There are a few providers I've seen as regulars for 4+ yrs and now their service just plain sucks. We do alot of talking about their problems etc, I've been out on dates with them off the clock, but the sex part really sucks. I've noticed a general deterioration in their service over time. One girl told me, this happens when you become more than a client to a provider. I'm tempted to just sail of into the sunset without a word to any of them.

Folks has anyone else experienced this?

I think CF (current favorite) is a lot more accurate term. You can't have more than one "all time" favorite, any more that you can have more that one "one in a lifetime" OTOH you can(and do) have many current favorites over a lifetime. If you're lucky, you'll have dozens of them.

It is one thing to be a sap in real life with women, but pathetic that you also become one in the P4P arena.
Then you pay for poor service and have to listen to their baggage. Then you whine because you are not treated right.
I have no sympathy for the helpless mangina types around here. None.

There are way too many "helpless mangina types" around here to possibly spread the amount of sympathy required for all those hapless, helpless fools.

It does amaze me at times how so many men supposedly looking for NSA sex manage to create strings where there are none. I agree, these idiots deserve every bit of misery they create for themselves.

....anything more than better sex. I guess these things happen with all women over time.

Not all gals are like that.

I have one favorite whom I have been seeing for almost 21 years, and each time we are together she make my toes curl up.

I have several others whom I have seen for years as well.

It is also true that some gals start off great and then slide downhill, and yes, I stop calling and that's that.

it's a big ocean out there.

is that I still have the health and resources to enjoy it all.

You spent the last four years being a helpless sap and slave to a hooker(s).
NO. they are NOT supposed to happen over time.

You are now coming around to your senses and taking control over your little head.

You are now going to move on and P4P the way it is intended. Just repeat that a thousand times before Mrs.Galt gets here and tries to effeminate you.  

You might not have been looking for more, but it looks like it has found you instead. You now have all the downside of a GF instead of a GFE, and you are paying for it to boot.

You already knew the answer to your question before you asked it. Don't blame us for not feeling sorry for you. If the sex sucks, tell her to take a hike, or just quit calling.

You took the provider-client relationship out of context. I have been guilty of this in the past. Unfortunately, there is nothing that can be done when you cross the line. If you are personal friends with the girl then dont complain when you start to get to know the real her. Yes, these girls have problems, a life outside providing, families, friends, boyfriends, other jobs.

Once a genuine friendship has been established. You have to realize that friendships are give and take and not just take-screw-take.

I became very close to a provider myself. I had to stop seeing her because I just did not have the fortitude to become serious with an escort. As much as I felt for her, I knew that it was not going to work.

Seems to happen quite a bit...the experience is carried to the area you guys don't want. I am not a fan of GFE...the whole emotional side...unless the lines are drawn as deep as the Grand Canyon so you'd have to be out to lunch-ville not to get it. It's great if it works but lately there have been so many posts with the downside...falling for one another etc. I like to keep my guys clients and that rarely happens and I have been seeing one guy for 8 years solid...

I did not know IF I'd ever go back.   Yes, they take us for granted...  but this is pay as you go!!   I just went else where...  I found some new Favorites so I rotate them "more or less" depending on what I want on any given day.   I'm still "friends" with my Favs...  right up until the time the door smacks me in the *ss on my way out!  LOL!!  
No, you do not "say" anything to anyone.  What's to say?   You want to see others...  just do it.  You may or may not circle back...  that is your option.  I did & I think the service is much better now...  but I'm STILL continuing to see other Favs.  It's just the way it is.
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I have clients I see regularly.  Some of them consider me to be their ATF.  I have a number of clients I have been seeing for about 3 years.  I always dress up for them.  I make an effort to wear something new, exciting, sexy, and different every time I see them.  I buy fun costumes and surprise them by wearing different color wigs from time to time or I style my hair drastically different.  Changing my look is fun and they seem to appreciate it too.  

Encouraging my clients to try new sexual positions and to simply try something new with me keeps things fresh too.  Laziness or complacency on my part is never an issue.  I put everything I can into making each and every session one to remember.

Another thing I do is I encourage all of my regular clients to see other ladies.  Especially the ones who say they are starting to have feelings for me.  I talk to them openly and frankly about the fact that great sex can screw with your head.  Great sex can awaken some pretty serious emotions.  I encourage them to take a break from me and come back anytime they like.  I never put guilt on them and am ready to give them a reference anytime.  

In closing, if I were a hobbyist and my ATF was not making me feel special or giving me the best possible service she can give, I would find another lady who will give me what I desire.  Get your sailboat ready darlin'!  Good Luck and keep having fun.

Well said!! I couldn't agree more...At the end of the day, you are PAYING for an experience, it is our "job" to sense the kind of experience you want. To change it up, to always look "done", not to get lazy when it comes to these things.  It is a fine line when you start getting feelings for your ATF's...I have a few wonderful clients that I enjoy, however, I think that the type of women I am with them, may create a clouded line. NOT for me, but sometimes for them, I do NOT feel comfortable going out to dinner, drinks "off the clock" NOT because of the money (or lack there of) but because it clouds everything, THE one thing I am bad at it explaining this to them. I want to be that perfect GFE (that IS what you want right?) but NOT give you the idea that "dating" is alright. Its for YOUR benefit, I know my own lines. I create them.

You said you've had dates 'off the clock'.. which I take to mean you aren't taking care of them like you should.  If they are your ATF that means you should be doing more for them not less.... that is why your 'service' is deteriorating.  Treat your special ladies like queens and you'll always be catered too... that is how it works.  

The 'taking care of ' part can be 'off the clock' BTW.   If you are of the mindset that you only are a sugarpie per event... there is another issue with your mind set.  The real quality ladies are appreciated ...  If you REALLY don't find your ATF that special best you DO move on.. for both your sakes.  

xx A.

Your "girl" told you "this happens when you become more than a client to a provider." So what are yo to these  women who no longer service you the way they once did.  You can be damn sure the guys that are reviewing them are still getting full attention.  It's time to move on, it sounds like you have become to comfortable/friendly with your providers.  This can become rather expensive considering they are already aware of the fact then less then 100% in the bedroom is fine with you.  If you've been seeing these ladies for 4 year you may be getting a discount which could also be part of your problem.  I've seen services drop after ladies have offer discounts to regulars.  Who knows after 4 years of being a regular they don't feel they have to try that hard to hold your attention. check the boards no reason not to move on.
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