I do not do deposits or cancelation fees and I have found the most successful way to reduce NCNS is to stay on top of reminder emails. When touring I place my ad about 30 days before I am scheduled to arrive. I send out my first reminder email 1 week before. Next reminder w/hotel info is when I check in to my hotel. Next is the day before. Next is the day of. When I am at my incall I do a day or two before to confirm and then the day of.
If you do not show up within 5 min of our start time I send a message asking if you are on your way, if I have not heard from you in 15 min I cancel and move on. I have found this keeps my schedule (and sanity!) in working order and intact. Any other tips you find helpful, clients or providers? Constructive feedback is always appreciated! Have a great week everyone!!
I let them be the initiator, like here’s when and where I’m available and you reach out when ready to book. Then you the client confirm when you’re ready. Takes the planning off of me and let them come to me when they want.
I think this is smart and I appreciate it when ladies do this. Nothing wrong with calling it cancelled 15-20 minutes past scheduled start if you’ve heard nothing.
No tips to add except that when she’s not doing this, I do. If it was setup a few days or more in advance, I message day before or morning of, then again about 15 minutes before I leave the house.
Yesterday I was literally typing a confirmation text for an appointment a little later, when she texted me to confirm. Told her she was psychic lol.
I have no argument at all with how you do things so no need to offer up any constructive feedback.
When I am doing outcall, I always send a confirmation email about 3 days in advance and then ask the lady how she wants to proceed from there. Some like to reconfirm the day before but most like to reconfirm the morning of the date.
Being the client, I give more latitude for lateness but I am not criticizing how you do it at all. That is your valuable time and your rules apply.
I will send a follow up 15 minutes after the confirmed start time but I wont leave the hotel until it's been approx 45 minutes post start time, assuming I have heard nothing up until that point other than that mornings final confirmation.
In addition to the multiple follow-ups (which, as the subject suggests, I prefer), the multiple messages have the added benefit of building anticipation. Which, for me, enhances the whole experience.
I am also drawn to smart women, with a good work ethic, who actively manage their affairs. My experience is that people who put effort into managing their lives, also put effort into their work. And I get to be the beneficiary.
contacted me that much BEFORE the date, I'd probably cancel. Seems too obsessive and a bit irritating. Maybe a glimpse at how the date would turn out?
I'm an adult. I don't need to be reminded like a child. I've NEVER encountered such behavior from any providers that I've seen.
One reminder (them, but usually me) on the day of confirming and obtaining their incall info is more than sufficient for me.
While I've NEVER been late to a date, your reminders after the scheduled start time has passed seem more appropriate.
Now if the provider needs to cancel, then they can contact me anytime before the date.
And remember, she said she does this in lieu of charging a deposit or collecting a cancellation fee. Seems like a good trade off for the client but your opinion is of course valid.
As a single Super Mom & head of my household it reassures the fact that the person is serious & if they have to cancel last minute I’m never struggling to collect a cancellation fee. If the gentleman is invested in the booking then there’s no reason to remind him. Do what works for you. This is not my only job/career, so we are all very different. I have jobs. If this was my only source of income I would operate differently.
As soon as start prepaying for food and gas, clothes that I will use at a later date will I drop a deposit on an escort. True many are reputable providers, yet unless you enjoy gambling and are good with losing a couple hundred I’ll stick to the sidelines. I along with many other have lost money after even reading spectacular reviews on providers. Count me out.
of saying, "You are keeping the deposit no matter what happens." This is yet another argument AGAINST giving deposits.
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First of all, I never ask for deposit. And secondly, I do not send out reminders for any session that I set up. The clients do not pay extra (Tip & Etc) for you to remind them (If the client truly wants to see you, then he would set the "DATE" and he would text you for the address and show up).
The last paragraph is something that interests me. Depending on our mode of communication, I'll let her know when I'm on my way to her. Sometimes traffic can prevent me from arriving on time and if she's reaching out to me via text message or email, while I'm driving, I won't get the message until I'm off the road. So, the only suggestion I have is to figure out an acceptable protocol for communication if the client is running late. For example, if we've been communicating via text message, would a phone call be ok if I'm stuck in traffic or something?
Or the Android equivalent? Either one lets you plug your smart phone into the car's infotainment system and pick up and send texts verbally.
First off, I live in the middle of no where, so there is no "traffic". LOL
If a gent is running late, which does happen, as long as he let's me know, no worries.
When I am touring honestly seldom happens, either. The last time I was in Madison, WI (I think!) I had a gent that was running late as he was actually out of state and did not know the area well. I think he booked 90 min, and we just shortened the visit to 60, so it worked out.
I just had a convo with a client about this and he said that the reminder messages also put his mind at ease knowing that I am a real person, which we know if becoming more difficult with all the scams out there.
I only wished you ventured out to the Northeast.
I will be in DC in May!!!
I enjoy your posts and it's important that we have female voices on this board like yourself, Holly etc. I hope you keep posting here often and best to you!
Agreed, one of the few female voices of reason.
AZ is right on the way! You’re just going to have to trust me on this, please don’t look at a map or anything.
I’m in Boston will see you for multiple hours. I will send a txt to express sincerity. You’ll crush it in Boston
Looking forward to it and to meeting you.
Keep in mind that sometimes replying to a message can be difficult. For example, if I am driving I can't reply to a message on my burner phone. So if I've been delayed by traffic on the way to an appointment, I try to let my date know, but sometimes its hard.
I don't text while driving. I mean I've had to in certain cases, but I know my lack of attention to the road is risky.
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I'll generally text "enroute" when I start the journey. The next time I text I'll have arrived. For pros in town that time gap is about 30 minutes. For some sugar babes I've met out of town that can stretch to about an hour drive.
I do not do appointment reminders. For the simple fact that it waste or delays time with my clients. If the client can't remember when he set a date with me then apparently he truly does not want the services. Or he can tip me just for reminding him.