Almost all of the providers I've seen are K-girls. But not all. One of the few non-K I saw, well, let's just say after my first meeting, she contacted me several times for additional dates. No charge. In fact, I got the feeling she would pay me.
We had some great times, but then she delisted and I never heard from her again. I was enjoying what we had, but I couldn't explain to myself why she kept contacting me for dates at no charge. I think she was lonely.
Have you guys ever had that happen to you? I have this particular client that I get butterflies in my stomach when he comes to visit me, I know that sounds silly but it's true!
I wouldn't say I am I love with him per se, but just reallyyyy attracted to him haha. The only bad thing is he might be married I didn't ask him, he doesn't have a ring on or anything, but I just feel like he is married lol.
What about you ladies ? Have you ever falling in love with a client?
And for the gentleman, have you ever fell in love with an escort even though you know it won't work out?
That’s a really negative assumption because dreams, do come true darling. Some of us providers are happily married, and have excellent relationships with our SO’s. Don’t cheat yourself. Be optimistic. You don’t have to be ordinary in life. My honesty has allowed me to love multiple individuals I met in this amazing lifestyle. I have lots of love to give & am always ISO new friends with benefits. The goal is to spread love & beloved. Why does it matter if they are married? It’s irrelevant.
I always respect and appreciate Queen’s comments and advice here! Simple communication is best; just ask the handsome man if he is taken or single? I know, sometimes it’s best just to not know the truth and enjoy the fantasy you create in your mind! LOL Let the crush feeling take you for the ride but be sure to set your boundaries and guard your precious heart.
I am married and am seeing a few providers that I have love relationships with. Each provides a different level of love, companionship, and or pleasure. I find it very difficult these days to have a session with a provider without falling in love. With that in mind I am staying with my foundational relationships and not seeking new experiences. It’s also difficult to add another provider experience in when they message me weekly to know when I am coming to see them? Keeping me on my toes!
2 days ago my traveling Provider told me I was too handsome, I am too popular, and I see too many Ladies??? I think she is still upset when I mentioned I see another provider. She still loves me and we have wonderful sessions together. I must admit, jealousy in a relationship does make for the best fucking sex ever!!! I’ve experienced this with myself, my wife, my providers.
Always enjoy the beautiful feelings you have for another partner, it’s often a rare occurrence to find that one person!
Great message!
Thanks!
It definitely happened to me and just going to leave it to a higher power to see where it goes. I was going to pose the same question but didn’t have the balls to ask. I’m sure I’m going to get some bad responses but I don’t care.
We started a torrid relationship. She left P4P, we moved in together and had an absolutely wonderful time together. It didn't work out long term, but I don't regret a moment.
I think QB is right--take Joy where you can find it.
I married a provider and it's been about ten years now.
Life happens.
Thank you all for your great responds, I am just really confused now as of should I let him know that I feel something more for him then just escort/client friend-ship, or just try to get over it and maybe stop seeing him frequently.
Deep in my heart, I feel like Its not a realistic thing, it's not like I am going to tell him And he says he feels the same way and we Hold hands and run into the sunset.
Haha can't hurt to fantasize
In my case I had very strong feelings the first time I even talked to her. After I saw her it was like magic. We have expressed things to each other and I have a better understanding about things as far as the business and life on your side. She is a wonderful lady and person. If she were to kick me to the curb tomorrow, it would still be worth it. Somethings are just meant to be. Thank you again for the post and opportunity to express my opinion. This actually helps!
off the clock. Make it during the daytime on a Saturday or Sunday, and if he's married with children, he will try to get you to move to a weeknight when he can tell his wife he has to work late. Then you can tell him is has to be Saturday or Sunday to work with your schedule, but if this weekend is no good, how about next weekend? If he still won't pick a Saturday or Sunday, then you can ask him why he doesn't have any Saturdays or Sundays free. If he gets tongue-tied, there's your answer. If he says we works at Wallmart on the weekends to earn a little extra money, then maybe your "picker" is broken, but you just dodged a bullet. This avoids direct questions about whether he is married or not.
Many providers will occasionally give their regular customers a social date OTC as a thank you for their loyal patronage. It's not a free session, but a social date with no BCD time. Even if you learn things about his that disqualify him as potential boyfriend material, the social time often improves the connection and keeps him coming as a regular customer. I've had thank-you dates with over 50 providers I was regular with, with only about a fourth of them ever developed into anything else, but it does happen, so it's worth a shot. Personally, and don't take offense, my assessment is that you are not in love, but infatuated with your fantasy that he might be the one. Spend some social time with him outside of the incall and you will either confirm that he is not the right guy for you on all levels, or will want to see him a few more times to see what the possibilities are.
The social date is a great idea!
This goes to kiki, not you. Lol
I figured…..haha!
if he’s in a committed relationship. There’s ways to find out from him indirectly, since “By the way, are you married?” could be awkward.
If not, go ahead and tell him how you feel about him if you want to. But be prepared for a response that isn’t what you’d like.
If he is “taken” already, my advice is to either get over it, as you said, or if you can’t do that, stop seeing him.
You are in the throes of a chemical high. Sometimes these things last, but more often they fade away. Remember, words can't be unheard.
In the meantime, encourage him to see you more; even offer a discount for frequent dates, as a way of assuaging your passions.
Just play it slow and appreciate each meet up you have with him for now… In time and as you get to know him and he know you more, the future of this deeper desire will play out. Envision what you want and the world is your oyster! It may not end up exactly how you envision but if you are still together in some way you got what you wished!
~Discounted sessions? It could work to your liking but do t cheeper yourself too much. I have a provider who has offered me lowered rates to get me back sooner; I never really took her up on it but saw her anyhow. Except for yesterday she was working near my home, I brought a cup of ice cream to share with her real quick but she wanted more than my ice cream LOL We made love as friends with no donations… me driving her around last week I felt was the compensation… Friends helping friends! Playing out however you feel fit… GL
I think this environment does tend to cloud our emotional radar but in the end relationships are just relationships. Confessing one's love is always problematic and should not be undertaken lightly in my view. You're spending time with him so should have some sense of who he is and how he feels. You have also got a great opportunity to "put out feelers" to get a sense of where he is at. In this regard I don't think it's much different from any other relationship. If it is going to be one-sided it is not going to work. If it's mutual you can generally get some type of confirmation before making any big confessions -- is not to say that you get certainty but sounds like you already have doubts about him and whatever relationship you might have. I'd get those doubts largely resolved before telling him you're in love.
I have "fallen in lust" with several providers, not able to get them out of my head.
There was only one that I "fell in love" with. I thought, honestly, that we were a great match and I liked so many things about her. What cured me was (a) reading the reviews that others posted about her -- she was obviously very good at her job and had read me very well and it was all in my head, and (b) she cancelled on me for an early morning appointment, where I later learned that she had gotten an all-night offer. So, I got over it.
Thanks for sharing. I have one provider that has really stolen my heart right now. I did tell her how I felt, but I emphasized that I am self-indulging when I am allowing myself to feel that way because I felt like it made the sex better.
She kept reassuring me that she liked *spending time* with me, too, but yeah...
For me, it's okay that it's not a mutual intensity of affection, but it's enough that the connection is there. I get the best experiences of my life while I'm with her. For that alone, I let myself feel, and the heart wants what it wants.
Yesterday you're attracted and today you want to profess love?
First, never see him again for p4p if you now think it could "work out."
Second, if you really want to pursue this, ask him to meet for coffee...verify he is available (single or in an open relationship), and go from there. Be ready to discuss his comfort with your profession. Be ready to settle into a vanilla lifestyle if asked.
Do Not Ever expect him to leave his family for you.
Do Not Ever contact his family.
In answer to your question, yes I have fallen in love with a provider, but our lives are too different in too many ways beyond her current way of paying the bills. So we remain close even though it would never work out. We have incredible sessions but I see others just to keep myself in check. We spend a lot of otc time, we message each other several times a week, we share almost everything about our personal lives. We found a happy place where we can love each other knowing it will never go beyond what it is. It's been more than 5 years and it's never been better.
Not that it's any of your business, but I get up just fine. LOL
the post was directed at the OP in support of your point.
Almost all of the providers I've seen are K-girls. But not all. One of the few non-K I saw, well, let's just say after my first meeting, she contacted me several times for additional dates. No charge. In fact, I got the feeling she would pay me.
We had some great times, but then she delisted and I never heard from her again. I was enjoying what we had, but I couldn't explain to myself why she kept contacting me for dates at no charge. I think she was lonely.
The guys that chicks throw themselves at are usually top 5% guys the the chicks throwing themselves at him compose 80% of the female population. That means that at any moment there are about 20 other chicks throwing themselves at this guy. So who is he going to pick? The answer is "none of them." Because why should he settle when he gets a constant stream of variety.
A dose of reality for Lester - his own words:
"I am probably the most forgettable human being walking the face of the earth."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/thats-why-i--966701?page=
It’s a great business model to try to drive up customer demand implying you are open to an outside work relationship with someone who “really is special!”
Best of luck to you!