Being a newbie, I feel quite insecure about some things.  I have seen a couple of ladies, and mostly just let them drive the session, which they seem happy to do.  So please just help me out and don't flame me (too much).

I want a lady to feel safe and secure with me, and to stay within her limits.  But I want to daty.

Is that mostly always OK?  Do most ladies like it?  Is it OK to just go for it, and deal with the reaction?  Or do you need to wait for an indication that she's interested?

Inquiring minds want to know.

I always ask permission.  Never been told no.  As always check her reviews for whats on her menu of things she allows.

Yes usually

depends on your skills and if you have stubble or a rough beard

Yes usually, but dont walk in the door and start eating (unless you have met previously).  Be a gent, kiss and caress a  bit first.

On a first visit a lady usually does not take the lead unless you specifically ask her to.  She usually goes with the flow.

So if you want to DATY, most ladies who advertise GFE allow and enjoy this.  Even some who are not GFE allow it.

If it is not on the menu she will let you know, no harm, no foul as long as you respect her boundaries.

Just remember to follow her cues when you get there, nothing worse than a guy who does one thing and does it poorly.  On a BJ if you like to be licked instead of swallowed, you oooohh and aahhhh when she licks and go silent when she swallows.  If she doesn't get the idea you direct the action, no?

But you are paying so she may not feel comfy enough to direct you, so she will do that with cues, and oohhh and aahhhs.  Pay attention

You may get lucky and find a gal who will tell you want she wants how she wants it.  But trust me, if you are really bad, she will very quickly go to the "let me return the favor" mode, or her world will be rocked in 20 seconds or less...then you will be done.

1. Pay attention when you review the profile of a prospective provider.

2. Get a VIP membership so that you can read the reviews on the provider in question. The detailed reviews should provide all the info you need about DATY with the provider.

3. Just relax, be natural & let nature take its course enjoy your tours to the promised land(s).

Rosemann has the answer!

I guess if you read the reviews you would get an answer.

It is not something you can discuss up front.

Seems all girls differ in this area.

I love it, with a clean mouth.

maddy

I generally don't ask with words, but actions.  I slowly kiss my way down, a lady will invite or not with her leg position (open or closed).  Seldom is it discouraged...

I always shave before a date, so should not be a issue there (though I've encountered some stubbly ladies down there).  I alwyas take my time and approach DATY gently.  As the lady warms up & opens up she guides me as to where she wants me, moves against me, etc.  The response is why it's fun for me.
S

I learned early to ask and if she allows, ask her what she likes and how!  You'll be richly rewarded.

Women are as different as men in what they like.  My favorite ladies vary considerably- one loves it sucked hard and vigorously, both on the hood and taking the whole clit;  Another loved to be bitten slowly/gently/firmly.  Many like licked either only on the hood or the whole thing.  Many like gently fingering the G spot, some don't.  Some allow it for a short time for your sake then direct you to move on for their sake- especially if you aren't the first that day and they are sensitive.

Point is- you are making love and it takes two wanting to please each other, and with egos out of the way!





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