9 years ago

5 / 22

The thing that sort of melts me is:

Someone who reads my blog prior meeting me. Simple, doesn't cost money, and it helps you knowing me better. Showing interest in the intellectual side as much as the physical is such a turn on for me.

Posted By: DBJHunter

what and what no to do if you want to be an escort's favorite client?

scoed 8 Reviews 510 reads

posted 9 years ago

6 / 22

Want sex workers to like you?

Posted By: DBJHunter

what and what no to do if you want to be an escort's favorite client?

The way to do that is simple:

-Show up on time.

-Come well groomed, with all hygiene items taken care of. Be ready to rewash if asked.

-Don't negotiate rates.

-Be respectful and kind.

-Respect her boundaries and limits, do not push them.

-Have fun.

-A good sense of humor goes a long way.

-Pay her how she wishes to be paid and right at first.

-Listen to her, and treat her like you care for more than her body.

-A few honest compliments go a long way.

-Read her site.

-Leave when it is time to leave, don't ask for OTC time.

-Don't be a selfish lover, but don't pressure her or require her to come. Put effort into making time with you enjoyable in and out of bed.

-Enjoy her as a woman, not just a sexual partner.

-Be honest in the screening process.

-Alway book enough time so things aren't rushed.

-Listen to her in the bed, both verbally and non-verbally.

-Don't be fake.

-Don't be a lap dog. Show respect for yourself. Don't be spineless. Don't give up your power as a customer or a man. Women do not respect jellyfish.

-Don't spam her phone/text/email. Contact her when you want to book, or leave a thank you, but limit it to that. If she wants to talk she can contact you.

-Don't be a judgemental hypocritical fool. Respect this as her job and that it a legitimate choose.

-Do remember what this relationship is. It is not a BF/GF real relationship and all commitment and responsibilities end on both parties part end after the time you paid for is up.

So in short don't be an asshole. Respect her and the nature of what this is and enjoy her as a woman and let her enjoy you as a man. Not hard really.

GaGambler 429 reads

posted 9 years ago

7 / 22

I think that anyone wanting to achieve "favorite client" status is either a spineless jellyfish

Or is angling to be more than just a "client"

I have had a more than a few providers where I became a lot more than their "favorite client" but I certainly didn't come here to ask how it's done.

First rule of being a john, "Don't be creepy", well maybe that is rule number two, right after "wash your ass" lol

nothrofboston 24 Reviews 477 reads

posted 9 years ago

8 / 22

Are you saying that you enjoy rimming? eom

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GaGambler 281 reads

posted 9 years ago

9 / 22

I don't mind "being rimmed"

and I suppose my advice goes double for those who enjoy a tongue up their ass.

As for me, I've had it done on more than a couple of occasions and I'll put it this way. I found it a "surprisingly pleasant" experience, but not one I would go out of my way to receive.

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termeup 6 Reviews 330 reads

posted 9 years ago

10 / 22

Look Like a Greek God

Posted By: mrfisher

Be courteous.
Be clean including breath.
Be well dressed.
Be on time.
Don't flake on her.
Obey her boundaries.

Those are most of the musts.

Some nice to haves:

Tip.
Bring gifts.
Be a good lover, that is to say, generous.
Be witty.
Look like a Greek god.

Fish,
Regarding your last line, I used to look like a damned Greek god.... Now I look like a goddam Greek.

nothrofboston 24 Reviews 431 reads

posted 9 years ago

11 / 22

You really don't have to go very far .... lol e

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Pavliena See my TER Reviews 366 reads

posted 9 years ago

12 / 22

Be a lover. Open minded, ready to share and experiment, and FOLLOW

I see many here again talking about sex workers and how to be pleasant to sex workers.

Yet OP brought up amazing question - how to make woman to want you beyond of your money.

Is not what all men want to know?

I What makes you the best lover - a woman.
Find the right woman to connect and share. Even for short period of time as one evening.

That takes a man.

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walterksmith 44 Reviews 323 reads

posted 9 years ago

16 / 22

Re: Sure, why not.....

Posted By: mrfisher

He was a sure fire thing.

scoed 8 Reviews 453 reads

posted 9 years ago

17 / 22

Well to become a favorite you 1st must be a great one. The rest is chemistry you can't control. EOM

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beccablossoms See my TER Reviews 354 reads

posted 9 years ago

18 / 22

Looks and Money have nothing to do with who my favorites are.

Posted By: DBJHunter

what and what no to do if you want to be an escort's favorite client?

The Golden Rule is a must...treat me like a human should be treated and I'll treat you the same.

Don't talk bad or gossip about other humans, particularly others in the hobby. This is a total turn off for me.

Show up sober and showered.

Be on time or let me know if you're going to be late or need to cancel. I understand life gets in the way sometimes.

Looks have nothing to do with it. Money has nothing to do with it. I don't sell my dignity and self respect and those things don't leave during a session. If I can't first be treated with respect, no amount of money or looks will get a meeting with me. I've never seen a gentleman so ugly I didn't want to see him. If you look at the beauty in each person, you'll see more beauty. A man who knows how to be a gentleman is more attractive than anyone else to me.

I don't do anything I don't enjoy. If I'm turned off by you, I don't see you. I have a very rich gentleman on my "NO" list that contacts me almost every week, offering me more and more money to see him. Money is all he has to offer and he feels he's somehow more powerful, attractive and an exception to the rules for having it. He's confused to why I won't see him. I won't see him because money is all he has.

My favorites are pretty cool guys :

AdelleAnderson See my TER Reviews 260 reads

posted 9 years ago

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Re: My $0.02

Well placed $0.02 . I think you are right on the dime.

Posted By: VOO-doo

First of all, I wouldn't try too hard to be an escort's favorite client. Just be respectful of her as a provider... that means respecting both her personal boundaries, and her professional boundaries. It's a courtesy to her, and trust me, she will appreciate that. At the very least, she'll happily welcome you back (assuming that everything else went OK).

I appreciate money/tips/etc, but what really makes someone my favorite is his character and personality, and the way we relate to each other. Is he kind to me? Is he intelligent? Is he a good conversationalist? Is he compassionate? Is he easygoing? Does he have a good sense of humor? Do I have fun when I'm with him?

(It goes without saying that he's clean, doesn't trample over my time and business, isn't rough or rude, etc.)

Some things that stress me out would be (not in any particular order): texting or emailing me to chat, not gracefully letting me leave when I start to make those 'getting ready to go' noises, forgetting that I have a personal life and trying to 'buy' me by pushing the limits of what I'm willing to offer (i.e. trying to convert me to a de-facto sugar baby).

I've known my favorites for quite some time. I trust them... they've been good to me over a period of years, and I know they don't want to date or marry me. They appreciate my service and company, and they show it by their behavior toward me (not necessarily money). For instance, I got the best relationship advice of my entire life from a 70-year-old client. He cared enough to say what he knew I needed to hear (it wasn't what I wanted to hear. But he was SO right I couldn't ignore him).

When someone tells me flat-out that he REALLY wants to be my favorite client, I always feel like he wants to wrangle some concessions out of me... timewise, or even emotionally. It comes across as presumptuous and/or manipulative, and can actually be kind of creepy.

BigPeterJohnson 38 Reviews 327 reads

posted 9 years ago

20 / 22

Re: Looks and Money have nothing to do with who my favorites are.

Posted By: beccablossoms

If you look at the beauty in each person, you'll see more beauty.

that's wonderful. i'm stealing it.

DBJHunter 242 reads

posted 9 years ago

21 / 22

Great reaction from everyone...

especially from the ladies.

Muchas Gracias!!

Smallfish 167 reads

posted 9 years ago

22 / 22

Bottom line, treat the $$ as an afterthought

The $$ got you time with her...now what? Be yourself, be clean, be showered, be dressed nicely. Don't overdo the cologne (if in doubt, skip it). If there is conversation, be interested in her and her life. Don't judge, don't monopolize, don't brag. Know her boundaries, and respect them. Have a sense of humor.

Oh, and one last thing....if she allows it - good DATY FTW. LOL.