But only do it OTC....yeah, they do that also  LOL

Also if a gal is doing something with you that may not have been publicized....then it can make you feel "special".

You do like feeling "special"....right?

Oh...and the arc of getting stuff that isn't publicized is proportional to your fees.  Be sure to ask them why that is as well  

about whether these providers do these things for you, then say they never do them, or if they simply say they never do these things with any hobbyist.  Which is it?

If the former, that's a common approach to make you feel "special".  It worked for me the first time, when a FBSM provider I saw early in my hobbying went beyond her menu (no, not BBFS, get your minds out of the gutter).  The second time it happened, I started wondering.  The third time, the light bulb went on.

If the latter, that also is common in my experience.  For example, many providers don't do anal and most don't do BBFS.  And most FBSM providers don't do FS.  A couple of FBSM providers I know well have told me they have a problem with guys pushing them for FS, even though it's clear in their profiles they don't offer it.

So I wouldn't let it weird you out if I were you.

Seek professional help