over 1100 provider visits --- maybe 6 not so good.  Last night one of the worst--with a highly reviewed provider.  We just didn't click....both of us feeling "Why am I here...Why is he here?", and that feeling was there from the beginning. Sometimes people just don't click and nothing can be salvaged. Others have this happen?

Sometimes it's physical, sometimes it's personalities, sometimes you just can't put your finger on it, but yes it happens to anyone who does this often enough, no matter how well you research, and I would say that 1100 is "enough" to qualify. lol

I had a guy, can't remember the situation, but definitely could tell there was no chemistry AT all. That very next day I had two guys who liked to tag team and do one appt after another. That was fine with me, since they knew what was up.

You can't talk about ANYTHING bad you have experienced as a hobbyist. Damn, you must really hate your hobby and the women in it, you fker. You knew coming in, you signed up for that shit. Deal with it or find another hobby!  

with the first girl I saw after a recent return to hobbying. Nice lady but no sparks.

For reasons, I suppose, only known to the creator, we are imbued with a chemical effluvia that attracts some and repels others.  Whether science will ever crack the code so we can just pair up with the correct mate and avoid needless waste of time and resources, I do not know; but we can hope one day such will be the case.

With providers I am usually offered the luxury of reading her reviews .  
 If most guys had a good time , the odds are in my favor I will usually be happy with her performance and attitude  .  

So, marveling over the enigma aside, I look on the endless waste of time and resources as part of what life's about.
What amazes me about those hook-ups that don't click (especially in the hobby) is that I walk away feeling that the woman was really very nice and attractive. With someone else, she'd probably be a once-in-a-life-tomer.

Providers have the deck stacked in their favor on this thing of liking them. When you arrive, you place your investment in the evening on the table, and you face the woman you "chose" to enjoy it with. Having made the investment, you might find yourself thinking, That's the face in the photo, but a little rounder than how it looked on the shoot. Or, She's shorter than I thought she'd be. Or, She comes off like a department store clerk.

That is, that chemistry often delivers us to those who are not compatible with us on other planes other than physical attraction.  So, I have gone ga-ga over women with whom I would not be Sympatico with on other levels such as intellect and aesthetic considerations.  

Exploring the world of others is maybe the best way (only way?) of exploring the Self.

I wouldn't say providers have the deck stacked in their favor. They often don't get to chose the type of client that walks through the door. They may try to weed out clients by pricing higher but there are jerks at every price point, perhaps fewer. Two things a top TER rated provider dreads more than a dangerous client,  the abrupt u turn at the door and a reviewer giving low ratings for appearance and performance.

I saw a provider (sort of) and she was way heavier and older than advertised. Plus her place was kind of creepy. She let me in and went upstairs to finish getting ready. I'm sittin in this very dark apartment looking at her decorations and it was all sexual stuff. Not too classy but to each their own. She comes downstairs takes one look at my face and says "This isn't going to happen, is it".  Nope. Gave her $40 and ran. Best $40 I ever threw away.

Good choice. And, yes, not only money well spent, but a gentlemanly thing to do under the circumstances.

But communication is important, I always have the hobbyist contact me via phone to see if we "MESH"....  Pre-Session flirting... But it happens.... Not everyone connects.... But don't fault her for this, unless she did something that caused it... Because you chose her, she didn't seek you out.....  Nothing worse then a hobbyist writing a crap review cuz he has BUYERS REMORSE.....  

Sounds like you ran into the guy on this thread with the superiority complexes
girlfriend.  You did the right thing because he likes his girls with dicks
 or underage very twisted individual.
 
  I would of ran out of there !  
  He probably even took half of the $ 40 cheap fuck  lol!!!
 

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Do something enough times and things are bound to happen.
I suffer more from the insecurity thing before a first visit.
But the time it happened, it was less than 5 minutes before I figured it wasn't going to be good.    
Once the envelope hits the table, not much you can do, is there?  
I should have just got dressed and left, instead of try to make something happen

During the pre-contact flirtation do you shoot down the appointment?

That's why I schedule a "courtesy call" with every booking. It gives the gentleman the chance to hear my voice and get to know me. And yes, some pre-session flirting ALWAYS helps.  

Although a well reasoned example of self deception that I in no way argue with I must call shenanigans!

On the other hand, I've had lots of visits where every nerve in my body is supercharged from the first to the last second...even with providers on my first visit...go figure

I try to minimize these types of visits by doing above average research.  I rely on reviews of guys who have similar tastes and utilize the PM function to get additional info.

Though not always foolproof.
I've seen ladies where I had a good romp and left satisfied but that was it. Then I've had a couple where I drove away thinking " did I pay for that, that was almost too real" those couple gals though were special and from things that took place on later visits and from conversations it was a mutual thing. Who knows but sometimes it happens.  
Then there was the one time I left 20 minute into a hour appointment it was so awkward, I busted a nut but I almost felt dirty for some reason. Lady had good reviews but for some reason we just didn't click. I didn't bother to review her she was on time and accurate pics but for some reason we didn't click at all should have saved the funds and just rubbed one out.

I'm just wondering was it 1100 other girls that really needed money and couldn't do anything else with their life due to a disability or such or just a lot of sad women with low self-esteem?  Maybe that bad provider you met WAS actually having an epiphany of "why the duck am I doing this".  It might be a good thing.

ear washdc1,

Sorry AROP--slightly misspoke----many visits with fewer providers....and over many years... Lots of very close "LTRs". Some lasting years.  So, actually, I'm always looking for that second or more visits with any person I meet.

ear washdc1,

TY for your message back....If I get to talking...or writing I usually say too much.  (My staff roll their eyes when I start talking by saying..."So briefly....")  So the first post was abbreviated (and open, as you well said) to question as well as judgement.... for sure am not a quantity type of person (unless we click)...then I return repeatedly.  Mutual pleasure and enjoyment definitely floats my boat (and I hope someone else's).  So I'll take your offer, though I'm in Chicago, but we never know .... how much and how often our enjoyment could be repeated....