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lilli 308 reads
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...just contacting you is half the fantasy. AND uses up the full sum of their balls/courage. sad but true.

CaitlynKennedy931 reads

You see a ad, you want to see the girl, so you send a email like this:

Provider.
would love to see you! I have seen Providers a, b, c. (giving just their first names, no links, no phone # to call them)

Looking forward to meeting you!
Hobbyist
(no phone number provided for the hobbyist to call him or to use as a reference check)


As the provider of interest, you email him RIGHT back as you receive emails on your phone too...

you say thanks for the email but ask said hobbyist to please provide more details on references ( like how to contact them! DOH)
and then of course ask when he is trying to see you and for how long?

and nothing...

no reply, nothing...

ok I know guys can get busy, but I have in the years of being in this business seen this over and over...

WHY send out a email with that is 1/2 complete, then when she answers you RIGHT back, NEVER bother to answer her? I would ASSUME (now I can be wrong to do this), that if you had just a email out, you most likely are still at the computer, or waiting for that provider to reply so you can set the appt up...

so WHY do you not answer?

it is SOOO aggravating to me lol

sorry if I am griping, but I am in a bit of a bad mood die to a FIRST ever flake from a TER guy today (who I spent weeks emailing before the said date)

so I am a bit grumpy lol

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corwinofavalon266 reads

it would seem to me that two answers jump to mind: 1) a newbie with no real references hoping to catch you in a slump and willing to relax your screening or 2) LE, with the same plan.  Either way, it sucks for the providers and your frustration is quite understandable!

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serpius165 reads

Caitlyn,

2 main reasons that I have seen over the years.

Many of the hobbyists do have jobs and sometimes their jobs takes them away from the opportunity to respond in a timely manner. Sure, they can wait until they get home, but what if the home life prevents them from responding quickly? It may be longer than 24 hours before you hear from the guy.

The other reason is that the guy may have his plans changed and doesn't want to involve you any further.

The last reason has happened to me a number of times and I have no control over the challenges life brings to me. However, I do my best to let the provider know that I can't meet her.

I know it's frustrating, but it's time to move on and have fun with someone else.

Serpius

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CaitlynKennedy170 reads

Thank you, that does make sense :)

I need to just shrug it off... but as a cancer, we sometimes can take things a little too personal lol

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serpius167 reads

Caitlyn,

Cancer is personal and you can't shrug that off.  I've been there and done that.

Serpius

Posted By: CaitlynKennedy
Thank you, that does make sense :)

I need to just shrug it off... but as a cancer, we sometimes can take things a little too personal lol

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CaitlynKennedy138 reads

ummm you DO know I meant my horoscope???

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lesbianrepellant407 reads

Flakes are on both sides of this fence.

If this is your first encounter with it...congrats!!

And remember...guys have attention spans that are easily confused.  We see another pretty (fake) picture and the new gal is the hooker for the day.

Just read all the guys complaining about the hookers that don't show up...reply to emails...get drunk..and so on.

It's truly a "whores" business  :D

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London Rayne254 reads

checking their mail for girls like us, who oh I don't know...have a freaking phone that gets email lol. I don't waste my time getting upset about it anymore...just send them a nice note saying, "Too late," and move on. Yes, it is done rather often and who knows why. They might see a cheaper, younger, more available option, and say forget it.

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kaching$209 reads

I once e-mailed a lady with the req info and she never got back to me for a week. I only use that e-mail account for seeing ladies. I waited for 48hrs and contacted another girl and saw her instead. After a month when i logged in my hobby e-mail account i found an e-mail from the original lady i contacted but i wasn't interested at all at that point. It is best for a lady to reply ASAP, and i know it it not possible all the time, but it is best to catch them when they are horny and thinking with small head.  

Posted By: London Rayne
checking their mail for girls like us, who oh I don't know...have a freaking phone that gets email lol. I don't waste my time getting upset about it anymore...just send them a nice note saying, "Too late," and move on. Yes, it is done rather often and who knows why. They might see a cheaper, younger, more available option, and say forget it.

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macdaddy1944299 reads

men are by nature..braggadocios...when push comes to shove..most scurry away like scared rabbits or act like the chicken shits they really are..

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CaitlynKennedy274 reads

send the first email at all?

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lilli309 reads

...just contacting you is half the fantasy. AND uses up the full sum of their balls/courage. sad but true.

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lesbianrepellant276 reads

Nope...can't be.

You're a hooker...that doesn't really hook.

Thanks for the input.  But it's all just speculation.  Listen to macdaddy....he's got balls.

Wanna bet the ATM saw pics of a hottie and went to see her instead?  I've got balls...so I'm in a better position to guess as to what really happened here!

But maybe mac isn't the right one to listen to...read his reviews!  Harlequin romance novels.

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macdaddy1944231 reads

probably to get his jollies..he probably had no intention of responding in the first place..who knows how many more he sent out..these guys are time wasters and like to play games..they just make it harder for the legit guys to be booked..this hobby is full of fucking losers..

Posted By: CaitlynKennedy
send the first email at all?

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NicoleSaunders175 reads

When a guy is purposely vague about his references like that, I consider it part of my screening process and it already comes off as a red flag since most of the time it means they arent real references.  If they do reply with more info, usually the phone number also belongs to several other ladies and only on BP, or ladies who are no longer providing.

Most decent guys though will either send an initial email and then send all the info I need in their next email, or even better, send all that info in their initial email. Since they know their references will check out, they arent afraid to send the info to me and want me to have that info so that I can check it out.  90% of the time...those guys end up being good to go.

So dont be bothered by it...Just send a standard email asking them for more info depending on what you require for screening to give them the chance to send it.  If they dont reply then it probably means their references arent good and you wouldnt have seen them anyway.

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