Boring woman's rather tongue in cheek post reminded me of something that has been rolling around in my head.

Have you ever cancelled a date with a provider, on whom you have done all your research and were excited about seeing, based on her response to you?

Case in point - I contacted two ladies for a couple of upcoming trips, sending both a similar letter of introduction (including my name, where I'm from, date of visit, TER handle and a short compliment.) After corresponding back and forth with each lady the normal two or three times, I could summarize each one's response in a sentence as follows.

"Sure, I could see you if you want."
"You intrigue me and I'm very interested in seeing you."

I cancelled my date with the first lady.

Maybe the first lady was being business like in email.  She might receive over 100 emails every day and doesn't have the time to answer as thoughtfully as she perhaps could.  She might be the type of person who is warm in person.

The second lady might have more time on her hands and fewer emails to deal with.

Its a pity you can't see both.  You never know, the first one might be more honest and the second lady might be desperate for business and therefore will say anything to get you to see her.
I hope the appointment goes well.

Nadia x

Fabulous post Rick.  I agree completely.  I categorize a provider's quality always in three areas...looks, performance, and what I call professionalism, which includes how she responds to all inquiries.  This matters to me as much, if not more, than the first two.

I love the dance.  I love the build-up and excitement of an upcoming encounter.  My initial e-mails are always short and to the point, as I recognize that these ladies deal with a lot of guys just playing games, but I always throw in some charm and sweetness.  If I don't get a bit of that in return, I pass.

You made the correct choice,

Jacksonlips

I once posted an ad and received 2 replies:

1.  "I'm interested.", with a phone #.

2.  "Hi, I read your ad and believe we have similar interests. You can reach me at xxx-xxx-xxxx."

Guess which one was answered.

It's very important that my largest sex organ be stimulated (along with all the others!)by a provider.  That organ is my brain, and if a provider is incapable of giving me BBBS (Bare Back Brain Stimulation), very little else would matter much.  

And yes, to those of you who are curious, it must be BBBSTCNQNS!  Well, I tried to make it a serious but humorous post.  My .02

F.

Professor Rick,

You made the absolute best choice.  #2 was the person to see and hopefully you had fun spending time with her.

Now next semester take Marketing 102...there is much more labs and field trips involved.

Ken

I haven't cancelled, but I have stopped pursuing an appointment many times based on the providers initial response.  I don't expect a long response, but I do expect a courteous and professional response.  The worst was when a contacted a top provider with a proposed appointment date, time and my personal information.  Her complete response was "Who is your reference?"

On the other hand, there's been providers whom I contacted to get more information to decide if I wanted to pursue an appointment, and the enthusiasm and cheerfulness of their response made them a must-see for me.

About a year ago I passed on a VERY well known and favorably reviewed provider for one with somewhat less celebrity due mostly on the power of the engaging as well as entertaining e-mail I had recieved from the second lady.

  FR.

Some ladies are very good at marketing themselves and not much else. I have had a number of experiences where #2 was a disappointment. I get more info from a phone conversation than a series of emails, although it is still possible to "talk-the-talk" and not "walk-the-walk."

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Canceled with Ayana Angel a few years back on an Atlanta trip, before her big porn star days(and bigger rates). Great reviews, even had a friend who had seen her and loved her. Had the appt. set up by e-mail, and then as I often do with a new lady(usually successfully), made a phone call just to touch base, listen to her voice, and try to get to know her a little bit.

Big mistake, basically got read the riot act, was told that I didn't have an appt. set up, and she asked me if I had any idea how many freaks and nuts called her and e-mailed her. My response was no, I didn't know how many(made me wonder why she would list her number??) Maybe it was too early in the day(around noon EST) maybe she was having a bad day.........or maybe she's just a b.... even dropped my friends name, trying to salvage the call. No dice, so I rang off, fired off an e-mail to her, identifying myself as the caller, and cancelled. Her half hearted attempt to rectify things didn't set well with me....too bad really, would have liked to have seen her. MfSD>>>>

A provider would have to make me angry to cancel an appointment. It wouldn't bother me one bit if she didn't sound really eager to see me. In fact, if she did seem that way after only a few e-mails, my first thought would probably be that it's just an act.

Thanks for your point of view, Nadia. There is always the chance I will end up seeing the first lady at some point in the future, as we left things on good terms, I think.

The punch line, however, in this case, is that the second lady couldn't see me on the date I specified, as she was tied up with appointments over the next three weeks. We agreed on a date in late April when I will be back in town.

a hottie when horizontal!  I love the ex-English majors and the grad students for the GFE/ATF connection, but I'll make do with the computer un-handy if she's a good kid otherwise.....interesting how we "read" personalities and attitudes through so many electrons.....

I won't make an appointment with a lady that doesn't play back a little in the emails before the appointment. I don't want to monopolize thier time, and I'm not writing novels. But I like to book multi-hour appoinments, and it is important that we click on some level at least to have anything like a good time.

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that's how I am, I am very bland and business like in emails and do not like chatting thru Im, and dislike talking on the phone even more but I've recieved alot of feedback from guys who said they weren't expecting much when they came to see me and was pleasantly surprised by my vibrant and sweet demeanor.