This is more for the girls I guess, but would it be appropriate to ask a provider to like a sports game/concert/play as like a gift? Like ticket would be a gift, there'd be no expectation of anything outside the duration of the event, just show up and say goodbye afterwards. There's a girl I've been seeing sorta regularly, and we both like a singer. Last time we were together I mentioned I had gotten to see them in concert and she said next time to ask her. Idk if she meant as like part of a date, or just as like friends or what. I would love to take her, but given the length of the concert there's no way I could swing covering her date rate on top of everything else, and I'd be dead afterwards, so any private time would be out of the question.
As a single Super Mamacita I can not afford to see anyone off the clock, nor would I want too. I am sure many providers who have less responsibilities may enjoy a free concert. My children’s father is an entertainer & I do not want to go to his shows.
Just ask her. The worst that could happen is you get a No as a response. She may go. Idk. Its worth the risk. Be honest. You can not afford her rate, but many provide discounts for time spent out of the bedroom. I have contributions on my website for social dates only. Good luck!
Wait, I thought this was just a fun hobby for you. You can't afford OTC time? That's sad.
Wanting to separate work and personal time is one thing, but can't afford at your age is sad.
That said, I agree with your advice that he should just ask. She apparently already signaled interest.
Sad that she can't imagine that sometimes people can connect as friends and do things OTC. I've done it a lot and, people being just people, it's perfectly natural. The only thing I'll say is, most people in this game aren't capable of it.
Her answer may be different from the 20 different answers you may receive on this thread.
a true companion .. is just that .. a companion .. someone who meets you .. so whether behind closed doors or not ..that's her occupation. that's how she makes her car payments. so expect to compensate her for her time although might be a rate lower than a BCD one.
so unless you have something extraordinary .. say back stage passes to the Rolling Stones, don't expect a pair of normal concert tickets to be anything special.
I would guess anything is appropriate when the compensation is on par. In other words you're more than likely going to have to pay for her time, but then again idk, she could be different. I think you're referring to "off the clock" time. TBH that's a vibe thing but if I were you I would tread lightly. Of course I'm not behind closed doors with the two of you so idk the manner in which the situation was brought up. Lots of things to take into consideration.
it's not uncommon for a girl to give you a no-sex "customer appreciation" date periodically. The frequency of the OTC dates depend on how regular you are in seeing her as a customer. For a girl you are seeing weekly, you can expect a customer appreciation date every three to four months, usually 4-6 hours, plus or minus a little, and a concert and dinner is an appropriate choice. If you are seeing her less often, maybe 12-15 times a year, once a year on the outside is about right. Not all girls will go out OTC with a customer, but a shared interest in a particular event like you describe will often serve as the catalyst to make it happen. However, clear the date with her first before you buy her ticket. Make sure she understands it's OTC, and you are just going as two friends that like the same singer. Remind her she ASKED to be invited.
Just remember to treat her as a "friend" in public and not as a girlfriend. By HER suggesting she might go out with you, it shows a level of trust on her part that she knows you will respect her in public. If you get "handsy" or want to start kissing, you might never get another date. If anything is going to occur as it might on a civvie date, let her make the first move. If you have good social skills and are a good conversationalist, there is no reason she would not want to do it again someday. Keep reminding yourself that this is a privilege to be OTC and don't do anything to blow it. There are providers here who would charge upwards of $2000+ for a date like this. Providers are always leery of going out OTC, because they are pre-conditioned to think guys are just trying to score free pussy, and that's a turn-off, so don't do anything to make her regret going. That's it. If you have any specific questions, PM me. I've been on over 50 OTC social dates with providers I was seeing regularly. Good luck.
I have ventured to do this a few times. Most of the time it was the lady initiating the request to go to a concert. More often than not, the lady changes her mind so prepare to be dissapointed.
On one occasion the lady decided to tour the week of the concert. On other occasions, the lady preferred to get a date that paid her full rate. And one time, I sessioned with a lady right before the concert and she bailed on me on the way to the show.
I doubt I will give this type of arrangement consideration in the future. Good luck.
Bailed on you on the way to the show??? That's harsh and unnecessary!
Just ask her don’t be surprised if she wants to be compensated
not curiousity killed the cat
Sure, I would up for it! If it is a client that I have seen several times and we get along well I think it would be fun. It would of course be dependent on her financial situation and if this is something that she would do with a client. I would just make sure that she is aware you are wanting to take her just as a friend. Just be honest with her about the situation. Best of luck!
I've done many things outside the bedroom with several clients and never expected to be paid. But if we fooled around after, then the compensation was just a normal donation. And if we didn't, then it was just a fun night out.
No harm, no foul.
I see too many providers sucking this hobby to the bone. I can see why the alot if the guys are so bitter.
AND I can see why some of the providers are getting bitter, but damn...this is supposed to be FUN. Everybody takes everything too personal nowadays....
So true. I believe that since COVID, people have become more negative/crazy. When the government shut down, due to COVID, “fun” was cancelled. Lol
I've taken a few ladies out to lunch off the clock. One was a woman I have seen a lot of and I've helped her with one of her personal issues. I asked her if she'd like to go and she readily agreed.
Another was one who visits occasionally and we went out to lunch at her request. We seem to have good chemistry even though she speaks almost no English. I guess she was being genuine when she said she has fun with me lol.
Oh, and I've also driven two ladies to the airport when they were leaving the area after touring. One asked me to and I made the offer to the other and she thanked me for being so considerate and saving her some money.
in return for driving her to the airport early the next morning. Her request, not mine, but what a deal.
it was picking my ATF up from the airport late at night and taking her home when she returned from an overseas trip. I got a free night’s stay too, but it was only that. I could tell she was wiped out, so after she showed me some pics of her trip, I kissed her on her forehead and retired to her guest room, then got up early the next morning and left quietly. No freebie on that one, just doing a friend a favor, but she’s brought that night up several times over the years as to how grateful she was. And she made it up to me later. 🙂
Many times it's worth "doing the right thing" because it's remembered and repaid many times over.