But things are rarely ever that simple.  

In relationships, I've become more of the 'guy'. I just wanna fuck and have a good time. I don't want to talk about 'the future' and 'feelings'. Can't we just {word omitted}, already? Oddly, at this stage of my life, I seem to attract guys who seek the opposite. Seems like any time I very casually flirt w/a 30-something guy (I'm not interested in younger dudes), he is already expropriating me as the future mother of his kids. (That sends me RUNNNNN-ning!!)

Right now, I do get a fair amount of sex from clients. Yes, I get horny sometimes, and yes, I do sometimes want sex with a partner I actually picked. Usually a specific person inspires me to feel that way, lol. But, to take on such a thing, involves a lot of effort and risk, and more importantly, the looming (dangerous) possibility of entanglements. If it's someone I LIKE (which is what would make non-paid sex the most worthwhile and enjoyable for me), I'd honestly rather pull away from him, than expose myself, and him, to an ill-fated and painful situation.  

I don't just chase strange, or sex from random dudes, so I can't be a witness there.  

If I just want sex...why bother with all of that, when I can literally just sit back and wait for an email to appear in my inbox?

I have a couple at my disposal for different things that and I have known them for a few years. There are things that I like that can't always get when a guy books an appointment. They know of my business and support me in it, and they know me on a more personal level. Not really the BF types, but close enough to it. There is an emotional side that the hobby doesn't address even though the physical needs get met. From time to time, I will find new "hook-up" friends, when I have a particular urge for a type or something specific I want to try, but usually I get bored with them. I would recruit a favorite client for the same arrangement; but I haven't had a lot I would consider having as a FB just yet, for various reasons like being married...  

 
   


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i try to have one of each (one male and one female) but right now i have had a male f buddy for almost four years.

There's a reason the word "ho" was invented. It doesn't just mean hookah it also implies promiscuity and lack of commitment. Truth be told,  I got a few fuck buddies too so we all good

Nope

I pretty much get what I need from my clients. Besides sex, I need DATY and occasionally D/s play, and I've been able to get that in the hobby. If at any point I couldn't get these things regularly from my clients, I'd look elsewhere for satisfaction. But, so far so good.

The hobby is a dud as far as my pleasure is concerned although some of my guys give a really amazing foot/back massage so that pleasure does count for something.

Kind of

kind of because, I always put them to work.  
Palm trees/ landscape
Painting
Move heavy  stuff, stuff high on shelves or cabinets
You get the idea.
Win- win- win
They are some of my best friends, too.