Fellow hobbyist's.  here's a question that I am curious about...

Why do we do it???

Is it to see different girls, wild sex, different kinds of sex?

I do it for great sex and variation, not necessarily w as many girls as possible

how bout you?

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getting some civilian on the side is way too much work and has way too much baggage.. I enjoy the girls I have met .. and am making up for a lot of lost time..and at this point in my life the only negative impact is on my 401k...

A great american hobbyist wouldn't feel great if he didn't hobby.  

Cuz she was cool,  he was cool.  

Just shooting the shit,  choking the chicken til his oxygen supply is cut off and he turns blue.  

And that's just how he rolls!!  :

Primarily, so that I don't have to settle for a woman to get laid. Also, I'd never be able to get women this beautiful to notice me, much less go to bed with me. And, these women don't just lay there, or say eww I'm not putting that in my mouth, bottom line, providers rock.

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I'm recently divorced from a woman I was with for 45 years. The pain from that was incredible, and it hasn't gone away. I don't want pain again. I don't want a relationship with a woman, I don't want emotions, and I don't want drama. So scratch off the idea of dating (which my friends won't stop urging me to do).

I'm over 60. Any women I could get through dating would be old and, no matter how well kept, not hot. I'd have to find someone in her 40's to find someone even remotely hot. Without a big bank account, that ain't gonna happen.  

I'm still horny, even at my age. I suspect I will be for quite a few years. I'm not going the rest of my life without sex.

I'm lonely. I've always been a loner, and I'm comfortable being by myself for weeks on end. But I need the company of a woman every so often. I need to feel her skin, her curves, smell the scents of her body and hair, listen to her voice, look into her eyes.  

I love beautiful women. The only way to get them now is to pay.

I want the type of sex that I desire at the moment. If I want  DATY, I want to be able to do it, rather than be told yes or no depending upon the alignment of the stars. I always want a BJ, and I don't want to be told that I had one last week or last month, or that I have to take her out to dinner to get one.  

P4P serves all these needs. The tough part is finding a provider I really, really like.

I like to see different ladies of all different ages, races, hair color, and body types. Variety is the spice of life and hobbying allows me to do that. I have a couple ATFs but in general I like to see other people. I like the getting to know someone too. Some of the ladies here are hotter than I can generally score with in my civie life. This is mostly hassle-free dating without all of the baggage.  
 

So I can get what I want, when I want it.

I gotta agree with this post completely. This is exactly what I would say. I did try dating a bit after getting divorced and found three women my age were not very desirable and I was spending a lot of money anyway.  I had very little desire to get these old women into bed, so why even go through the exercise of dating. Once I discovered the fun of this hobby, I'll never go back to dating.

Also divorced.  The dating scene is just so frustrating and completely backwards.  Find a woman, strut around like a peacock hoping that she finds us interesting.  Coffee, dinners, dates, shows trying to get a good night kiss or some invitation for intimacy.  Divorced, older ladies come to the table with so much baggage.  They don't want to make the same mistake twice or three times.  It is just exhausting when what us guys want is to sample the wares.  Especially me.  My ex was just horrible in bed.  There is no hope of anything greater if a gal is just not horny on some level.  I've turned the hobby on its side.  I know there's going to be great sex somewhere on the date.  These women (our providers) are so lovely and have so much life experience.  It's a pleasure to take them out on dates, dinners and do interesting things and travel.  But just look at the odds...there are something like 6 or 7 clients for each provider.  My parents, my generation, my church...society in general has really screwed this sex thing up.  It is such an enjoyable action for two willing folks.  The hobby world is just too addictive.  The expectation is already set.  Both parties agree to what will transpire in some form.  And all the pressure is off.   If only the civilian world worked the same way.

Was a virgin until I was 36.  

Been on 2 dates in my whole life.  

The hobby is how I take care of my sexual needs.

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I don't think I could have said this any better than Springer did. I am recently out of a 2 1/2 year relationship that ended very painfully. She promised me a lot of things that she never had any intention of delivering...things like marriage and spending her life with me. She also owes me about 5,000 bucks that I will most likely never see...yeah she promised to pay that back too. In short, she was a consummate liar. As a consequence, my ability and willingness to trust women is in short supply (hopefully temporarily). I tried to date a bit afterwards but it did not go well. And my friends keep urging me to continue dating as well...no thanks.

I have no intention of swearing off women for the rest of my life and as Springer said, I do want and need the company of a woman every once in a while. Until my ability to trust returns, hobbying is the only thing that makes sense. I am not wealthy by any means and cannot afford to see every woman I would like to. I tend to stick to a couple of providers that I know and that know me and are comfortable with me (I'm not the best looking guy in the world and I have a skin condition...think that matters a little trying to date?? I've never had a provider refuse to see me because of the skin condition...can't say the same about women I've tried to date.)  

With few exceptions, the providers I have met have been intelligent and thoughtful women who have chosen this livelihood for various but plausible reasons. They know I am a decent guy who will follow their individual rules and do not ask me a million stupid questions. I don't have to prove anything to them, I don't have to commit to them and I only need to talk as much as I choose to. I can be in the company of women that, in ordinary life, would never give me the time of day. I'm paying for a fantasy, true, but in my experience that temporary fantasy is way better than the realities of committed relationships the vast majority of the time. I'm very thankful there are resources like TER than can guide an idiot like me in this realm so I don't get screwed over by women in the hobbying world as I have been in the civilian world.  

And before I get blasted as a misogynist...yes I know there are tons of civilian women that are not liars and betrayers. When I get involved with one, it'll be the first time, so I will have to take other people's word for it until then.

And that, dear friends, is why I hobby.