...solicted. If she's sending me a wisecrack remark or a joke that's fine, but none of this "hey baby, I've really missed you" crap...that get's deleted w/no repsonse real quick......
I am with you on this personally - I do not contact anybody without an invitation to do so - ie a direct inquiry, a specific invitation to do so from a previous client or an ISO type post that is specifically relevant.
I was just wondering what others do/like - I've noticed that many people do things WAY different than I do. lol
I personally think it's tacky indeed. Smells of desperation. If a guy is intersted in contacting someone they will find a way and do so. On their time.
A long time ago, I had a provider contact me to try and set something up. We had met twice with awesome sessions. At the time, she was very indiscrete in contacting me. Back then it was fine considering my unattached status. Now that I am attached, I would never want a provider to contact me unless I first initiate.
are of the "How have you been"? variety, and I love getting those. There's just something about little notes from beautiful women that can make my day a little brighter. Only on a couple of occasions has a lady written to let me know that she'd be visiting my area, and I don't mind them either.
I don't like a hard sell, or a mass email blast, but I read them quickly and depending on my mood and wallet, will act accordingly. IMHO
Some ladies, I'm sure, deal with such demand they can't even conceive of having to call prospective clients. They don't even return some of the inquiries they receive from potential new clients. But not everyone is in that situation; not due to quality, but just connections, locale and stuff.
But this IS a tried and true business technique for other types of business. The first place you look for business, if you do good work, is with old or current customers who appreciate the quality of your offerings. I use it myself for several of my side businesses.
So I don't find the concept of a provider doing this problematic conceptually. She also knows that previous customers are unlikely to be LE, and she already knows how they treated her.
From a strictly business perspective, it makes sense.
Personally, if I haven't contacted a provider again, I'm either not ready to see her, or don't want to see her. Either way, if she contacts me, it can put me on the spot.
HOWEVER -- I'm a big boy. As far as I'm concerned, any woman with whom I have shared physical intimacy -- either provider or civie -- can feel free to contact me discreetly. I have never, to the best of my knowledge, shared physical intimacy with a woman I considered to be bad or evil.
Of course, whether contacting me is likely to generate business is another matter entirely. But if we've "met" -- she can contact me. While a provider might not remember ME after two months, I guarantee that I will remember HER pretty much forever.
I certainly have no problem with it at all. I actually like hearing from women I have not seen in a long time.
If she emails me with a c'mon and see me and for an incentive I will drop the price to xxx, then I will most likely be seeing her real soon.
OTOH if she bombards me each day with inane chatter, then I will request removal from that email stream.
I guess a quick email at least a month apart is just fine with me.
I like to send a pm to those whom I felt I had a nice *Spark* with ..say "Hi,you rocked the house".
LOL
I find it lowclass to troll boards
spamming clients. I don't even feel
comfortable inboxing someone on the
in searh of board or my local board
when a guy posts his seeking.
You are not comfortable answering a request from a Gentleman when he posts on your local board or on the ISO board?
Why do you feel uncomfortable about that?
Answering a request is neither lowclass or a board troll.
that we post the questions in the first place.
Yes I know. Being a little on the shy side
((until I warm up to you))
I do answer to those requests its
just that most of the time people
find me
If I were to post an ISO of a specific type of woman, an you matched that type of woman, I would hope that you would "inbox" me as soon as you saw the post. That is exactly why I am posting an ISO, because I am looking for a woman.
I may have not seen your website, or the search criteria I used on TER might have rejected you for some weird reason.
So sending me an email to a public post I made is not only acceptable, but welcomed.
Good business sense from provie perspective--
Depends on personal taste from client perspective-
I wouldn't expect a provie to get rebuffed for said inquiry unless he/she contacted someone they ripped off...Can't beat familiarity and comfortability --sometimes--....Personally I have a more...diverse palate, but it's nice to know the option is there for reconnection*
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Some will want to send e-mails back and forth which I do enjoy keeping in touch that way. They can call me anytime to say Hi but I would never do it to them.
I do think things change with certain relationships here and it is case by case. I don't believe any lady should just call to see if they can get a date lined up. That's very low and not very professional.
Kisses Haley
I have thought about it. I think it is okay to do if the Gentleman does not mind.
Sexy..If I ever get up there to see you....you can contact me any time you wish.
There is a lady that I saw just once, years ago, that is always on tour throughout the country. Her e-mails include pics of her in costumes related to current holidays. I enjoy each of them. While she does not send e-mails informing of when she will be in a specific area, when I recently learned that she would be in my town, her e-mails contributed to my current interest. If contact is by e-mail, spamblocker or a quick hit on the delete key works fine. Of course, I'm single so, I have no worry about the prying eyes of an SO.
Once, by a client who requested I do so…
I had a client who requested I contact him in between visits or if a significant time passed since our last date. He wanted to feel desired (i.e., my pursuing him, not his pursuing me), thus he requested I call or email him if too much time ever passed to show interest. Other than that, I have not and will not contact clients out of the blue. Personally, I want to feel desired also. If a client is not interested in contacting me at the time, then I do not want to see him at that time. 
*wink wink* Besides, I delete my clients’ contact information and half the time do not know how to contact them unless they contact me first (I have few friends and see mostly regulars so this has never affected my giving an accurate reference). However, I have kept in contact with old friends through my optional mailing list/newsletter (BTW, for discretion at this critical time, I have completely deleted my mailing list. So, old friends feel free to contact me in a month or so, as I will not contact you via my mailing list/newsletter going forward).
I look forward to seeing old friends again when they are ready to contact me! Thanks sweeties. Can't wait!!
Your passionate and playful girlfriend,
Gia
just touching base as we are on friendly terms. I've never had a provider friend "ask" for biz, but of course it does not hurt to make sure that good clients "remember" you lol. Actually I enjoy hearing from them and keeping in touch. I am *more likely* to revisit providers who stay in touch - no brainer.
OR if they have instructed me to do so with my availability to them.
*Shrug*
....Which speaks to how often I contact my clients.
There is only one that I contact with any regularity and that is because he wants to see me every single time I am near him.
That's about it- my clients read TER & escort malls like its their job and they rarely miss my availability.
That's OK - being with a "European American" would be about as natural to me as sleeping with another woman.
: )
You have a personality that transcends all other factors. I'd pay to chat with you.
I value discretion, and would prefer not to be contacted at all. To me, that's part of the deal in this hobby. There was a provider I used to see in DC, who started calling me all the time - during the day, etc. I deleted her number and never saw her again. Started blurring the walls, and I couldn't risk that.
I think if you are in touch with them via email or so, then yes, send them an email once in a while to maintain the connection.
When the client is ready, he will call you.
This year a provider asked me to rent a car for her, I declined the request. Another provider asked me to pay her rent and I declined her request.
Sometimes if they contact me I will see them again, other times I won't. It gets boring see the same provider all the time.
There are some that I have never seen before that will contact me with some idle chat hoping to get an appointment. I won't book with them because they are not my type.
Phone calls are a big no no. Sometimes I work at home and it is awkward trying to ignore the calls with the wife at home. It is a good thing i have my office at home.
I get emails all the time from visiting ladies I've seen before. They write to let me know about their return visits. I appreciate it, and it gives me an opportunity to book before their schedule fills up.
I've rarely received these from local ladies and my reaction to them would depend on how they're worded and who they're from.
I signed up to a few Yahoo! groups with the ladies I had seen in the past -- they send out e-mail messages once a while to stay in touch with members in the groups: new pictures, calendar/schedules, travel plans, ...
Not specifically targeted e-mails -- don't know if these count.
There are a couple of out of state ladies I have asked to keep in touch, and/or let me know when you are going to be in town again. I'm always glad to hear from them. There are some I keep in touch with as friends, and when I want to see them, we set something up. I have gotten unsolicited e mails from ladies I've seen, asking if I want to see them....THOSE I DON'T LIKE! I usually just delete them. If you are invited to keep intouch, or let me know...by all means...but it's not always appreciated otherwise!
I never call a client for repeat business.I think it's risky since most of them are married or in some way involved in a relationship or they could be working and get in trouble for taking personal phone calls. There are a few of them who I am friends with and they have bad health problems. I do call them regularly to check on them but that is only because these guys (3 of them) are single and live alone and said it's okay to call whenever. I like to make sure they are doing alright and we talk casually but never do I inquire or even hint about seeing me again. I do not like calling for business. It screams of desperation. That is my respectful opinion on it.
