We all recognize the stereotype of the male species, willing and actively seeking out as many meaningless and varied sexual experiences as are available to him.  Usually this is done on a sort of autopilot, with little regard to the consequences.  But,......

What about the ladies?  All of my previous mistress' and "Loves of my Life" that I was having affairs with, would "Bang my Brains" out, and then get on the phone to their husband/boyfriend and "take care of their mundane business"; or get upset that their S.O. wasn't going to be home; or break up with their boyfriend because she found another girls phone number in his cell phone.  I would be awestruck at their ability to compartmentalize what we had just done and what they were putting their SO through.  I even had one particular "Hottie" (I never did quite get over her) tell me she wasn't cheating on her husband because she wasn't moving her hips while I was fucking her.  Mind blowing!

Now to wind back to my original question....Are men really from Mars and Women from Venus?

Just as some people keep falling into relationships with abusive partners you seem to attract women predisposed to commonly held iterations of male compartmentalization and rationalization to infidelity. Though this "Martian" mindset may betray certain commonly held “Venetian” predispositions I'm confident that the total cumulative of these ladies instincts would still prove them alien.

They are not compartmentalizing.  Its hot to be banging someone and then talk to your significant other on the cell.  I've carried on conversations, including little endearments, while being sucked off.  If you are comfortable with your "provider" and you have your finger hovering over the hangup button in case her mouth suddenly comes off the pipe to speak, then its a blast in more ways than one.

Don't get me started on what to call that - being from Uranus, perhaps?  Uranus is still a planet, isn't it.  Or did some dumbass scientists decide they don't like that on either?

the ability of people to rationalize. I doubt that the human race would exist without it.

As to the man/woman to Mars/Venus theory:  I don't think a definitive answer will ever emerge.

Men are definately not women with penises and vice verse.

Yet the debate helps fuel civilization so let it rage.

I absolutely can't stand John Gray. He has got to be the most annoying man alive. And their are sooooo many others that have written books on the same sort of topic that are a hundred times better. I think they should change the name of his book to 'A woman's guide to turning her man into a bitch' . But that's just me (lol)!!!
Anyway,   .... Men cheat pure and simply for the pussy, whereas women cheat to be validated in one form or another. For men it's not personal, for women it is. ( remember boys, we are evil! lol). A woman's infidelity is sparked because their is something lacking in her primary relationship. Most likely her mate no longer makes her feel like a sexual being. So it's more a mater of her longing to feel desirable  to the opposite sex, to be pursued and to be the object of someones affection again, rather than it being about the actual act of sex itself. And then to some degree this can be accompanied by a certain amount of contempt directed toward the SO for making them feel that way in the first place.

Gotta say that is one of the more cogent treatises on the differences between men and women... Your line "men cheat purely for the pussy..." is a classic. BTW, your exposed 'clit' is absoultely adorable. Can I have a lick?

I think many men would cheat purely and simply for ass too, if it is on the menu.  Sometimes you only get the mouth.  So it is too simplistic to say "pussy".  

But if there are any cheating women out there, I just want to to know that I validate.

smart and helpful is very sexy Amanda.  Doesn't get much better than a mensch with curves.

sorry I'm no longer in the market.  I'm sure others will take up the slack.

I gotta say that the physical stuff is pretty damn nice & arguably motivation enough, but I doubt it's all that simple.

I suspect both sexes and most people need variety, it's just variety of what?   It's not a good plan to bore an SO of either sex - but men usually are more immediate and easier to please, while a woman is more likely to plain want attention, maybe to assure herself that she's not losing him to a competitor.    It can be damned annoying when a woman always gets into the "look-at-me" mode when her protector is trying to fight off the very problem she's screaming about.

I think lots of men aren't the dog-weasels they're supposed to be, but the GF can't be totally self-absorbed.  YMMV.

I try to remind myself every now and then that as a species, we only crawled out of the primordial muck a heartbeat ago, stood erect a blink ago and developed meaningful frontal lobes a half-a-breath ago.  The basic physiological drives that animate us and that find their origin somewhere in the basement closet of our DNA have not really changed that much despite our advance from pelts and skins to Dolce & Gabbina.  Somewhere in the hoary mix of plasma that defines much of what we do are some turn signals that haven't been turned off for the last 10 million miles or so.  Amongst other things, those signals tell men to spread their seed and tell women to protect and nurture--all so that the species, whether tigers, rabbits or your uncle Jim and his wife Trixie can propagate and persist.  Many of those instincts that we have qualified and characterized in our new found leisure time and with our fancy big brains often have simple and eons long purposes that don't necessarily fit in with our iPoded, latte'd existence today.  Which is not to say that we shouldn't try to moderate those instincts that tend to hinder rather than help the Leviathan of civilization swimming forward.  But we ought not to too quickly assume either that we can understand all of our base impetuses in the vocabulary of pop pyschology and Oprah-flavored insights or that they need to be.  Sometimes it's as simple as "fish gotta swim".  Anyway, just a thought.

vive la différence!?

have anything to do with each other.

Not my original thoght but I don't remember where I heard it.

Thank you, Amanda, now I know I am not alone in thinking the same.
I love men because they are so different.

They are about as different in mind as they are in body, and the mental differences show up in infancy.   I wouldn't cite what you have as differences between the sexes.  Men are known to do the very same things.  

There are some very simple differences that I could see.  One is that enjoying porn is really very straightforward for men.  Women can enjoy it, but it's not so straightforward; there are constraints they have to overcome.

Another one: I've heard over and over of women in porn who never had sex with a woman before, had always been straight before, but they step into a scene with another woman and go right to it.

There are other differences, with and without sex that I could list.  

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its just not discussed with men... A great read is Madam Bovary.  She lies, she cheats, she poisons.... you name it... she acts like a man! lol!

I despise John Gray. He's a traitor to the male half of the species. He got rich foisting a bunch of psychobabble on us. I can't imagine how many people he harmed with his tripe. I, for one, retreated into my cave and now only come out once a year -- when the swimsuit issue of Sports Illustrated comes out.