I try for one big O where she sweets and loses control of whole boddy.

we cant get them off all the time.

I could care less if she gets off

Of course, I always hope the lady has an enjoyable time and would be thrilled if I gave her a genuine orgasm (not the Meg Ryan acting type), but it's not my first priority since I'm paying her.

However, in my personal dating life, I always feel I should do whatever I can to give my partner an orgasm and, yes, I make that my first priority.

I occasionally read reviews where the provider has several O's sometimes four maybe five O's.  I don't proclaim to be a stud in the sack, so I often rely on using my personality to get them off.

Of course it would stroke my male ego If I knew I got her off....However I won't lose any sleep if I'm not able to get her off during our time together.

I definitely try to get each lady off, as I love DATY, and a lot of the spasms, quivering, gushing, and other reactions - that really turns me on.

However, you have to keep in mind that every provider simulates Os all the time. She does it to please you and finish you, or to get you to stop that annoying, maybe painful, thing you are doing without directly telling you (which can be a turn off, and possibly confrontational). She probably does it for other reasons I have not even thought of.

So there is this problem with trying to get her off - you are trying to do it, and she is trying to convince you that you have done it. Which makes it very hard to know if she really has gotten off. Seems to me I read a survey of providers a while back, and they told the researcher they got off maybe 10% of the time. So the odds are that she is not getting off, and the odds that she is getting off mutliple times are damned close to zero, if that survey was true. But if she convinces a reviewer she was getting off like that, it is good information, isn't it? Either she is a hell of a performer, a real sex fiend, or the reviewer is an idiot (you choose).

Of the 50 providers I have seen, I am sure I know whether 4 really had Os. Two told me they did not (though one of those later told me she did, but I knew better by then), so I believe them. And two played with themselves either after we were done or while we were playing until they came. One of those was always telling me what to do to make sure she got off, and got angry one time when I stopped something she really liked just before she came - so I believed her. That was a real GFE, real time demands and critique of my technique. Liked it for a while, but it got old. At some point, she should have been paying me.

I do think I can tell with most others, but it would not surprise me if I was wrong. I would be disappointed to discover that the wild, mutual fun I have with my number one regular was all acting on her side, but other than that I am okay so long as they convince me they are into it.

Call me old and cynical.

zig

I like it better than a BJ for foreplay.  I really like it when a lady helps me by telling me what does it for her.  If they can't do it then I prefer just to be told, "it's ok, let's try something different" than to have a fake one, or to be teased or engage in some verbal role play.  Otherwise I'm down there forever trying to make her cum.

Mutual pleasure is essential for me, seems to encourage a better quality encounter

"It's your hour, it's all about you" so I let her have at me. Getting this provider off was obviously not my top priority that day.  Every date is different, but it's always nice if we both have a good time.

there is no bigger turn on for me than to DATY to a gorgeous women, take note to her body movements and facial expressions, adjust accordingly, and bring her to an amazing O

Last night I saw a provider and brought her to at least 6 O's in the hour.  And they were NOT fake by any means.  She was seeing stars and was truly breathless.  I know what I'm doing down there, and LOVE it...

otherwise you would have been left guessing.

Perhaps you should consider a career in male escorting.

Think you can get any gals to PAY you?

Seriously...if you're having a good time and she tells you she is having a good time...isn't that what this is all about?

eom

I'm not hobbying these days, but I agree with Mr.Fisher -- it's nice if it happens.

There are a whole bunch of factors that stack the deck so much against a provider genuinely having an orgasm that I don't worry about it. Instead, when I hobbied, my primary concern was simply to be a nice guy so that she had as pleasant an experience as possible. Other than once, I have of course never noted an O in a review even if it seemed as though the provider had one. It just seems that reporting her Os, if she has them, is a bit too much back slapping for myself at best and proof that I am easily fooled at worst. I can, however, be 100% certain about my own O.

it adds to the fun.  Best termed a secondary objective.

It's 100% your time in your session and you shouldn't worry about her getting off! OTOH I know I am going to have many O's just because I like "stranger sex"! Just the anticipation of not knowing if he's gonna hit this spot or that spot of mine gets me off every time even if the motion in the ocean sucks! Seems like my clients take a lot more time to "play"in their sessions then getting straight to the main event. I have one client in particular that was disappointed he didn't get me there the first session and spent most of his next session DATY and FIV, learning my spots and I was like wow, I'm getting paid for this?!? Unfortunately, I am multi orgasmic, my climax is so strong, that I can only see one or two clients a day, it just takes too much out of me. But I can see girls that are desensitized or over worked and not caring if they enjoying themselves and faking and for that it's unfortunate. I think for her to "O" for you it is part of the service; you deserve to have the real deal experience of seeing her "cum face" and feeling that unmistakable pulse on your member! I'm sure if you wanted a woman to fake it, you would've stayed home and screwed your SO! Doh!

experience has shown that when she is happy, I have a better time.

Who's paying who? I like to try to get the lady off as well, but I'm there to get my dick wet.

When a lady pays ME to fuck HER, maybe I'll actually give a shit if she gets off or not in the long run.

Isn't that what whoring yourself out is all about?

Yes, this is ABSOLUTELY what it's all about...  

My point was there are too many gents out there who can care less about HER pleasure, and just want to blow a load and get the hell out of there.   I'm just the opposite.   Blow my load then DATY for 3 hours with NO problem  

And if you have any suggestions on how to get started with having ladies pay ME for my services, please do tell !!

but I always go to a session intending for both of us to get off. I enjoy witnessing a lady having an orgasm. All the better if it's due to my ministrations. I enjoy DATY and having her legs squeeze my head and hold on while she is bucking and...well you know. I enjoy having her tell me what works for her and doing it. I'm aware that sometime it doesn't happen. I'm aware that sometimes she merely convinced me it happened. But if your honest you know that sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. It is the way of things. But I always go in with the intent that she gets off too.