Having been in this hobby for several years, I have developed a few friendships with fellow hobbyist that have lasted for several years. By friends I do not meant that we simply share information on BC. We have talked on the phone and met for happy hour a few times.  

Don't do it.  It isn't weird for me, but if you're asking this, it's too weird for you.  You don't have to make the "reasonable" choice if it feels icky somehow.

If you're at all weirded out by this don't do it.  

But if you need to have the fantasy that she's your GF and isn't fucking someone else, that's fine.  Whatever works for you.
Just to be sure, why don't you do an MFM with her and your buddy? Just teasing.

if this is something you don't want to partake in.

lol just fucking with you.

But I wasn't on a forum asking if I should feel ok about it.  I don't want to be with two men, even though I have no good logic for that, so it's best I don't.  Bottom line, if you aren't sure, pass.

Any chance he gets a break if he refers someone personally?

feeling that way about fucking someone's ATF.  If I am willing to pay someone's donation and she is OK to see me, I couldn't care less if she is someone ATF or what not !

Fun and jokes aside, I don't see any issues with seeing your friend's ATF if she is someone you're attracted to.

Not wanting to be with two men, that is lol

...more business and if she gets referrals from her clients she doesn't have to advertise to unknown guys, she knows they most likely aren't LE and are safe.

and they are already friends, a free test drive may help facilitate the sale.

I know providers I'm seeing, are seeing quite a few different clients, it's what she does. I have never thought about or cared who she' s seen, as honestly, it's just none of my damn business. But the fact that a fellow hobbyist is recommending her is a plus if anything. I wonder, is it any different for you if a fellow hobbyist that you've never met says "she's my ATF and I see her once a week"? At least with someone I know, I'm more confident with referrals.

Or bring over your ATF and do a MFMF?

Maybe that would restore the order of things.

But as everyone has opined, don't do what you don't want to do.

this particular guy is more of a friend than a board buddy. Board buddies who I have never met, have not sat and had drinks with, seem a little different than a guy I would consider a friend.

Call me "new-age"  I can't enjoy a sympathy date.

I actually asked him for a recomendation, but as he was describing her and I was getting excited, I noticed he started talking about seeing her every week and that is not normal for him.

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I think I am going to get out of my own head, and go see this lady, as I think she is very hot.

Be sure to review her so the rest of us know how much she ...wait for it....rocked your world, and what we can expect if we see her. It's a really cool circular pattern.

I think of referrals as mutually beneficial so I don't see the need for any bonus.  In this case, the gentleman looks out for his friend by authenticating the lady and the lady is assured that the friend is a safe person to see.  The gentlemen can go for drinks afterwards and compare notes, hehe.

I believe a good time was had by all.

Go to a M&G and see how the gals are in a room with a number of guys they've seen  LOL

good call

I've been to lots of M&Gs and hung out with monger acquaintances as well as gals we've both been with.  There has never been any discomfort.  In fact, it's mostly light-hearted sexual banter.  We're all well aware we're players in P4P and we're fine with it.  It's called being adults.  Is that really so hard?

There are still some who don't get this gig.  And likely never will.

But you said:

For outcalls to my apt.  I saw this one gal from there 3 times in 2 months (she was a cute Filipina gal).  Anyways, a friend of mine and I got to talking and he mentioned that he had never been with an Asian chick.  I told him about the agency and he immediately said, "Lets call!" Since it was my place I got the bedroom and he got the LR sofa.  Well, the agency said they would send over 2 Asians, the Filipina and another girl.  When they got there, the 2nd girl was a blond Russian!  Technically Russia is located in Asia I guess!  Anyway, when I grabbed the hand of the Russian to head for the BR, the Filipina gal looked puzzled and then pissed off at being handed off to my friend.  Only then did I feel weird about the situation.  Afterwards, when the girls left, my friend told me he wasn't enamored of the gal he had, was the Russian better?  He asked.  My response was "No" I had given up my then current ATF and pissed her off and he didn't even have a good time.  That was the first and last time I ever even spoke about the hobby with anyone.  I think it is and should be a private sport.

Excellent point. I, for one, would love to have access to a qualified ATF referred by someone I know. That's right up there with an ATF saying "Can I bring a friend?"

Last night for instance, there were at least a dozen different chicas that  came through the bar that I have fucked before, several of them multiple times, and I am sure that each one of them knew multiple guys in there besides me that they had fucked in the past. None of this made a single one of us feel even the least bit ill at ease. As you said "it is what it is"

Your buddy is basically begging you to go nail his ATF.... Just make sure you don't do it right after his appt if you know what I am saying!!! Back to High School how many girls did you and your buddy's share??