Do you look for it?  
In providers?  
In civilian partners?  
What does it mean to you?
Is it elitist?

If I were a guy, it would be the total package but in the land of "bang for the buck with a 19 year old" so far from their agenda. If she is hot and also sophisticated, good deal! If she is not hot to them, it won't matter a bit in most cases. Very few men care about that here, but I would bet they marry someone who possesses both intellect, a bit of sophistication, and a brain. Can't forget personality though. If you are boring as fk and sophisticated, not a good combo. No, it's not Elitist. It is, what it is.  

definitely adds value to the service if she is already good at it...

Now that would be hot.

a sophisticated lady is refined and cultured..you can always tell when you are with one..they never talk dirty and they never scream when having an orgasm..very rare indeed..

You can be a sophisticated lady in public, and still a whore in the bedroom...oh yes, they exist. I am just not one of them bwahahahaa. I might be well traveled, domesticated, and educated, but I would not ever say classy, intelligent, or cultured. Hey, it is what it is ha ha.

I may not be the best judge on this as I have been known to shoot squirrels and eat them, and not because it was all we had. True story and mainly for London's benefit. But to me I would say clean, polite, able to carry an intelligent conversation, and communicate through emails like a sensible person. While I'm not the most highly educated person here I have a wierd grammar fetish. If her emails look like a high schoolers text messages then I don't proceed. I would rather spend time with a 8 in the looks dept that was intelligent and a great conversationalist than a drop dead gorgeous 10 that is an airhead. The total experience is more than just shaking the mattress for me. Speaking of conversation if I ever find a lady who can talk about hunting and fishing as much as me then I would defiantly be hooked. I like the contrast between my blue collar rural background and an educated urban gal. Makes things kind of neat, my ATF fits that mold and when we get together it flows well reminds me of that commercial they used to have for the KY yours and mine!!

Hmmm.... interesting take on "sophisticated". Sounds more like "prissy" to me.

. . . And can leap tall buildings with a single bound. I am still searching for this package, although all I have to offer, in exchange, is simply eternal adoration.

Honestly, unless you explain yourself better, I have no idea what you mean.  And what does it have to do with P4P sex?

nope.." prissy" is more Victorian.." Sophisticated " is more cosmopolitan..

Posted By: SoftlySarah

Hmmm.... interesting take on "sophisticated". Sounds more like "prissy" to me.

so•phis•ti•ca•tion (səˌfɪs tɪˈkeɪ ʃən)

I am just curious about peoples' takes on this word and the concept. I'm having fun with the responses.

Sophistication doesn't have to do with money or economic status, necessarily.  Being polite, ladylike (or chivalrous for men), well read, and curious.  That's partly what sophistication means.  It's almost a cliche, tacky, vulgar girls in expensive designer clothes.  They certainly aren't "sophisticated".

by the super-ego according to your description. No screaming or talking dirty? Hmmm... interesting criteria for sophistication.

I love your response! Thank you for taking the time to post.

I'm not interested on sofisticated ladies yet, I'm still young enough to have a good f#k, but I think when I grow older I might have to talk more and play less - well maybe some blue pills can help -, at that time a lady who's educated and good coversationalist (sofisticated?) will make more sense. I think of sofisticated as an euphemism of "My rates are higher"

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Yeah actually that would be! I know my way around cars but surely not out there in a dress (let alone an expensive one) doing it.

Posted By: SoftlySarah

Now that would be hot.  
   
 I agree with your take.  
   
 And I also don't think certain posters here will be interested in sophistication. No- actually- I don't think many would even really know what it is.

a certain amount of education- be it self-education or formal. Well-read, as Bridgette put it.

Excellent answer. Well read is important as

I believe you can't be truly sophisticated without some form of education- be it self-education or formal.

in other words..a sophisticated lady will make for a boring provider..she is prim and proper..very ladylike..can never truly let her hair down and enjoy herself fully because of her sophistication..the ego is in control smartypants..i should call you Sarah Freud..

Sophistication has nothing to do with wine .  
    If she markets herself as sophisticated she's more often a dolt .  
       Memorizing a wine cheat sheet only requires basic memory ,
    not sophistication .  

Posted By: SoftlySarah

Now that would be hot.  
   
 I agree with your take.  
   
 And I also don't think certain posters here will be interested in sophistication. No- actually- I don't think many would even really know what it is.

For instance, Rasha is what I would consider sophisticated but not boring. She has a personality. Being sophisticated means nothing if you put someone to sleep.

But I don't think that sophistication demands that you are motivated completely by the super-ego.  

Many would even laugh at "classy" or "a lady" lol. The modern world thinks anyone who has random sex with strangers is far from being worthy of that title, much less one who will do it with multiple partners at a time lol. I think of Vivian Lee and many others from that era when I relate to women of sophistication. Barbara Bush comes to mind as well, though I don't want to fk her.

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Wow, I agree with you. DOH!

here? She'd be your gal, no doubt!

especially for Mac.

A pleasure  to be with and then wild when the doors close and the intimacy begins. Sophistication brings with it Intellectual and social satisfaction which can serve as wonderful foreplay for a wild and exciting time together in bed. The one does not preclude the other! On the contrary, it could enhance the intensity of what follows.  
To relate to an earlier thread - a real connection with a sophisticated woman can lead to the truest, most intense orgasms .... which is not just cumming!

you'd have something perfect to say! You most certainly "get it".  

I am sure you are correct . . . So I search and search

Jane Seymour and Grace Kelly vs. Melanie Griffith and Jodie Foster? Which do you prefer?

" Hey Charly; StarKist doesn't want tuna with good taste; they want tuna that tastes good"

The Random House definitions are intriguing. They almost seem to put a negative rather than a positive spin on being sophisticated. But acting ( and being) sophisticated in one context in no way precludes being wild and uninhibited in intimacy. I love spending time with a woman who is worldly and knowledgable and intelligent and then, in private, watching her strip the clothing of "sophistication" and being uninhibited and passionate. That could be mind blowing!

I prefer Softly Sarah! The others are all actresses! LOL

Thanks for that. I am not a drinker, but I am trying to learn to appreciate wine. Quite the conundrum. Lol!

And too funny. It's like racism- prejudice makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. Ah well- their own loss, right? Keep the blinders on so they don't have to deal with too much information at once.

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Glad you enjoyed it makes my day knowing I made a pretty lady smile.

There is a huge difference between sophistication, snobbishness and being classy. Sophistication can be bought but class cannot be bought.

more able to role-play, then I'm for it. Those who have it might not see it in themselves, and those who call themeselves that might not really be sophisticated

Or fish at all for that matter. lol

He likes a girl who can talk fishin'. And hunting. Maybe hunting's more your style? Kinda goes with gambling, I would imagine.

Wow! nice choices, but I believe they are all "sophisticated" in their own ways.
All of them are intelligent, refined, cultured, beautiful women, albeit actress'.  their real life persona's are so much more than the character's they portray.

my wine appreciation course can identify the vineyard, type, and vintage of 30 wines purely by tasting them, smelling them and looking at them. She's one of only 30 wine masters world wide.  

Excellent post, Liam!