Perhaps your posts are 100% truthful and accurately reflect your experiences since you started posting in mid-august. Some of us  think it unlikely that you have gone through the series of events, transformations, and self revelations you describe in barely 90 days. Possible certainly, but probable? Further weighing against your credibility is the simple fact that this was pointed out previously by others and yet you ask essentially the same question again.


 If this has been your journey, you are a remarkably lucky and resilient person. One who hardly needs affirmation on an anonymous forum. If in fact you are just trolling for reactions, you may wish to explore a better use of your time.

-J

Dude. Ok, if we mis-judged you fine. We are genuinely happy for you, but when you lay your life out here and are selective with what you say, then you're bound to raise some eyebrows. If she is no longer in the biz, don't refer to her as your ATF. If there is a relationship in the offing, then go for it; you don't need our advice. As for the Civie, don't tell her about this world, she will only resent it (even if she approves now) and her wrath will rear its ugly head as soon as your first fight.

If I were you, I'd lay off both of them until you get your other life straight. With the freshness of a failed marriage and kids still to be nurtured and loved, you don't have a lot of space in your heart right now and most any serious emotional commitment on your part will be flawed. In layman terms, it's called rebound. I'd like to think that all of what you say is honest and forthright, but we've had a number of people of both sexes use the board for some of their brand of sick fodder. As you suggest, you are not masterful with explaining yourself and yes, it comes off a little less than honest and I am sure hundreds of people had a similar opinion when you went from being in a bad marriage but can't leave because of the kids to seeing your ATF, leaving your wife and going on a civvie date all in the span of about 10 days.

If you haven't gathered this, I used to work in rehab. I've heard every story known to man. Your writing to me suggests clinical depression and that's some serious shit that requires treatment not pussy. Pussy will make you seem, feel, and act as if your world is all the rage, but you'll come off that high and hit the fucking wall so hard, you'll find yourself in Cleveland getting curb service and thinking you're in a 5-star hotel. This I know to be true: Find a good therapist and talk through all of the shit-storm going on in your life. If he or she thinks you're past it, then great. Go out and fashion a new and healthy life based on honesty and good intentions. And don't forget the kids, they'll need you for some time to come.



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I'm a newbie to this board (tho not TER ), & it's a well established fact that lying is widespread on the net---no way to determine who is telling the truth. But Jaker seems sincere & I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt & support-------I'm sure others will do likewise.

As for justanoldman's rather sour posting, this is the same individual who stated that political postings here should be subject to a 30 day ban------consider the source, Jaker.

Don't let negative comments get to you.

I had some people jump on me in one of my first posts "Clients who demand gift back" yet others who defended me. It upset me btu end of the time, nobody can lay claim to truly knowing you nor your intentions.