How does that idea even get started?  I mean, were they bi when you met your wife or did you grow into this together?

I'm not judging,  actually think it's very hot.  I'm just curious how you get to that point?  Who has the idea first?  What was the first time like and how did you feel about it?

I am bi and I made the suggestion to my boyfriend. It worked out great for us. The alternative would be to try to find a hot unicorn off some dating site, which is pretty much impossible (especially when you are not the most attractive couple).

We have since transitioned from dating into something like platonic life partners, and it's really nice to have someone to share hobby experiences with. I certainly don't talk to my female friends about it, and it's fun to swap stories.

I still find my wife attractive and I love to see providers.  I spent about a year with a lady who would love to bring over one or another female friend for a three some. (She was submissive and loved to be dominated by me and whatever dominant friend she bought over.) It was wonderful from time to time, kept things alive and was very satisfying for each of us.  
I guess for most of us that will remain in the realm of winning a huge multi million dollar lottery or being suddenly asked to play the romantic lead in a block buster film.

We were "recruited" by another couple, friends, who hinted around about swinging. They invited us to go to Desire an erotic resort in Mexico. While we were there we met another couple that really intrigued my wife. The right combination of erotic music, attractive fun people, mixed with a touch of alcohol and Nancy, my wife, had a WTF moment.

So she and Debbie, from the intriguing couple, started kissing and about 15 minutes later Nancy was going down on Debbie. It was my Penthouse letters moment. They were kind enough to invite me and the other husband to join. So began an interesting chapter in my life. Nancy told me later, "I never thought I would like to do it with other girls."

We did hook up with the first couple later that week. The first couple lives near us so we see them several times a year. Both ladies are named Nancy so there are hints about a Nancy sandwich for my upcoming birthday.

You can't push it. Things have to happen at there own pace. The best thing you can do is put yourself in a situation where things can happen. The definition of luck, "when opportunity meets preparation.

As mentioned Unicorns are almost impossible to find.  You have to try other avenues.

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I've seen plenty of couples and it happens to be one of my favorite perks of being Adriana. Every man 'knows' whether his wife would be down for something such as seeing an escort as a couple, or even taking home lady (or guy) from the bar at the end of the night. Some questions to ask yourself: "Is she open-minded sexually?", "Has she expressed any secret fantasies with bringing another person into your sex-life?" , "Is she adventurous about exploring new things sexually?", "Does she have reservations in any of the smaller aspects of your sex life?" If she doesn't like to give blow jobs, or avoid certain sexual positions do you think she will be open to the possibility? ... Correction -- does she ENJOY partaking in any of the aforementioned things?  

Delicate terrain there. The lady needs to be 100% on board -- and not doing it only to please you.  

For couples, I would like to think that the 3rd person is more of an enhancement to their relationship rather the main focus. Its really nice to be that something special or adventurous experience couples can share together to ignite a spark in their sex lives.  

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during the 5 years or so between the time she caught me hobbying and the day she moved out.

I think she was trying to gauge my lifestyle as much as satisfy her bi-curiosity, but it never became a regular thing and certainly did not save our marriage.  It was her idea to have them.  The sessions were OK but not great.

I have had many a 3-some with my current wife, but then I met her as an escort and many of her best friends are still escorts.

I suspect there are as many stories as to how these things start and unfold as there are people who do this.

My wife is very bi and very sexual. She provided before we net and was pro P4P. Later she returned to P4P both as a sex worker and a client. My wife's ex before me was a woman so she is legitimately bi. Sex is sexually adventurous. It was her idea. There is more to it than I wish to post but it definitely was her idea.

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I don't get a lot of married couples inquiring with me but I have had my fair share in the past and they can be a lot of fun. I think it works out better when it is the wife's idea and not something the husband has finagled his way into. Having the wife spazz out halfway through the session is the LAST thing I would want so it is important everyone is on the same page. If there's a clear understanding from the start, the passion and excitement is amazing! I am very bisexual myself and it is such a thrill to make love to another mans wife while he watches. i'm fairly certain if/when I get married I will introduce the idea to my future hubby

I'm very close with my wife.  Always have been. I love my wife & I love 3somes. To experience them both together is beyond euphoric. Sometimes we artificially enhance the experience for sensory overload.
We talked about it for a couple of years (not during sex) still remember the day she announced: "let's do it."
It was her idea to hire someone. At first I didn't feel comfortable with that as I never paid for it when I was single. But my wife insisted that would be best. Anyway, once I discovered that PSE was searchable I was convinced it would be for the best as well. Ha, my wife thinks all providers allow CIM. When we went to Amsterdam's red light district my wife was shocked she didn't allow.
So far all experiences have been great. I love TER.
The sessions are always so hot, much hotter than any porn. I have enough in the spank bank to last a lifetime. The only time I look at porn anymore is for research. There were times I've come to sessionions with an excel SS with positions to do.
We have rules. For example I can't go all the way.
My wife tells the providers she does it for her feller. Ha, one time this provider insisted on talking to my wife first. (Normally I take care of everything) The next day the provider actually turned us down for lack of enthusiasm. If I turned down my wife for lack of enthusiasm I'd never get laid. Although I can't help but respect her. There were times I wished I could turn her down for lacking enthusiasm, but hornyness always wins.

Regular girls are too dramatic and needy to bother with unless you find them drunk, but then you have to feed em, hold their hair when they puke, etc. Just too much of a hassle lol. Providers have always been super fun and they leave afterwards.

I've seen a ton of couples over the decade or so I've been in this career. The trend is that usually the gent initiates the topic at some point and then over the course of several months the couples discusses everything under the sun leading to the point of actually seeing their first provider. Of course I only see couples where the lady is equally excited to meet me as the gent and if I get the sense that he is coercing her into it than I decline the date although that has never happened. I only want to meet a couple where the woman is as turned on to meet me as her male partner.

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I had been hanging out with a girl who had a boyfriend.  We had lots of sexual tension and we didn't want to "cheat." We made out and got close, but we both wanted to be good people, so I took her to a brothel in NV.  We met a girl who was really cool, funny and game for anything.  She really helped my friend get into the mood and went right up to our boundaries and facilitated a pretty awesome experience for our weird situation.

On another note, I'm dating a provider (I didn't meet her as a client) and she proposed us seeing a provider together, but we haven't done it yet... whenever we're horny, we just go at it instead of taking time to screen/book/travel.  It'll happen one of these days.  Probably one of our birthdays.

I just live in aw of you lucky bastards.