Recently I posted about my affection for my ATF. I realize now it was her friendship and companionship I adored. I realized this after paying for full sessions, and instead of doing anything, I just held her and we talked. We talked for hours, way past the scheduled time. We talk like old friends, even though we haven't known each other that long. I decided to hang out with her as friends, and not to be a client anymore. She also enjoys my friendship. I know there will not be anything physical, but that is fine with me. I fell in love with her as a person. Thanks to all of your replies, I also am not jealous anymore, I am actually grateful to have made such a close friend. And like the Sparrow poem recently posted......if this friendship fades, it will always remain with me.
I am grateful for the good times I had with her. My marriage has failed, I have discussed that here.
My ATF friendship has given me the confidence to start dating again. I am actually going out on my first date (with a Civie) this week. My ATF saved me....she showed me I am worthwhile as a companion. We hung out during her off hours as friends, my confidence is back, after my wife threw my confidence into the gutter....it is finally back
Thank you all for your support, always

My friend has said many times that she approached her time in the hobby as therapy- the opportunity to give clients what they needed from more perspectives than just the physical. She said she had several clients cry and express their gratitude because they found their self esteem or happiness or.......

Very happy to hear that you've found your 'niche' with the lady. It's a very interesting type of friendship isn't it?

Jaker, it appears both you and your lady friend are the lucky ones.  Good luck.

Congrats to your and to your friend.  Friendship is one of the rarest, and truest, gifts one person can give to another, I hope you both continue to treat each other tenderly and lovingly.

When I read these types of things, I wonder if some, if not many, of us here are [or are not?] looking for love in all the wrong places.  This is an odd pursuit in a very strange world, glad you found a little patch of happiness and contemt,emt upon which to rest.

Best wishes to you in the new departures and direction your life is taking.

I'm glad the hobbying and this provider have given you what you need.  The confidence to move on, the realization that female friends are pretty awesome- great benefits from hobbying if you can keep your head on straight while you are doing it.  Funny how replacing fear with friendship and concern does away with jealousy

I'm finding similar- fairly new to hobbying, still sorting out what I'm getting from it, but I'm definitely finding it to be a confidence builder.  And I'm definitely finding that the provider's I've really clicked with and have a little bit of a friendship bond within the limits of the relationship are the ones I enjoy the most!

Best of luck to you

Great.  I had my ATF help me in a similar way.  I am not sure it is a friendship but she certainly helped me through a stressful time and gave me great advice about a female I was interested in. There is talk on her at times about how you can't trust a provider and that they are just telling you what you want to hear.  I felt my ATF was really trying to comfort me and to give me good advice about my problem.
She also did not care about the time element as we just laid there and held each other and talked.  She even told me about her civie crushes and past relationships as well as how females look at things.  She really helped me and i am glad you have had this experience and relationship.

I had my first date tonite with a Civie. I had the greatest time. If I didn't have closeness with my ATF, my confidence would not have been there to make my first date great. I am back on the dating scene and it was my ATF who brought me out of my shell, giving me back my self-worth. I may never see my ATF again since I will not be paying for services anymore....but remember the "Sparrow" poem

You went from not wanting to leave your wife because of the kids to not sleeping and paying for time with  your ATF to having your marriage fail and going on a civvie date in the span of a week or so... I don't believe any of this tripe and you should be ashamed that you are not telling the truth or selectively telling us what you think we want to hear. Con men play this card too freely and I hope you are found out because this seems like fraud to me.

I went back and re-read his posts, I have to agree.

He posted on 10/31/2007 the following: "I have a miserable marriage, but have kids I stay for. I have not been with a woman for 2 years until recently." I take this to mean he is still married, stays in the same home, and doesn't have sex with his wife.

Then on 11/11/2007 he posted the following: "My marriage has failed, I have discussed that here.
My ATF friendship has given me the confidence to start dating again. I am actually going out on my first date (with a Civie) this week."