I know I'm a jokester. I kinda got a real question today

If I start dating a Civie, and she asks me about my sexual past.
Should I be honest? Or lie?
I like her, so I don't want to lie, but I know what happens when I tell the truth!
Civie girls get suspicious when you are too smooth in bed. I'm not saying I'm good.
Just that I know the positions. And one particular thing..
Whoremonger

I think you should think if this as a pool hustler.  Start off doing "ok" then gradually ramp things up.  When crunch time arrives you deliver big time.

Ask yourself what you will think if you start dating a civvie chick who can suck a tennis ball all the way up a 50 foot garden hose. Will you automatically think she is a "hooker on holiday"??

Lie to no one, for if it's someone that you care about you'll only ruin it with a lie. And if it's someone you don't care about, who the hell are they that you have to lie to them anyway?
--Willie Nelson's character to James Caan's character in the movie "The Thief"  

Not really love, but lust.  

Tell the truth and there will be no "it" that info is none of her business. It is just like asking her personal facts about her past sex life. Do you really want to know about that gang bang she had in college? We all have a sexual past. So what? It use to crack me up how girls would say they loved anal sex while doing it, but then say they only did it once before later on. When she asks if you ever paid for sex before, you are better off asking how much she charges than giving a "yes or no" answer. I wonder where all those millions of girls who did freaky porn are today? Seriously, "Two Girls, One Cup" actors have be someplace-right?

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Oh hell yes I do, in detail. My kinda girl, the nastier, slutier the better.

Sadly, most women are of an old fashioned mindset, and they think less of guys who see hookers.

do you want a SO that accepts you completely, is open-minded, and without judgement. Let me answer that for you - Yes! If yes - you should be able to tell her anything. Personally, knowing what I know now... I don't know the point of an SO without that. But if that stuff is not as important to you...then what's the point in telling her.

How many people know about your "hobby" life, I mean friends, relatives or just anyone other then who you've seen. If you're in the closet and no ones knows, then LIE,LIE,LIE....And then put this life behind you, although I bet you'll be back....If you tell her, she'll always wonder where you're at and with who. Trust me, she doesn't need to know.

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If you're a comfortable hobbyist you're not most guys...don't settle for a most woman.

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If you don't tell her, then everything could be hunky-dory, but there will always be the little chance she learns somehow, and you'll have that hanging over your head, which can't be comfortable.

but I will confess, I don't like to just blurt out my "number" when asked, even to a hooker who may have seen as many guys as I have women. There is something about being asked "how many women were there before me?" when the answer is a four digit number that you can only wildly guess at.

It's probably on video somewhere BTW don't say you are "bent" around your UK friends. It means you are gay, but whatever  

All you're required to disclose is anything that may impact her health and your particular sexual proclivities. Until you know she's cool the world of sex work, leave it out. All the sex stuff can be explained away and pegged on some past, freaky "girlfriends."

And do I complain about her? Yes, on occasion but I do about my sob as well at times, and my pets all the time. My chickens steal my food for God's sake. But does that mean I don't love them and I don't feel trapped, I feel blessed. Maybe you never knew romantic love but that doesn't mean it doesn't it isn't real. Like parental love it takes work though.

If a new beau fessed up that he has had a bountiful sexual past, would it matter one way or the other to you if the gals he saw were civies or pros?

Nothing like that about your past is relevant, at least I don't think so.

How long does it take you to trust someone with a serious topic? At a breakup, can you still trust them? I do not...seen the ugly side of that and from now on, people are on a "need to know" basis.

I know of a few my wife had not to long ago. Guess what her sexuallity is part of what I love about her. I think if you really love her and she you both of you accept the past of the other. And yes I am glad I know my wife's past and her mine. Had I not known I don't think we would still be with each other. Truth is best. Lies kill relationships.

but not to be flippant or anything, guys ought to get asked the same question about the gals they see.

Are you looking for different answers each time, or do you just forget you already asked this?

I guess that explains a lot about you.

But the hens in my back yard aren't for eating. They became friends. They follow me around and even sit on my lap and let me pet them. You don't eat an animal you name. But to be fair I don't love the chickens but I do like them too much to eat.

You should have said, "I don't eat an animal I named," speaking for yourself. Many people have no problem eating an animal they named, including myself. I grew up on a farm. We ate what we raised. We were taught that animals were for food. We did not eat dogs or horses, and had dogs as pets, but all other animals were for consumption or sale. Cattle, pigs, rabbits, ducks, chickens, and geese. We named our animals. We bottle fed orphaned babies. We took care of them, fed them, played with some of them, raised them, slaughtered them, cooked them and ate them.

I don't eat animals I name. I have ate animals I rased. The chickens are pets, I let myself get attached. When I was a teen my dad got a turkey to raise for Thanksgiving dinner. I never named it, and never did more with it than nessary. Never got close and I ate it fine. It is different when you raise an animal with the intention of eating it and one you intend to plan on having as a pet. I could kill and eat a dog, but not one I befriended. There is a difference.

For some reason? I always hook up with a girlfriend this time of year.
It's not me. I assure you.