For me my ATF I would say it was prsonality all be it may have bin fake but I could see something in her that seemed real and genuine.The sex was mind blowing sure that helped but that wasn't the reason just like a civie when you feel that you could talk to someone about anything and you wan't to know everything about them it is a good feeling.It may have only bin a crush I wanted to tell her but I said to my self A woman this great has her own life I'm sure a SO and I felt like I was crossing a profesional line.Of course I now will never know I always say that all the people you meet in life you meet them for a reason and you are a beter person for having them in your life no mater how short a peroid of time.You can never have a new ATF only a new favorite .Why I stoped seeing her I belive she retiered I can only hope not for ever she stoped taking phone calls and no new ads I never got a I don't work any more response or anything like that I didnt wan't to become anoying.So I stoped calling are last comunication was call me when you want me to come over called her that nite and never heard from her again.Leavs my wondering what ever hapend?   ps I'm adding the alias overflowing with estrogen LOL

I think a truly fun Provider is someone you want to see again.  I think Performance is a key element, but when both are there, it's a definite repeat.  And, if it gets even better then next time, again and again...

Couple of reasons to move on:
1.  She retires
2.  She moves away
3.  She becomes too familiar, and the Service suffers

I've been lucky to meet really quality Providers who've never offended me, but that goes back to Personality -- and, you usually develop a mutual respect for each other after time.

Personality!

Seriously, it's not that hard in the P4P world to find lots of hot women to have sex with.  Finding one or two who seem to like exactly the same things you do, cause no drama and create no BS is VERY rare. I met my ATF a year or so after she had split with her ex and provided a sympathetic ear once she got to where she could trust me enough to open up a bit.  Two years ago when I split with my now-ex my ATF returned the favor in spades. I would have been OK without her help and advice but it really helped me a lot just to have someone who had been through it providing that same sympathetic ear as I had a few years prior.  She's a great lady and the sex is still getting better all the time!

In my experience, 20 yr old ATF are harder to maintain than mature ones (30 yrs and older).
I know when they are not focusing on me and when they become too comfortable and
their performance slacken.  My last ex-ATF suddenly did not cuddle like she use to and I knew something was wrong.  She has LE related problems (got arrested, but not for prostitution) and became very paranoid.  She's not providing now.  We went to a motel and suddenly she back out because she suspected the motel receptionist was LE. And we had to drive 30 minutes to another motel where she felt safer.  I didn't want to put up with that anymore.  It's sad but things change.  

 

What made her my ATF? Good sexual chemistry and the way she made me feel like she genuinely cared about me. Yes, I am sure she had her routine down to a science because I read other guy's reviews raving about her over and over, so I am sure that I was not alone. She won me over simply by doing things that made me feel like I was not just a client. Accepting my invitation to dinner off the clock, kissing my cock tip after a long intercourse, keeping me overtime, remembering conversations we had weeks or months ago, spending lots of time snuggling in the bathtub after some rough animalistic sex.  Either you have chemistry or you dont with a person. It all ended when she quit providing.

So for those of you that have ATF's what about them made them your ATF?

The first happened after I set in the hospital with her because her Ex beat there child and dropped the child at her incall and I was her client. I seen how much she cared for her kid and it endeared her to me. We been close ever since. My wife even likes her and her family and mine became close. The second one we just clicked, The sex wasn't the best but she made me feel at ease, which is not a easy feat. It is not just about the sex with me.

For those who had ATF's and then replaced them, when did you know it was time to move on and find a new one? Was it something she did or said?

The first got herself arrested, and sent to jail. She just got out Tuesday the 18th. Child protective services took her child from her. My wife and I are now the child's foster parents until the courts restore her custody of her child. She is retiring from the business because of this as she should seeing she was dumb enough not to screen after I spent the time teaching her how to after her second arrest. In short she was forced to retire. I am helping her reestablish herself as a non-provider and get her child back.

I've seen my ATF and only her for a number of years now. What struck me when I first met her was the way our session went.

It didn't seem rehearsed in any way. It felt very natural and real, like two lovers meeting and enjoying one another. She never said anything to stroke my ego: "Oh, you're really good at that" or faked an orgasm 20 seconds into DATY. She conversed with me both before and after, and when I thanked her in an email afterward, she remembered the things we discussed. She really paid attention to what I said and what I liked and didn't like, and vice versa, and after a few months, we just really sexually gelled.

As others have said, that has progressed into a friendship, and we have helped each other through some good and bad times over and over. We still maintain our boundaries, and I don't see that changing: we won't screw with each others lives, and neither wants to pursue anything deeper. If that ever changed, that would be the reason to leave.

In short, she was honest and real right from the start.

So you ask what makes an ATF...

She treats you like a friend. My ATF I have done several overnights with her & they just keep getting better. We have developed a friendship that I have never expected to find in this hobby. The sex is GREAT but the connection has to be there to. I treat her like a queen & she treats me like a king.