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GatormanTX 2597 reads
posted
1 / 18
How to ask a lady…

So, it seems to be getting a little more difficult these days. I  travel often to Orange County and Portland, OR as examples. Portland opportunities seem sparse.

Sometimes, I don’t want FS. I just want the first half with no covers and the feeling of being with a girlfriend if that makes sense.

Obviously we all have to be careful, but how would I ask providers about this without crossing a line?

I have had providers text me menus explicitly and I am done at that point. I don’t want explicit texts either. I have had two from Tryst just go crazy on me asking about outcall when it did not say either way on their post. I just want to be a good client and spend time with a professional. No drama.

Appreciate the help.

GatormanTX

DeClemente 48 Reviews 121 reads
posted
2 / 18
I'm lost, so I wonder if other people are too.

Posted By: GatormanTX

So, it seems to be getting a little more difficult these days. I  travel often to Orange County and Portland, OR as examples. Portland opportunities seem sparse.  

Sometimes, I don’t want FS. I just want the first half with no covers and the feeling of being with a girlfriend if that makes sense.  

Obviously we all have to be careful, but how would I ask providers about this without crossing a line?  

I have had providers text me menus explicitly and I am done at that point. I don’t want explicit texts either. I have had two from Tryst just go crazy on me asking about outcall when it did not say either way on their post. I just want to be a good client and spend time with a professional. No drama.  
   
Appreciate the help.  
   
GatormanTX
What the hell does it mean "I want the first half with no covers and the feeling of being with a girlfriend"? You're talking about bareback as the first half of BBFS. Why all the cloak and dagger doublespeak? Make it plain, man.

And what about this one, what does it mean? "I have had two from Tryst just go crazy on me asking about outcall when it did not say either way on their post."  Huh? You asked them if they did outcall sessions and they exploded? Something's missing here.

Then you said, "I just want to be a good client and spend time with a professional. No drama." Ok, I give up. I can't make heads or tails of what they've supposedly done wrong.  

Try telling the women up front that sometimes you don’t want Full Service, you just want the first half with no covers and the feeling of being with a girlfriend. If it makes sense to you here the way you've written it, it should make sense to the women when you let them know.

-- Modified on 12/4/2021 10:41:44 PM

holystonethedeck 105 Reviews 104 reads
posted
3 / 18
Re: I'm lost, so I wonder if other people are too.

Posted By: DeClemente

     
 What the hell does it mean "I want the first half with no covers and the feeling of being with a girlfriend"? You'
I'm GUESSING he's referring to a BBBJ.

Steve_Trevor 93 reads
posted
4 / 18
I think it’s clear

he’s not talking about BBFS.  My interpretation is that he’d like BBBJ and GFE, and sometimes outcall.

 
IF that’s the case, I think it’s simply a matter of researching profiles and reviews to find providers who offer that combination.  From what I’ve seen, many providers who offer BBBJ and GFE are fine skipping FS if the client doesn’t want it.

GatormanTX 107 reads
posted
5 / 18
Clarification

Man some folks can get riled up over nothing. I had originally tried to post with BBBJTC and it said I couldn’t post. I thought it was because I used an explicit acronym, but that wasn’t it.

So yes, I would like to know from a provider how to respectfully ask for the Girlfriend experience and only a BBBJTC without FS. And if when asking for this arrangement, is it the same cost as GFE FS?  

I am not cheap, sometimes I just do t want FS.

inicky46 61 Reviews 75 reads
posted
6 / 18
I think you're over-complicating this.

First of all, once you're with her and the money has changed hands you're allowed to ask for what you'd like. Of course, not all girls will do a BBBJTC (also known as NQNS for No Quit No Spit). But you should be able to figure that out by reading her reviews. And, yes, it should cost the same as FS because her time is her time and blowing you to completion can be more work than fucking.

Steve_Trevor 100 reads
posted
7 / 18
It may not cost as much as FS

I know of providers who do BBBJ and GFE but not FS and typically don’t charge as much as FS providers. Then there’s the providers with dual rate structures, where FS costs more than BBBJ only.

 
Otherwise… yes, expect to pay the same price whether FS is included or not.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 88 reads
posted
8 / 18
I think everyone except Declemente knew what you meant. Eom


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coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 94 reads
posted
9 / 18
I have to agree with Nicky . . . .

From the providers' perspective, they are selling you time, not services, so I would not expect a good reception if you're the one asking a FS provider to limit her menu in exchange for a discounted rate.  There are scores of massage parlors (mostly Asian or Latina masseuses) that will offer BBBJCIM with an upcharge, but I don't think it will be a GFE feeling for you.   Years ago, there was an oral queen in my rotation  that I saw for BBBJCIM only, and I still booked a one-hour session at the FS rate, but it was more than worth it.  

 
As Nicky also said, since your question includes the financial component, I don't think there is any way to ask this gracefully with a provider you are seeing for the first time without putting a bad taste in her mouth, and that's before you even see her.  Lol

impposter 49 Reviews 112 reads
posted
10 / 18
Re: Clarification

Posted By: GatormanTX
So yes, I would like to know from a provider how to respectfully ask for the Girlfriend experience and only a BBBJTC without FS.
"Hello Provider. Thanks for screening and agreeing to meet with me on Day, Hour. In anticipation of seeing you then, I hope you'll take a moment to read my post on TER:  
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/clarification--990558  
Thank you."

DeClemente 48 Reviews 100 reads
posted
11 / 18
Re: I think everyone except Declemente knew what you meant. Eom

Posted By: perfectstorm
Re: I think everyone except Declemente knew what you meant. Eom
That's possible, perfectstorm.

ROGM 103 reads
posted
12 / 18
Ask Upfront.

Just ask her upfront. But in a polite non aggressive no vulgar language manner.

inicky46 61 Reviews 106 reads
posted
13 / 18
I AlwaYs AsK My Provider uPfronT. And AlwaYs uSe RandoM CapitaLizatioN. eom


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GatormanTX 15 reads
posted
14 / 18
Re: Clarification

Appreciate all the feedback.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 91 reads
posted
15 / 18
How about seeing gals with reviews?...

Their profile will say explicitly whether they do BBBJTC.

pm5805 4 Reviews 89 reads
posted
16 / 18
Re: I think you're over-complicating this.

Not to be the acronym police or anything, but BBBJTC implies spit, so it's not NSNQ. If you're looking for NSNQ, you're after BBBJTCWS.  

Minor quibble, carry on.

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 86 reads
posted
17 / 18
I've been in this hobby 20 yrs.. Let me tell you something..

Once you get in the room.. You drop down your pants and say.. "Eat this".. Works every time. LOL

helixir 54 Reviews 98 reads
posted
18 / 18
At least here in LA

That would be a non-starter with many if not most girls. The market here is demanding 7 and 8 for a pretty sub-30 year-old, and some of them are getting more.

On the other hand, instead of trying to water down the liquor, maybe try liquoring up the water. I've met a couple of girls here in LA who offer FBSM but were willing to upgrade to several activities short of full service. If a lady provides a good FBSM, and you feel comfortable with her, ask whether she'd upgrade to what you want and if so for how much. Not much to lose--all she can do is say no--snd the lady may see benefit in a few more bucks but still no penetration.

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