Further detective work has led
me to the conclusion that if one
wishes a provider to understand
what exactly she has done to you,
NCNS HER in return. This would assuredly
make your point quite loud and
clear i am certain. As a hired investigator
i have done just that to prove a point.
Nothing says fuck you like a lack of
dead presidents.  Disrespect my
time will ya'? HA!

The majority of NCNS are someone being thoughtless and rude. It is obviously a frustrating and all too common problem on both sides of the transaction.

That being said, there are those times when there is something legitimate that may cause a provider to NCNS. It could be something as simple as a cell phone dying, or a personal or family emergency or illness, etc. If the circumstances permit, you definitely deserve a call.

Giving her at least 24 hours to call or leave a message apologizing and offering to "make it right" can save a lot of unnecessary drama. It also allows the poster to calm down and hopefully avoid a "too angry too soon" post.

If there is a legitimate reason for her NCNS, that same reason can delay her communication to you.

If a lady NCNS's you, first give her an opportunity to explain what happened, and make it right. Sometimes, real life does actually interfere with our hobby. If she offers a plausible excuse, and backs up her apologies with an offer of extra time or some sort of discount, give her the benefit of the doubt.

If you can't get a response from her, or if you aren't buying whatever excuse she gives you, then backchannel your experience with her to let others be the judge of whether to see her or not, and leave it at that.

Playing tit for tat was fine in high school. Presumably we've all grown out of that mentality. You are adding to the problem, not remedying it. All you've done is encourage her to to keep double booking to make sure she stays busy regardless of whether she is NCNS'd or not...and so the cycle continues.

"these men have their real names, addresses and employers listed for all the world to see."

Anyone dumb enough to give out their address and employer in the first place deserves what they get.

I do agree that the OP's method of payback is childish, not to mention, pointless. Relay the information to her other prospective clients and keep it movin.

once you get blacklisted.

She could indeed post all the information that she has on you on the blacklist because of your NCNS.

Many providers check this as part of their screening process. This is in addition to your info being there for all to see.

..and use that number. I've had several NCNS and it pisses me off to no end.

Since you did not call and you did not show, how do you know that she did not do the same to you again?


Thank you
2010 = 28

If you will, for one moment, peruse the National Black List (NBL).

Please notice two things.

1. That these men have their real names, addresses and employers listed for all the world to see. They have been FULLY OUTED as hobbyists. Search their names on google, and the fact they hobby has been exposed.

2. That about half of these outings are NOT for violence, threats or theft. They are for NCNS.

NCNS is a dangerous game to play with a provider. You never know which ones will, over a $200 booking, put your employment and more at risk because of a lack of a sense of proportionate justice.

Sorry, but the National Black List speaks for itself that this is a risk.

About the only correlation I have been able to find is that the ladies who seem to lack a sense of proportionate justice in this regard is that they are disproportionately unable to spell. So don't book anyone with spelling errors in her ad or website.

By far the best response is to not book the lady, presuming her NCNS was not a result of something unavoidable. Sometimes shit DOES happen. Your failure to book STILL deprives her of dead presidents while exposing you to less risk.

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Seems to work best for me. Then work the "to do" list for another date

Now you've got some extra cash to find a new playmate that appreciates your time and $$$.  Don't give her a reason to make you the bad guy in this situation. IMHO
Doc

I can tell you that I have gone through a relentless amount of ridiculous Q&A emails with men whom I have never met...their 411 checks out and then the day of the appt NCNS...so since they have been an asshole to me, I should be an asshole to everyone else? NO  move along and GROW UP DICK!

thank you lol

That's what will happen if this type of retribution goes on.  Two wrongs don't make a right.  It will also get you black listed in the provider community.

Is underneath a beautiful and intelligent woman!  LOL