I also think there is some truth to everything you've posted and that at some point in time, most of us have been guilty of one of the above. I got into the business because I was lazy and did not want to work for peanuts 40 hours a week, but can't say I feel that way now. In fact, I can't wait to start a job that helps me reach my real life goals career wise, and lets me take a step back from some of the poison associated with this business.  

Nope...not a nympho at all, and don't care if I ever have a BF or husband again....it simply does not rate up there with the things I want in my life, though I would not block an attempt at love if it was on my terms, which are pretty damn insane. I've never hated men or needed a way to get back at them, because "men" have never done a damn thing to me that I did not ALLOW to happen. People who blame others for their depression, are deluded.  

So yes, for me it was about the money and not much else. I don't need attention or approval from married men...actually, I find it appalling whilst in public to see men look at me when they are not paying for it. I am grateful for the true friends I have made here, but can't say that was the primary motivation for coming here...it was the money.  

I've never been one to sit on these boards and kiss ass for business telling the boys what they want to hear. No, I won't swallow your damn spunk, it does NOT taste good, and I won't lick your ass or do Privates to Privates massage, regardless of how much you're paying. No, it does not turn me on to see a hairy back or have some guy sweating on me, but I am sure others will be glad to perpetuate such bs to get more business because they have to.  

If I sound bitter, think again. I am simply honest and have zero tolerance for the pretentious bs some people portray assuming guys don't see right through it.

Providers Rock

They do it for any of the reasons listed, plus, possibly 1,000 other reasons.

But it is workl. Sex isn't the only part of it. Marketing, (which is extremely difficult when you factor in the amazing ladies we're competing with,) targeting the right audience, continually having to look perfect, (fun, but can get annoying sometimes,) always having sex - but always having in mind what the man is going to kiss and tell on reviews, researching cities, busiest times, slow times, what the market is, who the consumer is in what area, etc. Strategic planning... marketing... acquiring a skill set... the big gulp when some dude comes in smelling and you have to tell him to shower... all of that is work. This 'job' is on my mind all the time. I'm consumed in planning and thoughts of how to improve.

I assume doing this is harder than many desk jobs out there.

It's a good learning experience for me. I thought the other day, "The day I get a man, I will always be sure to look and perform like a provider so he doesn't ever have to go to one." I think this may actually give me a greater appreciation for my role in a man's life.

When I get old? Dump his ass because lots of old dudes see us. lol. Or join in, haha.

So, whatever reason I do it, I feel pretty damned good about myself as a person no matter what I do, (unless I'm in the Mafia killing people). Not so good that I feel better than anyone else, rather good enough to be content enough in who I am so I can enjoy my life, while helping others enjoy theirs in and out of the provider world.

You don't make anything , create anything , so your not fulfilled , you don't need therapy , you need to find something that really makes you happy and when you do the rest falls into place . You like many others here are just looking for love in all the wrong places ! Hey , good luck to you .  

Posted By: Ridgetucky

**This will be may last post for a while**  Why?  Why not?  
   
 I am seriously considering leaving the Finance industry to become a teacher.  I need to take a break from all the bullshit and I realize some of it may be hobby related.  A high stress job has led me to this lifestyle and I probably need a break and I am considering going back into therapy.  
   
 Writing dirty words hookers bodies' is probably NOT normal  
   
 So with that being said.  I will start of by asking my question of "What do you really think about Providers?"  Since everyone seems to think I hate Providers.  
   
 My thoughts and then you join in, Um OK.  
   
 *  I have always wondered why a woman would do this.  1/2 do it for the $$$ and the other 1/2 do it for the same reasons I do.  They have something to prove.  What I don't know.    
   
 *  Some of these women have big egos and little egos at the same time.  They are very pretty but need the validation of a man paying them $$$ to accept their self worth.  
   
 *  About 10% of these women are true nymphs.  No one man could keep them satisfied.  
   
 *  Some of these women HATE men and this is a way to get back at them.    
   
 *  Some of these women are just too damn lazy to get a real job.  
   
 Your thoughts, Discuss amongst yourselves.  
   
 RT  
   
 

It's plainly obvious to anyone else that for you to show so much interest in the motivation of others it is only you with the deep seated insecurity regarding your delving into this realm. Your ego is too fragile to handle it. You're like 99% of men except you wear your issues like a highway billboard.

Good luck with the therapy.

How many doctors are in their profession for the money? I've sure as hell met a lot of them when going through my issues for years... hence, the reason I have over $100k in medical debt after paying tons already... because many were too lazy to find out what the hell was going on. Too many just throw medication at ppl for the symptoms, rather than finding the core issue.

Everyone, again, in every profession can either have good motives or bad motives. It has to do with what kind of person you are in general.

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I Love them?

I Love them more when they leave.  

I certainly can not even begin to answer why they do this. Nor can anyone
else as it is their choice and I am sure their reasons are valid.  

I do think it is a job and like any, there are bad days and good ones.
Many people do not like their job so I am sure it is the same in this industry.

I do not think the "professional" ladies should ever question or feel bad
about themselves choosing this line of work. Being good at sex and providing
companionship is really "a gift" no different than being able to throw a good curve ball. LOL

Good Luck RT
 

Posted By: Ridgetucky

**This will be may last post for a while**  Why?  Why not?  
   
 I am seriously considering leaving the Finance industry to become a teacher.  I need to take a break from all the bullshit and I realize some of it may be hobby related.  A high stress job has led me to this lifestyle and I probably need a break and I am considering going back into therapy.  
   
 Writing dirty words hookers bodies' is probably NOT normal  
   
 So with that being said.  I will start of by asking my question of "What do you really think about Providers?"  Since everyone seems to think I hate Providers.  
   
 My thoughts and then you join in, Um OK.  
   
 *  I have always wondered why a woman would do this.  1/2 do it for the $$$ and the other 1/2 do it for the same reasons I do.  They have something to prove.  What I don't know.    
   
 *  Some of these women have big egos and little egos at the same time.  They are very pretty but need the validation of a man paying them $$$ to accept their self worth.  
   
 *  About 10% of these women are true nymphs.  No one man could keep them satisfied.  
   
 *  Some of these women HATE men and this is a way to get back at them.    
   
 *  Some of these women are just too damn lazy to get a real job.  
   
 Your thoughts, Discuss amongst yourselves.  
   
 RT  
   
 

OK, I'll bite. I was a photographer for decades, and worked with a lot of very talented ad agency people. How do they compare to providers? Let's use your list.

*  I have always wondered why a woman would do this.  1/2 do it for the $$$ and the other 1/2 do it for the same reasons I do.  They have something to prove.  What I don't know.  

Lots of art directors would rather be painters or illustrators, but the money in advertising is too good. Others have to prove that they're better than the rest (see #2).  
 
*  Some of these women have big egos and little egos at the same time.  They are very pretty but need the validation of a man paying them $$$ to accept their self worth.  

I've seen egos the size of the Rock of Gibraltar. Also seen people who need the same sort of kudos for good work. If you don't compliment them, they fall apart.  
 
*  About 10% of these women are true nymphs.  No one man could keep them satisfied.

I never fucked an art director, so I can't speak to that one.
 
*  Some of these women HATE men and this is a way to get back at them.  

Some of the creatives hate everybody. They use their position of power to make others miserable.
 
*  Some of these women are just too damn lazy to get a real job.  

Many of the creatives I worked with couldn't solve for X if the equation was X + 2 = 3. They're not smart enough to be engineers or MBA's, and not physically strong enough to be tradesmen.  

What you've described is pretty much true for any profession. There's all sorts of motivations. I don't know that there's anything particularly unusual about providers, except that our society makes the profession illegal and applies a stigma to the people who work in the trade. If it were legal and accepted, nobody would give it a second thought.

I've given this a lot of thought. When I was in my 20's, there's no way I could have had sex with a 40-60 year-old woman. I have to give the providers credit for what they'll put up with.

I've also realized that their job is like a musician's or artist's or actor's. Their job is to make people happy. How many of us can say that we're paid to make people happy, and that we're successful at doing so? Damn few of us.  

I'm new at this forum, and I'm having a hard time figuring out what's going on. There's a bunch of guys here who frequent providers, and then spend most of their time on this forum bashing providers. It makes no sense.

But I do think of the idea of a world without them. I was going to post about it but I see the responses some guys get including Udo and this guy.

But would had happen being born or waking up to a world where no female would have chosen be one. Then I think of the civies around, family, school, work, friends , etc. I've found out is the rest of the female population who put down the providers. Men don't do it when they're among men  
But anyway, I don't know why or how they're able to go the that other supposedly extreme of the spectrum.... blah blah blah. I don't even believe in the idea that some women won't take the money to have sex with anybody. But some probably sure do.

I don't care why they  or how. I'm glad they're there. Cause that's how I get what I need when I want it. A better question would be how some can charge so little like between $55 and $120? They cater to the poor of us. To many questions about everything in the world.  
Now I don't ask. I don't care. What is is. There are providers in the world, use them.

Somebody please post that question. What would happen if there were no providers. I don't want to go back to being the village idiot. Well, not here at least.

That ur second and third options are correct

All studies point to your 2nd, 4th n 5th options(asterisks)

…all the time.  For the higher-end, much-sought-after providers, travel can often = one multi-day date in some desirable venue (often outside the US), in which case the client is going to be paying for airfare (often business-class or better) on top of whatever the donation is for the provider's time (on the plus side for the hobbyist, if the location is someplace the provider has a particular interest in visiting, she may be very negotiable on her rate)--and in some cases there is a "shopping budget" in those multi-day getaways on top of everything else.

For some providers, travel = touring.  This often means a higher rate charged by the provider (usually, it's the Detroit provider who is visiting LA or NY, not the other way around, y'know?).  So again, part of the cost of airfare/hotel is recaptured by charging the higher rate--and generally this kind of travel also means free time in a nice city and upscale hotel, which makes it easy for the provider to visit civvie friends and stuff (I don't know exactly why this is, but every provider has friends spread out over every major urban area in the country, more or less).

And then there are the providers who want a true vacation, and just want to take a couple of weeks and "get away from it all".  If they have a IRL SO, sometimes he goes with--sometimes he doesn't, either because of work or other commitments, or because she simply doesn't want to have to be concerned with pleasing any man at all for a little bit (most providers whom I know reasonably well seem to place a high value on their "me time"/"alone time").

So that's my take:  For most providers, the money is good and (one way or another) they get to do a lot of travel, often at "free" or effectively reduced rates.  If you're a young, fairly attractive woman with some amount of ability in the "people-reading" department, and can handle the idea of having strange men touch you, why not consider being a provider as a possible career?

I think hookers represent an honorable and ancient profession.  Unlike those in the finance industry

 As individuals they represent a vast divirsity of humankind much like any large segment of humanity.

BTW...I think going back in therapy is probably a good idea. Defaulting to the teaching profession....not so much .

Why do you insist on proving that, You are a shit head with every on of you posts?

You need to go into therapy, you do have a serious problem.

I do this because for me it is a calling. I have an incredible capacity to love just about anyone. I can elicit any possible chemistry and magnify it when it exists, and create it where it doesn't. Truly create it- to the point that my body responds as if it were the most natural chemistry in the world. I see beauty in almost everyone, and I love to reflect that beauty back to them. I have rarely been as fulfilled in any other endeavor. I believe what we do is an art. I also know that I am not typical.  

A big ego is just a sign of insecurity. Have compassion for those ladies.  

I love providers- all of them. They are the most honest, resourceful, strong, and stalwart people I have met in any career. They are less likely to cave to convention than most other people, and more likely and able to live their lives for themselves. I've also met a couple crazy ones among us, but god love 'em too.  

We all have any number of reasons for why we do this. Both the providers and the providees. But truthfully, no matter the reason, aren't you happy we're here?

They make good friends.

Well, some of them anyhow.
I've met a few that have hearts bigger than most people I know. ( London )
They are a little rough around the edges, but have to be to survive in this industry.
To be brutally honest though, we are paying them for a service. They expect us to buy and then move along....they have lives to live also.

Posted By: Ridgetucky

**This will be may last post for a while**  Why?  Why not?  
   
 I am seriously considering leaving the Finance industry to become a teacher.  I need to take a break from all the bullshit and I realize some of it may be hobby related.  A high stress job has led me to this lifestyle and I probably need a break and I am considering going back into therapy.  
   
 Writing dirty words hookers bodies' is probably NOT normal  
   
 So with that being said.  I will start of by asking my question of "What do you really think about Providers?"  Since everyone seems to think I hate Providers.  
   
 My thoughts and then you join in, Um OK.  
   
 *  I have always wondered why a woman would do this.  1/2 do it for the $$$ and the other 1/2 do it for the same reasons I do.  They have something to prove.  What I don't know.    
   
 *  Some of these women have big egos and little egos at the same time.  They are very pretty but need the validation of a man paying them $$$ to accept their self worth.  
   
 *  About 10% of these women are true nymphs.  No one man could keep them satisfied.  
   
 *  Some of these women HATE men and this is a way to get back at them.    
   
 *  Some of these women are just too damn lazy to get a real job.  
   
 Your thoughts, Discuss amongst yourselves.  
   
 RT