I have been in the biz for over 25 years. and have seen the highs n lows, but still to my disbelief guys are writing specifics on location. Please be discrete, It takes a lot of exhausting energy to have these things kept private.
But with a population of 56,000, I am sure there are a lot of apartments in the city.
You may have to email support since the reviews (especially the September one) are past the edit stage.
BTW, I updated your profile to reflect your correct age.
Maybe she doesn't want the LE in THAT CITY to be tempted to track her down. It doesn't matter if there's 56,000 people there or 2,000,000. We often list the city next to us or nearby in ads to avoid that specific area's dept from putting in the effort to track us down.
You may have to email support since the reviews (especially the September one) are past the edit stage.
BTW, I updated your profile to reflect your correct age.
her responsibility. Perhaps you should direct some of your advice to her ![]()
Yes, her safety is her responsibility, but reviewers should be careful as well. And if you think a town of 56K people is a "big city" with "lots of hotel rooms" you are seriously misguided.
Her request was reasonable, not sure why you seem put off.
Nothing was mentioned about hotel rooms, it was an apartment.
I also gave her advice on what to do.
It would seem that you are the one who is misguided again. You manginas are quick to jump that you don't think.
It's actually not an apartment, so i pay no mind to that. It's ok to show concern and have opinion. It is the holiday an not everyone is going to agree on opinions and rants. Wishing you a great Holiday JN
Try to see the forest instead of the leaf. Since this is the “General” board I tried not to be Ohio specific or one-provider specific. I tried to address the general principle and thought most readers could follow that.
Yes, you gave her a suggestion. That’s kind of what this board is for, isn’t it? You also made a comment that implied a town of 56K is a big enough place that the numbers alone give some anonymity to our actions. I happen to think that is a very incorrect, misguided statement. I hold that 56K is a small town that provides little if any anonymity and too many who feel it’s their righteous duty to snitch on any whose morals they don’t agree with. Hotel, apartment, out for a dinner date, etc., the principle is the same: don’t be specific. Especially in a small jurisdiction.
You also implied she needs to be responsible for her own safety. I pointed out we all have a responsibility for the community’s safety to some degree. What part of that do you find offensive? The fact that the reviewer has some responsibility? Grow up.
PS: Do you think tossing in gratuitous insults makes your argument any stronger? Actually, you probably do or why else would you put it in there? (Rhetorical question) But that’s a different argument I won’t pursue here.
Everyone is familiar with where escorts advertise. It's not a secret. But location is to be protected at all times, and using the largest city next to us is what we cognitive respectful individuals do. We think about not only ourselves but the next person, like our neighbors, the community, our families, our friends, and most of all our repeat clientele.
I will update my age, I didn't realize it had me listed so young. Actually I make more friends being older.
Thank you support for being ontop of your game. I so appreciate your thoughtful swiftness
At our first meeting a lady who has become a Fav... requested that I not reveal her specific location... It made a lot of sense to me & I have continued the practice. I NEVER give the exact town or section of a larger city. Anything on a public forum could be read by LE or a stalker... I don't want to help either.
I saw an ad once... the lady has become another Fav of mine... if you followed her ad, it dropped you off the highway in front of the only motel for miles. I immediately e-mailed her that I felt this was dangerous. I was rewritten shortly there-after.
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Be careful in everything you say. Ask yourself "If someone knew this woman in civvie life and didn't know she was a provider, would anything I say give her away?"
So don't say "She has a birthmark shaped like a horse on her left shoulder." Say instead "She has a birthmark." That should be enough to warn off guys who don't like birthmarks.
And don't say "She told me she was escorting so she could pay for her grad courses in Rocket Science." Instead say something like "She takes classes."
What I'm describing is a new TER policy, one they intend (rightly) to enforce. (I don't work for TER, so don't take what I say as official.) Say anything in a review that could "out" a provider, and your review will be denied. I speak from experience.
Discretion helps us all. I don't like the thought of a provider being targeted by LE because some other reviewer was too detailed. It's the same reason I don't like providers posting face pics. HER being outed increases MY risk as well.
Other specifics I always omit or misdirect: the exact day we met, what kind of restaurant we went to, any other "out in public" specifics. At a provider's request I'll even change "Oct" to "Nov", etc., so long as it remains a accurate representation of what anothert guy can expect.
The TER menus don't help, listing states under "City" , and then asking for "Location", as if more was required than a city - it does lend itself to putting more info down, although common sense should dictate otherwise. I think in most cases the state should be sufficient, maybe north or south of a state at the most precise, and I try to give info like "Upmarket Hotel..."Motel" etc. as the location.
I'm not sure about giving intentionally misleading information such as the neighboring city. While not the key points in the reviews - I think if you buy into the concept of accurate reviews there is a need to avoid inaccurate info - but there is enough opportunity to omit and be accurate, rather than inaccurate, in other words avoid the city name altogether.
Dear Shar:
Considering that you have been in the business for over a quarter of a century, have you had some stalkers or men monitoring you movements from time to time? Also has there been any people that tend to be a tad ubiquitous in your life that you might be vaguely familiar with? Also would you say since the age of the internet that now the location would be more common knowledge and with the circulation of the stories would be stalkers tend to pin point the location easier? Ms. Archer please discuss your concerns especially now in a information age and also because you are still active and vibrant in the hobby. Also have you discontinued seeing certain people in the past because they might be a bit too errie or harrowing in their demeanor.
maybe u should update the age range on your profile page..if u are btwn 31-35 and you have been in the biz for 25yrs?!!!
reminds me of another 31-35 yr old provider who remembered being in the sixth grade when JFK was shot. rofl
Keep in mind you first start out with the quickie $5.00 hand jobs in that case. Then you start escalating it for your friend's lunch money and so on. Then you have the ads in College where you start to pay for your semesters and the occasional A for a lay program with certain professors. Then you start the agency on the side with a couple of roommates. Then you have a site and a place to communicate with would be customers online. Finally, you have the drop off points so that you can receive your money. Ultimately, you have groups of girls in different places around the world sending you money after you establish subsidiaries all around the world.