Met a lady the other day and in the 35 years ive been having sex she was probably the best. When I reviewed her I gave her forgot it was a service on performance although i seriously considered Onece in a lifetime. But what If the
next lady is even better. Shouldnt you only give ONE once in a lifetime. Having an internal struggle with this one. Is anyone else having this problem.(a good one to have though)

I think if you felt that way at the time, in light of your long-term experience, it is legit to choose the 10.  If she's all that, you're doing us all a favor by letting us know you can't imagine better.  Perhaps "as good" someday, but not better.  My two cents.

... when you judge those who have given 8 or 10 of them?

Just a thought: whatever allowed you to experience a "10" twice is probably what made them feel they experienced a "10" eight times.

Xoxo,
Giamarie ~ lower case "m", no space, one name...or simply Gia will suffice

Once in a lifetime means just that.  ONCE in a lifetime.

Your attitude makes the system work as it should.  Others ignore, abuse, and water it down.

Stick to your standards, you are doing the right thing.

Go with what you really and honestly think and feel. Put what feels right to you, and what you want.  You might see someone ekse who is even better and then she will be the once in a lifetime.....

Give her what you want and then explain it in your review...the review is yours, coming from your own experience, so you put what you feel she genuinely deserves!

Happy Hobbying! Sidney Starr

I've given 10's, but as I see it, one in a lifetime is as stupid a term as can be found.  You would never have one, as you think...well someone better may come along and how can I give 2????
I see a 10 as someone who has not only made me forget I just paid for this, but takes it to a level where she has you believing she "means" everything she is doing.  The 10's I've given, the ladies had me convinced that I was the only man in their world.

One in a lifetime...Phooey!!!  It needs to be changed.  My $02.

I've not given a 10 yet becuase I have not yet had that experience.   I do feel my 7s 8s and 9s carry very strong meaning becuase I have respected what they mean and not handed them out like candy.  Again, a 7 is a great compliment.  So is an 8.  

What would you think of a movie or restaurant reviewer that gave every single movie or meal five stars (same as a 10)?  I'm not saying you do this, just making a point.

If a person keeps giving the very highest marks out over and over, it loses meaning.

does that mean you have to come back and change one of your 9's to a 10?   Or as a ghost do you pay another ghost provider and post that review as a 10?

I've given two 10's and I've seen 50+ providers (I don't post a review for every lady.  Some ask not too and I honor that.  Other times I'm just too lazy).

I think "10" should called "It exceeded every expectation"

Or in my case....."She went through with it even after she saw me!"

to some guys every girl they see is a one in a lifetime. the only way I give a 10 is if she was perfect from start to finish. punctual, professional, great personality, da bomb incall locations, hot as hell and offered a pse you think about for months after. 10 must be to ter standards but more because they don't give points for cim, swallowing, rimming squirting etc. if a girl does everything ter suggests and then more and all better than anyone else, she gets a 10. think i have given 2 so far but there is one more who has a no review policy.

and here is what I posted the at that time, last December:

I posted about this FOUR YEARS AGO (when I only had one 10 score...but was already being criticized for having so many 9's!) on this very same subject. I just don't understand what people's problem is with this issue.  The rules are laid out by TER.  If someone does what it takes to get a 10, why do you care if more than one person who a particular hobbyist sees meets that criteria?

Anyway, here's what I said to the guy criticizing it four years ago...

"I used to think like you.  I held fast to that definition of "Once In A Lifetime", and it came from a similar belief system.

However, as I have met more ladies in this manner, I have realized that it is as limiting to say someone is "OIAL" and then never change it, regardless of what you encounter, as it would be to be happily married, then have your spouse die, then remarry and refuse to work to try to achieve a similar level of happiness with your new spouse.

What I have come to believe is that "OIAL" is a level more than an individual, that it is a matter of achieving the best you an possibly imagine with a person, feeling the best you can possibly feel in the act you share.  There may be different reasons that someone might help you achieve this level...subtle differences that are relative to only that person.  However, it is possible that more than one person can make you feel this.  After all...we are not talking about our lifetime fulfillment as a human being here.  We are talking about rating a person's performance on a very limited scale.  

By saying that more than one person took you to your "OIAL" level, you are also saying that more than one person you met is capable to fulfilling that level for someone else as well.  This is as much as the numeric part of the reviews should really mean, and the readers should look at the text to discern if one 10 is more relative to their style than another.

In the TER system, there are really only five positive scores.  Are you going to put the entire spectrum of the positive human sexual experience in five levels...or more specifically, in four levels with only one "best"?  Not me, brudda. Admittedly, some people are so carried away by the ladies that repeated 10's would be suspect.  I myself have been accused of scoring too high more than once.  However, I have NEVER exaggerated what I felt I experienced in my scores.  If someone has the ability to experience more than one 10, and they seem sincere about it, I don't call that man a liar, or an exaggerator...I call him a lucky son of a bitch!  If I am able to have more than one 10, I will still know who I consider my favorite, but it may not have anything to do with issues that are relative to what most would experience with this provider, and therefore won't limit me to keeping her above and beyond and depriving a woman who can provide an experience unique to her that is off the charts (i.e., "Once In A Lifetime") from the 10 I think she deserves as well.

"How lucky we are, those of us who are able to love so many."

I gave my first Once in a Lifetime review recently on performance.  It was a redo of my first review ever.  I had given her a 9 and she both got better with repeat visits and I also realized how great I had it with her.  I also did not think my first review should be rated a 10.

I regretted giving another lady a 7 for appearance and tried to change it to an 8 after more thought.  The board would not let me change it.  She got a 9 for performance and that is more important.  She appearance was  a 9 for her age but a 7 compared to an 18 y/o model.  After more thought I realized she deserved an 8.  Oh well!

and probably always will be. Hopefully, I'll know a 10 when I experience it. However, it's a lot of fun trying to find a 10.  The only time I get suspect about a 10 is when it's a first review for a reviewer, regardless how many reviews the lady has.

I figure that she was so good, that I must have died and gone to heaven, so technically, this is a new lifetime.

What?  You can do better?

one way or the other, they would never be repeated or equalled.

The problem here is with the descriptors attached to the numerical ratings. Of course I would argue that the numerical rating system itself is inherently flawed.

However -

Each of the ladies who were "once in a lifetime" to me were such that I could not imagine anything better *at the time of the review* OR * in her particular "category"*

I think some of you take the expression OIAL to literally.
With thousands of providers to choose from, I am sure there are several hundred that give a repeatable OIAL experience. Since we have good reviews to help select the best of the best.... Logic would indicate that a man with means could pick and choose from that sub-set to find several providers that would and should be scored as a 10.
In the civie world this would be almost impossible as the dating process just plain takes too long- (unless your name is Tom Brady-)


In my experience I have had exactly one "10" and I didn't review her. With the thousands of excellent providers available it seems silly there wouldn't be at least a couple of them that I would rate a 10.

PS:
I would caution first timers to refrain from posting 10's until they have a basis for comparison.

Everyone should have sex like this "once in their life".

If an experience with a lady is so grand that you have never known anything like it, "up to that point", then it's justified to give her a ten. Perhaps sometime in the future, another lady will come along who you feel completely eclipses the first lady. That doesn't make the first lady any less of an experience. She was your ten, "when you saw her". I agree with others that "once in a lifetime" is a bullshit term, because there are experiences that are so completely different, that they shouldn't even be on the same scale, if we absolutely must use a scale. You can have a 10 for the best GFE, and another for the best PSE, and another for that lady with whom you felt the deepest connection. And yet, they can all be eclipsed somewhere down the road by three new ladies that you haven't met yet.

I am usually one of those guys complaining about the inflated scores on TER.  I generally think along the lines of: a 7 is a good score, an 8 is worthy of repeating, a 9 knocked my socks off and I will probably dream about her.

It is my personal opinion that way too may guys give out way too many high scores.

On the other hand, ironically, I can see how it should be possible to give out more than one "10".  As others have said, the TER 'definition' of a 10 as 'Once in a lifetime'.   Is a little too limiting if taken literally.  Based on that wording, I guess if I ever experienced a 10, it would drive me to join a monastery since no other sex could ever hope to reach those heights of bliss.

I say, if she made your head spin so much that you walked out of there thinking "10!" and if, after ruminating about it for a few days, you are still thinking "10!", then she deserves it.

You have enough experience and, I am assuming, enough variety of partners that you know enough to understand truly epic sexual connection.  Give her the 10.  Perhaps, after a while you might encounter another person that meets or exceeds that experience, but it will mostly likely be in a very different manner.  A different type of experience entirely.

Now, if after your next three visits with other new providers, you are still handing out 10s, then I would question either your judgement, or your medications.  If you are in fact on medications, can you give me a hint as to what they are?

I'm gonna sue ya! Just kidding. It's a good question. But, "once in a life time" rating does not entail one having the ability to see into the future. If your present experience is the best you've had in a life time, then it would seem to deserve a ten. You may have even better experiences in the future, and maybe not.

"Above any of my wildest expectations"...which I would consider more than a 9.

I did notice that the ladies that you and I have both seen, our ratings are exactly alike.  I also noticed you have some very low scores in there.
I don't consider a 7 a great compliment to the ladies I've seen.  One exception....a TOFTT that had no reviews...my first and last TOFTT.

I agree with your movie/restaurant analogy, and I would not give Mcdonalds the same rating as a great steakhouse.

Maybe I shop differently.  I think my marks are pretty much in line with others, and are not out of line with any other reviewers who have seen the same lady. I don't have the money to take chances with a 4 or 5 rated lady.  If the highest she has is a 7, I look elsewhere, if she has NO reviews...I don't even consider it.

Anyway...I still think ONE in a lifetime is extreme for a 10...basically silly unless you have a hobby crystal ball!

Once in a while?

Just use it judiciously!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kw54-rCIrPs

flash

thanks for that link flash- I forgot how much I enjoy the t-heads

If I give a girl a ten this week and meet another one who deserves a ten a few weeks or months later I will just do it.  Numbers, and descriptions for that matter, are arbitrary. Of course, in all cases the lady has to meet TER's criteria for a ten.

I will give a 10 up to the point I am I would not hold it for the next I see

As a provider with a fairly large string of "10" reviews I have to say that I think a man giving more than one 10 is just fine. However, if it is all 10's maybe not so much.

But, perhaps this person is experiencing truly 10 experiences through the usefulness of this very medium. TER.

Using the features on this site and searching for women who constantly give stellar service is virtually guaranteeing that you will receive the same sort of treatment.

For me, I am a very sensual person and I am wholly involved in my clients and treat them as my lover, my boyfriend, and the only person I want to be with at that moment in time. Hopefully my own eagerness and enthusiasm will give them that 10 experience.

I think that more than 1 10 in a person's review history is good. It means they are making choices with their brain and not their man tool.

You could tell this unless you dick fell off and you not going to get a new one.
Since the gals age move on you better pick on up when you read her good review because you won't get a nother chance and it would of been worth it.

guess that doesn't leave much for future dates?  No, if a lady really rocks my world and meets the criteria, there will be another "10".

The low ratings are a reflection of my experience. I make it a point to be as accurate as possible.  It's no fun to write a bad review.

I focus on the description, not the number.  So 7 does not sound like much of a compliment, but its description "hot time" is a great compliment.

TER requests that we save 8,9, and 10 for special circumstances and I take that to heart. I've been with some wonderful ladies, but I'm not going to give everyone a premium rating unless I had an exceptional time.

I think there is nothing wrong or insultive about "attractive" and "hot time."  I would love it if a woman said either or both about me.

I think there is too much pressure and expectation for 9s and 10s ratings. There is a well known woman in my town that flips out if she gets anything lower than a 9 in either catagory and she does not hesitate to call the guy and complain.  That's pretty sad.

Most of the ladies you have been with are more pricey then the ones I've been with, so I'm not surprised you've had better experiences and hence higher ratings.

In retrospect, there are times I wish I had seen half as many ladies and paid twice as much, but the reality is that I do not have a high paying job...such is life.