I recently saw a lady for the first time and all was going well until she moved toward a bbbj and I asked politely for a cover. She put one on but made it clear that there'd be no bj at all and she really seemed cool after that. Did I offend her? Was there a better way to handle this...maybe discuss it up front? I know most men prefer it without the cover but the added risk isn't worth it to me.

I relatively new to this wonderful lifestyle and the only other two ladies I saw wanted the cover anyway.

That way either one of you will feel uncomfortable.

Shaye

Dude, you might want to tell the lady before the meeting. Most prefer to use non lubticated for CBJ, leaves a bad taste and all.(so I am told). She might not have been prepared for that. Or even better carry your own. I also prefer it covered for safety and have learned to discuss it while stting up the meeting.
just my 2 cents.

remember that there are chemicals going into a lady's mouth, with a lubricant rubber, which could make her sick, also is an unpleasant taste. If gentlemen are going to request cbj, make sure to bring your own stash of non-lubrican rubbers, or request beforehand, that she has some to bring on her own.

The issue of clarifying what is on the menu and what is not has confounded me for months. I have had a new asshole ripped several times by providers for "inquiring politely" in an e-mail or during a phone conversation prior to actually meeting. Am also discovering that a lot of gals don't really make the decision regarding the menu until they have met you. A YMMV kind of thing I guess. Wonder if there really is one right answer here or not. Nothing more frustrating than going through all of the motions to set up a meeting only to discover at the 11th hour that the specific services you are looking for are NOT on the menu. Anyone have some good ideas here? And pleae don't offer "read the TER reviews". While they have been somewhat helpful, I find that they are not always accurate regading the services actually offered.

I never do BBBJ. If I am seeing a new provider who does BBBJ, I will know it from her posted reviews. I never see someone who has not been reviewed. (Thanks TER members)I make sure in the first 5 minutes of meeting her that she knows I want everything covered. If she choses not to do CBJ then okay, but that has not happened yet and I have been hobbying for a few years now. I have had many memmorable wrapped BJ's.

Her comfort level is important, within the first emails that you trade with each other. For me, the first initial email requires the screening information that I am requesting. Once the gentleman has checked out okay-per employment (also some references from some of the other providers)verification, then I would feel comfortable in discussing certain things with you. Other than that, if I get my first email, and it is too graphic, too much information, then the red flag goes up, and I will refuse to see him. Every woman has a different comfort level, and it is important to go slowly with her, until you are sensing that she is comfortable with you enough to ask the right questions.

I actually had a guy at the last minute last night who requested cbj

It worked out great, for he had his own stash of non-lubricants. I only brought lubricants, for I normally do perform bbbj. If there were no non-lubricant rubbers around, I would not have performed oral on him at all, with a lubricant rubber. The chemicals can make you very sick-trust me, I found out the hard way ((

Re:I actually had a guy at the last minute last night who requested cbj

But there was no sense of offense that he was worried about the risk?

ok, im a bbbjtcnqns lover.  how concerned should i be?  my problem in the past has been finding providers who explicitly offer this service in ads.  its difficult to bring up during phone or email conversations.  any advice on these two points?

Offended? Nahhh, not at all

Infact, to be honest, even though I do enjoy bbbj, I kind of wished that I started off in this business by only doing cbj. Now that it is out there, that I do bbbj, that is what I am required to do (NOT that I don't enjoy it). But, for me to now hedge and only do cbj, would ruin my scores for my reviews on performance, sadly, I believe, because of putting on the condom for oral. It's a sucky world out there lol

to me, it's either you do covered, or spit, or swallow. If you are not finding alot of ladies who offer nqns, then probably, there not ones out there who are doing it, or it may be a ymmv thing (?) As for myself, there are some things that I do offer my fav. regs, that I won't offer anyting else. I do this out of being comfortable with that certain person(s), that I would never ever ever do with someone that I just met.  But, each provider is different, as well. Honestly all I can suggest is that you read the reviews, and see ifyou can find a lovely woman who does the nqns. If not, it doesn't mean another provider doesn't, maybe she is just being picky (?) Maybe the next time you see her, it may happen (?) who knows? But! I hope that it does! ))

This is my subject! I like my load swallowed and I am not above asking in an email. Probably one-half of the time I ask, I get rebuffed, rebuked and cursed. The other one-half, the ladies simply answer me and we go from there. What the hell? I am not going to shell out my hard earned for something I do not want. It is that simple. And the TER reviews are not always accurate.
I will simply keep asking politely in the email and if she chooses to be offended (and this I find distracting in itself!), then that is one less guy she will see.

What is the difference between bbbjtc and nq something? lol Can someone explain that to me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee? lol Put in simple terms: I spit (always). Wouldn't that be a bbbjtc? Or is there another term for it, that I don't know about here? Tooo many abbreviations for me here.

As for Tony's post above, yes you should ask, for you are paying for a service. But, if you were to ask me outright, in the first initial email, yes I would have red flags going up, most likely I would not return your email. Now, if we had traded some emails back and forth, including getting all of the screening out of the way, then I will be happy to have you elaborate more on what your needs are

CA,  it's nonquitter, nonspitter... that is, accepts and swallows!!!

nqns=no quit, no spit.  Maybe the "nq" is a bit redundant because of "tc", but it's simply a much more specific phrasing.  After all, to some "tc" might mean the gal pulls off at the first sign of orgasm...& that's not the same thing.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lol (and a thank you)

Yeah, the "Nq" kind of messes you up there, if getting really technical LOL